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HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOUR MAN IS A CLOSET GAY ?

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Outski

I gotta admit even with my comments on the matter there wasn't much feedback except for Jamie. Guess a man being a closet gay is big news to women after all to be out in the open.

Us blokes " O your a lesbian, kewl can we get a 3some"
Women " Your what? get away from me, get the F away from me"
I have been reading Jamies posts
My view is he may be a bit abrasive at times but in my opinion I am yet to see anything he has written that would even come close to offending a sane, rational, logical, grounded & reasonable human being.
 
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SilverSurfer44

Listens to male music, looks at men when out, maybe other signs on othing, likes attention dreses and groom highly. Perfect looking
 
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Annoyance

From experience I find men take it hard but forgive eventually if she's sleeping with another women. Cause men's fantasy WWM 3some.
Where as with women I found in most cases they lose their minds. And drop the F-bomb. As not many women are into gay porn so it hits them emotionally harder.

Do you know if 2 women kiss in the streets no one really cares, but if 2 men decide to do it the amount of dirty looks they get is unbelievable especially from the women around them.
 
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Annoyance

I have been reading Jamies posts
My view is he may be a bit abrasive at times but in my opinion I am yet to see anything he has written that would even come close to offending a sane, rational, logical, grounded & reasonable human being.
It's called striking a nerve, and ppl lose their shet. It's like putting a Chauvinist and a feminist in the same room and expect them to come to some sort of conclusion. When an argument is lost either side will dribble on and on till they win that argument. Simple.
There are those in the middle that mediate but depending on the situation they might join their same sex and fight to prove that point.
 
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Ciao Baby

I have been reading Jamies posts
My view is he may be a bit abrasive at times but in my opinion I am yet to see anything he has written that would even come close to offending a sane, rational, logical, grounded & reasonable human being.
Cheers mate,
It has become apparent 2 me of late that this forum has become nothing more than a vehicle 4 working girls 2 vent their frustration 4 their own self disappoint shortcomings & self sabotaging & 2 make things even worst it gives the feebleminded Muppets (No need 2 mention any names) a percieved opening 2 score points & get in a girls good books.
I think you hit the nail on the head with the 'sane rational grounded human being bit 2 b honest tho 👍
 

John Smithl

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"Katrina Kiss
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What i am wondering is why do people keep it a secret , that they like more flavours than one, most do, The ? I have spoken to people in relationships about them finding out their partner has been keeping this a secrete & they are devastated & confused as to why they were not upfront with them 7 feel like they do not even know the person anymore. If the person they are with can't accept the true version of them , they are with the wrong person. So why keep the secret ?
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People keep secrets since they may feel deep shame about things.
Shame is such a core wound to self.

Guilt isn't quite as deep, yet can be an offshoot of shame.

 
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Ciao Baby

What i am wondering is why do people keep it a secret , that they like more flavours than one, most do, The ? I have spoken to people in relationships about them finding out their partner has been keeping this a secrete & they are devastated & confused as to why they were not upfront with them 7 feel like they do not even know the person anymore. If the person they are with can't accept the true version of them , they are with the wrong person. So why keep the secret ?
People keep secrets since they may feel deep shame about things.
Shame is such a core wound to self.

Guilt isn't quite as deep, yet can be an offshoot of shame.

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Seriously has any1 ever met or even heard of sum1 they actually know in real life being a "closet gay" as KK so eloquently put it?
I know I haven't.
 

John Smithl

Legend Member
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People keep secrets since they may feel deep shame about things.
Shame is such a core wound to self.

Guilt isn't quite as deep, yet can be an offshoot of shame.

Seriously has any1 ever met or even heard of sum1 they actually know in real life being a "closet gay" as KK so eloquently put it?
I know I haven't.
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I don't know of this happening either.
 
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Annoyance

In days gone past being Gay was taboo,Now he is openly gay but unfortunately doesn't see his children.
And this is why being openly gay doesn't work and men keep it a secret, if "It's so very different in today's society which is wonderful" . Then the poor man who is divorced now, must be allowed to see his children but he can't because we're still living in the era of Gay being taboo with women.
 

Down boy

Gold Member
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People keep secrets since they may feel deep shame about things.
Shame is such a core wound to self.

Guilt isn't quite as deep, yet can be an offshoot of shame.

Seriously has any1 ever met or even heard of sum1 they actually know in real life being a "closet gay" as KK so eloquently put it?
I know I haven't.
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I do. Took him 25 years to come out. He’s finally happy.
 
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Annoyance

If the person they are with can't accept the true version of them , they are with the wrong person. So why keep the secret ?
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If someone straight on your first date that they are into you but openly tell you he's gay at the same time. Are you willing to take that chance and date him anyway? It's not something a man is comfortable with let alone share with the opposite sex about.

To us men here we're fine chatting and meeting up with a WL or dinner or fun, just to get this out in the open. Now my simple double edge sword equal to the discomfort of a man openly admitting his gay.

( To the Masses of society reaction not us here) Now how willing are you to openly tell your date or Bf down the line that your a WL? Same feeling same reaction I bet, and why keep it a secret. And we all know the reaction a standard male of society will react.

There are topics women feel men are crude in asking but the same can be applied to this topic, that this is crude for women to be asking.
You definitely opened a can of worms @Katrina Kiss here.
 
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Ciao Baby

If the person they are with can't accept the true version of them , they are with the wrong person. So why keep the secret ?
If someone straight on your first date that they are into you but openly tell you he's gay at the same time. Are you willing to take that chance and date him anyway? It's not something a man is comfortable with let alone share with the opposite sex about.

To us men here we're fine chatting and meeting up with a WL or dinner or fun, just to get this out in the open. Now my simple double edge sword equal to the discomfort of a man openly admitting his gay.

( To the Masses of society reaction not us here) Now how willing are you to openly tell your date or Bf down the line that your a WL? Same feeling same reaction I bet, and why keep it a secret. And we all know the reaction a standard male of society will react.

There are topics women feel men are crude in asking but the same can be applied to this topic, that this is crude for women to be asking.
You definitely opened a can of worms @Katrina Kiss here.
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Amen.
 
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Annoyance

I do. Took him 25 years to come out. He’s finally happy.
Ok that is 1
so anyone else?
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I met a few gay men in my life even a few that tried to chase me but honestly refused.
 
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Ciao Baby

Ok that is 1
so anyone else?
I met a few gay men in my life even a few that tried to chase me but honestly refused.
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Yes and I am sure we are all aware that there are plenty of gay men out there however to stay on thread this discussion is about "closet gays" 👍
 
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Ciao Baby

Just out of interest has anyone ever personally known or met a "closet lesbian"?
 
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Ciao Baby

Re-read it slowly!
Re write it but for once try injecting some logic rationale sense & reason.
Who knows if u follow this advice u may 1 day write something besides meaningless nonsensical gibberish that may even b worth reading? 😉
 

Phoebe

Some Village lost an Idiot!
Legend Member
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Re write it but for once try injecting some logic rationale sense & reason.
Who knows if u follow this advice u may 1 day write something besides meaningless nonsensical gibberish that may even b worth reading? 😉

Thanks... Maybe I need to talk like this to the audience at hand... ;)
 
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Ciao Baby

A wise man will listen to the opinions of others.
A fool will consider no opinion other than his own to even matter.
 
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Ciao Baby

It's called striking a nerve, and ppl lose their shet. It's like putting a Chauvinist and a feminist in the same room and expect them to come to some sort of conclusion. When an argument is lost either side will dribble on and on till they win that argument. Simple.
There are those in the middle that mediate but depending on the situation they might join their same sex and fight to prove that point.
From hereonin 2 b known as The cyber wannabe pack instinct 😀
 
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