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Dating a working lady (Advice please)

Re: Dating a working lady

When I realized everyone was just as average as I am... I knew I was a winner.
 
Vivien Langtrees said:
Suppose that makes me a pessimist now.
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Meh. Nothing wrong with that. ;)
Too much pressure to be positive. I'm a glass half empty (where the FUCK did that other half go?) type.
An optimist tackles the day with 'can do' attitude and a smile. A pessimists packs an umbrella... just in case. And when it does rain, the optimist can suck it.
 
BigMike said:
Meh. Nothing wrong with that. ;)
Too much pressure to be positive. I'm a glass half empty (where the FUCK did that other half go?) type.
An optimist tackles the day with 'can do' attitude and a smile. A pessimists packs an umbrella... just in case. And when it does rain, the optimist can suck it.
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I like it!

Miss Missy said:
The glass is half empty?
That means there's room for more rum!!
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I know a pirate that will be very happy with a comment like that! pirate.gif
 
In my view if I knew that my lady was a working lady that's all good but if I didn't that could be a little bit different but I sure that we could work things out
 
I just recently got back with my girl friend, after a break of about 7 months. She's a working girl too. I've always known she was, and she was always honest with me about her work, as we met as a client. I like her so much, and I know she feels the same about me, we get on well, and love each other's company, and are enjoying a healthy sex life.
I'm ok with most aspects of her work, I know it's just a job, but a few things I wouldn't be happy about, is if she ever offered unprotected sex, which she doesn't, but that's for her and me only, and I wouldn't be too keen on her doing over nighters, she works in a brothel, so very unlikely of this happening. I want to be the guy who she falls asleep and wakes up next to, not some random guy. For me, this is very personal, and something I can have with her, to myself.
My biggest issue at the moment with her work, is not with her having sex with other men, but I think it's the number of men she is seeing. If she has a busy day, she'll maybe see 7, 8 or 9 men on a day, and I guess that makes me feel a little awarkward knowing she is seeing that many men. I'd be much happier in my own mind if it was only about 4 men.
I just get a mental picture of seeing all those men lined up, and then me at the end. I know this is something I need to work through and deal with, as I know this is her job. I don't want her feeling off because I have a small issue with work, so I'll work through it.
I'd be interested in hearing if anyone else is in the same situation, or has any advice about my issue.
 
Ahoy;- well written, I think in time you will be more confident and handle your issue.
OK;- Lets be honest, 95% of W/L are in relationships, in one form or another and a large number of them have kids, so in plain english, they have BF,GF,Hubby, Fincere and kids.
Which means there are a lot of partners out there that can handle the situation and relationship, good luck in all you do
Cheers and Pass the Rum

cammando755 said:
I just recently got back with my girl friend, after a break of about 7 months. She's a working girl too. I've always known she was, and she was always honest with me about her work, as we met as a client. I like her so much, and I know she feels the same about me, we get on well, and love each other's company, and are enjoying a healthy sex life.
I'm ok with most aspects of her work, I know it's just a job, but a few things I wouldn't be happy about, is if she ever offered unprotected sex, which she doesn't, but that's for her and me only, and I wouldn't be too keen on her doing over nighters, she works in a brothel, so very unlikely of this happening. I want to be the guy who she falls asleep and wakes up next to, not some random guy. For me, this is very personal, and something I can have with her, to myself.
My biggest issue at the moment with her work, is not with her having sex with other men, but I think it's the number of men she is seeing. If she has a busy day, she'll maybe see 7, 8 or 9 men on a day, and I guess that makes me feel a little awarkward knowing she is seeing that many men. I'd be much happier in my own mind if it was only about 4 men.
I just get a mental picture of seeing all those men lined up, and then me at the end. I know this is something I need to work through and deal with, as I know this is her job. I don't want her feeling off because I have a small issue with work, so I'll work through it.
I'd be interested in hearing if anyone else is in the same situation, or has any advice about my issue.
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You are right happy pirate, I'm sure there are lots of partners out there.
In time I'm sure I'll be ok, she's too good a girl to not be with, so I'll work through it, and really, it's a minor issue I think.
It does take a bit of a mind shift though to be in a relationship with a wl. I'm sure until you are actually in one, and experience it, you don't really know what it's like. That was def the case for me.
 
There are many interesting opinions here.
As a W/L I would not commit to a relationship. A normal relationship takes work and commitment and that is hard enough with out these kind of complications.
A lot of girls do however some secretly but then that leads to lying and secretive meetings. Not a great way to start a relationship xx
 
Vivien@Langtrees said:
There are many interesting opinions here.
As a W/L I would not commit to a relationship. A normal relationship takes work and commitment and that is hard enough with out these kind of complications.
A lot of girls do however some secretly but then that leads to lying and secretive meetings. Not a great way to start a relationship xx
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Do you see the main reasons for a relationship, as to not having enough time to put into it, or is it more the nature of your work, in that you are having sex with other men, so you are not exclusive with your partner?
This is such an interesting topic, with many varied opinions. I know my girlfriend, is a little jealous of the thought of me with another women, yet she sleeps with other men on a regular basis, that sounds confusing doesn't it ...... Lol. I guess for her she doesn't really get to choose, where as I would be able to.
 
cammando755 everyone has their own reasons for not having a relationship while working.
I myself believe first of all in monogamy within a committed relationship but as the years go by I don't know if I will ever have another relationship.
I spend many years raising my children by myself then married again some years ago. My husband was very high maintenance so I find I am really enjoying having my own life unencumbered by a man or children. I have all this time to do what I want and as each day passes I find I enjoy it more and more.
Society seems to be travelling in a different direction now days. Women are truly becoming more empowered and are choosing to be single. I have so many friends who have left marriages of 20 years or more. Their kids had flown the coop and they look at their husbands and realise that the only thing they have in common were the kids.
 
Vivien@Langtrees said:
cammando755 everyone has their own reasons for not having a relationship while working.
I myself believe first of all in monogamy within a committed relationship but as the years go by I don't know if I will ever have another relationship.
I spend many years raising my children by myself then married again some years ago. My husband was very high maintenance so I find I am really enjoying having my own life unencumbered by a man or children. I have all this time to do what I want and as each day passes I find I enjoy it more and more.
Society seems to be travelling in a different direction now days. Women are truly becoming more empowered and are choosing to be single. I have so many friends who have left marriages of 20 years or more. Their kids had flown the coop and they look at their husbands and realise that the only thing they have in common were the kids.
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I understand what you're saying Viv, my ex left me after 22 years, not because I was high maintenance ;-) but because she wanted to be single. I'm sure you understand when you invest so many years of yourself into a relationship only to find the other person didn't appreciate it, you wonder if you ever want to risk another one or can trust again.
 
I'll tell you right now NO wife/girlfried/partner of mine will be a working hooker or stripper.
 
If all the colourful descriptions and justifications are taken out.....its just simply not nice to know that a woman one loves is having sex with lots of other men.
 
Ahoy, all the women I know, have sex with lots of Men and some Women.
Ohhhh I have never been in luv with any of them
Cheers and Pass the Rum

Yoda said:
If all the colourful descriptions and justifications are taken out.....its just simply not nice to know that a woman one loves is having sex with lots of other men.
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Mr Right or Star Punter might be handing over the ca$h for some "Paid" love.
 
Ahoy Yoda, I agree with you.
But;- I am an Old Ugly Pirate, the only way a women would get near meeeeeee
Is I pay them from my Treasure chest.
It works for me and 100`s of guys with disabilities.
Cheers and Pass the Rum

Yoda said:
Paid love is just artificial sweetener. Not real. Not healthy. Just occasional fun food.
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Well Bro pirate. Man's gotta eat at the end day I suppose.

There are times when we all have to settle for canned and frozen cuisines and take out when organic home grown meals aren't available ;)
 
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Agree Col. They seem real and can be delicious. But I for one can't make it a staple diet. Still need the home cooked meals more.
 
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I'm hearing you Dallas.
I made the dating mistake again only days ago. A gentlemen asked me out on a date. I was very flattered and accepted the invitation.
BUT he was no gentleman. First date there were the sexual innuendo's. Then I received a text last night full of sexual innuendo again and his need for sexual pleasure.
He knows I work at Langtrees etc so I can only conclude that because I work in the sex industry sex is expected immediately. I liked this guy and wonder if he would have acted in this manner if I did not work in this industry.
Anyway it has only strengthen my thoughts on dating while in the sex industry. Oh and by the way this guy can go f... himself
 
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