Sex - Are you addicted

inquisitive

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I have been trying to decide if I am addicted to sex, the desire to be with a women, am I just self indulgent or do I just have a higher appetite than what is considered normal. Would you forego all other things to satisfy your desire, sometimes I have.
The question I have of both the men and women on the forum is how do each of the genders view their position in this regard.

Because of your interest in sex, is it the reason you are all here discussing the subject and does it satisfy your needs or do you need more than talk. When does pursuing sex become an obsession or addiction.
The obvious answer is that all men are addicted to sex but is it the case. To be a working lady do you to need to have a higher libido that cannot be fulfilled otherwise or is it just a business being conducted in an area you enjoy for most of the time, like any other job.
 

TheCock

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I have a huge sex drive and to be completely honest my appetite is never satiated,,in my private life I have difficulty finding a man whose libido matches mine and this has caused partners to distrust me when I am out on a social level though I don't cheat on whomever I am with...

I WOULD LOVE A GIRL WITH HIGH LIBIDO!!!!!! But that means 5 orgasms a day minimum using varied techniques....I find it hard to find a girl with this high libido :(
 

inquisitive

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Tania thanks for the comments. You say your appetite is never satiated does this apply even after a very rewarding encounter where you achieve multiple orgasms of all types and intensity. Is your mind always thinking of the next encounter and when it will be, even while you are enjoying the present. If so, is this an addiction or is it that the pleasure is just so great you have to go there again. If not, what would you class as an addiction.
 

SAO26.2

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Addiction is when you don't want to do something but can't stop yourself from doing it anyway. As long as you want to do something and only do it when you want to do it, enjoy it.
 
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Ava Valentine

I WOULD LOVE A GIRL WITH HIGH LIBIDO!!!!!! But that means 5 orgasms a day minimum using varied techniques....I find it hard to find a girl with this high libido :(

Personally, for me, it's the quality of an orgasm rather than the quantity that is most important. I am lucky enough to be multi-orgasmic, however I find that often the most satisfying sex results in one intense, toe curling, scream inducing, goosebump worthy orgasm, rather than numerous orgasms.

Back to the topic at hand (great topic Inquisitive!)- I think an addiction only becomes an addiction when it means that you cannot function on a day to day/week to week basis without it. That said, I don't think all addictions are "bad", I think society has conditioned to associated the word "addiction" is associated with vices such as nicotine, alcohol, gambling etc. I've studied so called "sex addiction" in depth during my sexology units, and I genuinely believe that this term has been created in order for therapists to make more money off of perfectly normal clientele- they create a problem out of something which I do not think of as problematic. Sex is a healthy, normal human/animal function, it is society who has turned it into a vice. Masturbation can be seen as an addiction, but only when it is threatening to the individuals health or social life (ie: subject doesn't want to socialise because they want to stay home and masturbate, blisters can form on the penis due to over masturbating etc).

What is indulgence? To some it may be a bar of chocolate every week, or a few hours of trashy television- to others it may be a new boat, a handbag, or a beautiful woman to share some sensual time with. It's all about your own personal context. I genuinely believe that if you are blessed enough to indulge, whether it be a $1.95 bar of chocolate or an $800 escort, then why not? It's all about balance. I find that balance is important in my life as it allows me to appreciate what I am indulging in. We only appreciate the wonderful warmth of the sun because we have experienced the darkest of nights.

Punting is only an addiction when it becomes compulsive and other aspects of your life (family, bank balance, social life etc) begin to suffer. If you can keep a healthy and happy balance, then why not spend time with the lady of your choice on a weekly/monthly/yearly basis. It all depends on the person and their own personal context.

In terms of libido, I think you'll find that all ladies in this industry are different. Some ladies may not have a high libido, but are highly social human beings and manage to make that part of the industry their forte. Others may have very high libidos and see a high quantity of clientele, and may not focus as heavily on the social aspect. Some may have the perfect balance. Others may be in it purely for the money, or the experience. I think assuming one needs a high libido to be in this industry is like assuming an accountant must have a love of maths. It's a huge generalisation that focuses on only a very small part of this job. The largest sex organ is the brain. For me, the key aspect of this industry isn't sex or libido, its about connection. If you can find that spark, that intense connection with your client, then no matter how low your libido may be that day/week/month, you will have mind blowing sex. Guaranteed.
 

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Ava for one quite young your written response was extremely well written and indicates a young woman who is genuinely in touch with life, people and emotions. I have no doubt that as the reviews all appear to indicate not only do you provide a superior service, your intellect must be also incredibly sexy!!!
 
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Tania Admin

Tania thanks for the comments. You say your appetite is never satiated does this apply even after a very rewarding encounter where you achieve multiple orgasms of all types and intensity. Is your mind always thinking of the next encounter and when it will be, even while you are enjoying the present. If so, is this an addiction or is it that the pleasure is just so great you have to go there again. If not, what would you class as an addiction.

'I think it's that the pleasure is so great I have to go there again...
 
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Tania Admin

I WOULD LOVE A GIRL WITH HIGH LIBIDO!!!!!! But that means 5 orgasms a day minimum using varied techniques....I find it hard to find a girl with this high libido :(

We are out there,,perhaps you are looking inn the wrong places..
 

svengali

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Yep. The lovely Ava has nailed it.

"Addiction" is a term which gets thrown around a lot and is often mistakenly used to describe people who are merely particularly enthusiastic about something. You wouldn't say that Chris Judd is addicted to football - he puts a lot of effort into it and probably enjoys what he is doing but that is all. It is his job and he is fortunate enough to be passionate about it.

An activity only becomes an addiction when it takes over someone's life and becomes an all-consuming need which must be fulfilled at any cost so the test is the level of compulsion. When something non-essential, an indulgence if you like, elbows its way into being a "need" rather than a "want" and starts taking priority over essentials like family, work etc then it is well on its way to being an addiction.
 

Happy2

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I have to agree with both sven an SAO If sex has become an addiction The pleasure factor has to be lowered as you are just trying to get your next fix, unlike wanting to have a hour of fun
And there is a hell of a difference between a high libido and sex drive and a All consuming need
 
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Tania Admin

I have to agree with both sven an SAO If sex has become an addiction The pleasure factor has to be lowered as you are just trying to get your next fix, unlike wanting to have a hour of fun
And there is a hell of a difference between a high libido and sex drive and a All consuming need

Hmmm maybe for some,,my pleasure factor isn't lowered and I thouroughly enjoy each moment..As for an all consuming need,,have you ever quit smoking? the freight train in your head is antagonising, well majority of the time I feel this about sex,,but again every interaction is enjoyed to the full and I am lucky enough to be able to climax very often, and alot of the time each climax with the one person becomes more intense as our bodies learn to respond to each others needs and wants..
 

Happy2

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I see your point Tania But from my viewpoint You seem like a girl with a very high libido/sex drive. To me that is far more healthy than an addiction For most people an addiction no longer provides pleasure just a fix to get you through
Not wording this well But hey I'm just a common ol cockie trying to word something rather complicated
As for smoking I was hooked by the old cancer stick, and getting over the withdrawals was a bitch Nearly as bad as living in Adelaide for a week
 
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Tania Admin

I have this theory about sex,,,,,The way the human body functions, Do you use your hands once a day? Your heart, liver kidneys once a day? Your feet, legs, arms, mouth, sense of smell etc once a day? Every part of the human body is used everyday and as a constant, it helps us function correctly, produces chemicals that help us function normally. Well I think our genitals are the same,,why would they be different? I am much happier and can function better when I have lots of sex, the endorphins produced are necessary to keep my body and mind running all in tune..That's my theory anyway, to me it makes a damn lot of sense :)
 

TheCock

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Personally, for me, it's the quality of an orgasm
Punting is only an addiction when it becomes compulsive and other aspects of your life (family, bank balance, social life etc) begin to suffer.

:eek:

How many quality orgasms can you have a day??
 

TheCock

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I have this theory about sex,,,,,The way the human body functions, Do you use your hands once a day? Your heart, liver kidneys once a day? Your feet, legs, arms, mouth, sense of smell etc once a day? Every part of the human body is used everyday and as a constant, it helps us function correctly, produces chemicals that help us function normally. Well I think our genitals are the same,,why would they be different? I am much happier and can function better when I have lots of sex, the endorphins produced are necessary to keep my body and mind running all in tune..That's my theory anyway, to me it makes a damn lot of sense :)

I love your attitude. :D
 
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Saige

That's like asking how many genuine laughs can I have a day- it all depends on the mood, the day, the feeling.

Surely with your studies you would have alot of knowledge in the this area hunni.....school us up:)

And agreed Tania, you seem to be have a healthy, high sex drive, even if like a few of us lucky ones much higher then most.

This is interesting...
n the time since revelations of Tiger Woods' extramarital activities first surfaced, armchair psychologists have thrown around the term "sex addict" to explain the legendary golfer's behavior. And leading in to his public apology, Woods was reported to be attending a clinic to "treat" a sex addiction. But chronically hooking up with nightclub hotties on the road doesn't necessarily mean someone is addicted to sex, experts say.
Addicts' behaviors are compulsive and escalating, and continue despite negative consequences, says Sharon O'Hara, the clinical director of the Sexual Recovery Institute in Los Angeles. O'Hara, who's treated sex addicts for almost two decades, says their actions take over their minds, causing sleeplessness, anxiety, and a loss of focus at work. There's also a great sense of shame because often their behaviors go against their personal beliefs and values. This can lead to severe depression.
"Sex addicts live lives of deception," O'Hara says. When they're out seeking sex, they often enter a dissociative state, almost as if they've gone through a door into another world, she says. After their craving is satisfied, they shut the door and return to their families. "When they become concerned with keeping their second life from others, this leads to guilt."
But it can be hard to resist the temptation. The chemical changes in sex addicts' brains are the same as people with other addictions. Sex addicts continue to seek out the "high" they experience, pursuing new women and, as that novelty dies out, more women. Despite the list of alleged mistresses, O'Hara says the Woods situation doesn't sound like sex addiction. "If I had to hazard a guess, I don't think it's sex he's really after. It would appear he's seeking adoration."
But right now, there simply isn't enough public information to accurately assess if Woods suffers from sexual addiction, O'Hara stresses. Regardless of Woods' actual state of mind, read on to discover one man's account of what sexual addiction is like.
The Crippling, Unquenchable Lust of Addiction
By Drew Dorr
The first time Jessica discovered the illicit phone records and receipts and a hard-drive history chockfull of indiscretions, we were in the midst of planning our wedding. She smashed a potted plant on the driveway and stormed off into the night; I stumbled after her and fell heavily against the hood of my car and thought, "Here we go again."
When she caught me again, only months later and after we had partially rebuilt what had been torn down, I was less prepared. Moments after she hung up on me, blinded with tears and wild with anguish, I unfastened my belt and strapped the cool leather around my neck. I mounted the swivel chair resting innocuously in front of my computer, the electronic diary of my transgressions, and placed the flat end of the belt between the door and the doorway. As I reached behind my head to tighten the belt, I heard the casters squeak against the linoleum.


Read more at Men's Health: http://www.menshealth.com/health/tiger-woods-sex-addict#ixzz1q8hXqpjw
 
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happytimes

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That's what i was thinking are you actually addicted to sex or is it just lust. Like the times in your life when your in the right place at the right time when you look across a bar or at a party and have eye contact with someone who just has those cum fuc me eyes.
So you end up in an all night sexathon which may have happened quiet a few times in your life, to me that is just lust, to have an addiction to sex i guess you could say we all have that in some sort of way, but it's not like an addiction to drugs or similar where like cocaine you spend as much money as you have on it.
Yeah theres been times in my life where i have spent shit loads of money on W/L's but it wasn't my number one priority and never has been
but yeah i don't think it's an addiction. Guess some will agree and some won't.
 

Justlookin

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I'm addicted to the thrill more than the actual sex. The excitement of seeing a girl I've never met before naked. Being intamet with a stranger being pampered by a stranger. It's all so exciting for me and I love the anticipation and feeling I get heading to an appointment and seeing her undress infrint of me. My heart is racing now just thinking about it!!!
 

ecchimiki

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I'm addicted to the thrill more than the actual sex. The excitement of seeing a girl I've never met before naked. Being intamet with a stranger being pampered by a stranger. It's all so exciting for me and I love the anticipation and feeling I get heading to an appointment and seeing her undress infrint of me. My heart is racing now just thinking about it!!!

Agreed. An encounter with a new person can get me giddy like a teenager all over again. The fact that (now in my 40s) I'd only ever been naked and intimate with one person up to recently, meant that I could relive being a gawky awkward virgin when I visited my first ever WL (the wonderful Saige).
 
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Steve Bond

Saige would be a great encounter. If you are able to visit Langtrees during the daytime you must make time for Talysha, Charlee and Abbi.
One, two or all three will blow everything off!!
 
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JoeBaker75

I have been trying to decide if I am addicted to sex, the desire to be with a women, am I just self indulgent or do I just have a higher appetite than what is considered normal...

It may sound funny, but for those whose lives are controlled by their insatiable desire for sex or love, it's anything but a laughing matter.
 

tidus

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Addicted to the thrill more than the actual sex. it's exciting whiling looking to the naked girl in front of you.
 
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bigkev68

When I am getting regular sex twice a week is enough, but when there is no regular sex on tap I want it every day.
 

Rochelle

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I'm addicted to the thrill more than the actual sex. The excitement of seeing a girl I've never met before naked. Being intamet with a stranger being pampered by a stranger. It's all so exciting for me and I love the anticipation and feeling I get heading to an appointment and seeing her undress infrint of me. My heart is racing now just thinking about it!!!

There is certainly something to it. I think that is one reason why I do like the job I am doing...........very sexy to undress and explore a total stranger.........plus this pleasure comes with no strings attached.
If that means addiction i am happy to admit to it ;)


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Bitoutthere

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I'm addicted to the thrill more than the actual sex. The excitement of seeing a girl I've never met before naked. Being intamet with a stranger being pampered by a stranger. It's all so exciting for me and I love the anticipation and feeling I get heading to an appointment and seeing her undress infrint of me. My heart is racing now just thinking about it!!!

I agree with justlooking, a guy (possibly girls to a lesser extent) dot generally want to cheat on their partners but sometimes the attraction to another female and the "wonder what she's like" or "man I would live to fuck her" thoughts can be hard to ignore. I've previously cheated with multiple women (all knew I was seeing other women) cause I love sex regardless of the woman's looks or attributes. The opportunity to "be with" another woman other than my wife was always a blind desire or urge.
I am and have been talking to this married woman I work with and I find her both gorgeous and sexy but also enjoy our conversations. We quite openly talk about our sex lives, partners fantasies and desires. In fact we have talked about doing a MFM experience with her husband and myself as she's done fmf and ff but never two guys. She's a lot more sexually active than her husband (probably due to him being away for work a lot). I've found myself wanting her to the point I would even consider cheating on my wife with her just to "have her".
 

Master Yoda

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That I can kinda relate to. ...sometimes the anticipation of having someone can be more interesting than the actual act of having her when it happens.
 
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