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My Life Sux

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9 months ago i suffered a nervous breakdown due to emotional trauma with working in emergency services, then marrage issuses,then work issues,then money issues,then living away from the family, lost contact with friends, even used to enjoy and r+t now and then, cant even enjoy that now due to nervous issues and medications and so on and so on.

Sorry but just had a gutsful.
 
Hey Bazz glad you found us.... maybe getting involved in this forum may be just the therapy you need... hope to hear more from you in the days ahead... don't give up... get chatting and make some new friends in here.
 
Thanks SirStefan,
maybe, just cant see any light at the end of the tunnel at the moment, no way out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
Bazz, I don't know who you are and I don't know where you are, but if you are anywhere near Perth then let me shout you a drink and see what I might be able to do to cheer you up a little?
 
Hey babe.. I went to send u a msg yesterday and didn't get around to it. Just to let u kno my offer still stands from our discussions a few months back.. Chin up babe, I know where you are coming from. I was on 200mg of zoloft only 2 yrs ago, and am now completely free of them... So there is light, u just have to keep positive. I know it sounds airy fairy, but if you can meditate and get to a good place as to why you are here and experiencing the hardship, you will move forward. I believe in past lives and re-incarnation, and feel we need to acknoweldge and understand past lives and lessons in order to move ahead in this life. I went to a psychic evening a few weeks ago, and we did a mediation where I met one of my guides. I swear when I got home I thought about him and talked to him and a few weird things happened to reinforce his position in my life. I know many people will think this is a load of bullocks, but I am dead serious. Anyway babe, if you need help or guidance, just pm me... Or help or guidance on that other level :-P xxxx
 
Great support you offered there HotSexy BBW.... I hope he takes you up on your kind offer...it could well prove to be his start to recovery... keep up your good work.
 
Thank you HotSexyBBW and Sir Stefan for your kind offers and words. The sane part of me would dearly love to get out and meet new people but the insane( nervous/anxiety) part of me will not let that happen. Believe me i have tried, but the panic attack and tremors kick in and its just too damn hard and embarassing.
 
I know it's hard, but in life you have choices. The power of the mind is phenomenal if you are able to harness that power and use it to your advantage. Maybe some hypnotherapy could help you? When I came off the zoloft, I went cold turkey from 200mg to 0 and my doctor was amazed. But it was mind over matter, I wanted to be free and I did it because I wanted different for myself. I hope this helps, pm me if u want to chat further xx
 
Hi Bazz, Sorry to hear you are at odds end. At times thru my life i have been thru similar circumstances.
Sometimes just taking a break from the everyday things you do helps.

I have always found that when that has happened to me someone or something has came into my life to change things.
At times not even realising at the time sometimes.

So i am a great believer that the old saying time heals everything.
It doesn't seem like much help at the time but you will get thru.

Just by posting your thoughts on here you have been given some very good advice and a welcome to share a drink with someone you don't know.
See there are still some very caring people around that will always try to help you out.

I think by just joining this site it has helped you. Give it time mate you will come thru it. Just a little advice that i can offer you, it's not much but as i said there are people here that seems like they are prepared to help you along. All the best for the future..
 
Hi Bazz, Sorry to hear what you are going through. Yes I do understand as I have also fallen in that dark void myself. Just take one step at at a time and stop and smell the flowers and eventually you too will see the birds again flying in the sky. It took me over 12 months before I looked up and marveled at a bird in flight.

There are many wonderful people hear who are willing to listen and talk to you if that's what you need. If nothing else looking at all the sexy remarks and pics is sure to help.

Take care, alas this lifestyle we now live people often have a small fallout.
:walk:
 
More good advice there from more caring people bazz, so please give life your best shot and get involved.
 
I think many of us ..at certain times in our lives find ourselves in those dark places. The thing is there is normally only one way and that is up. I suppose life is a test ...most of can pull ourselves back up, if not the outcome can be devastating. Some of us need a lift up. I hope that you can pull your self up sir. There are many on here that can lend an ear....and perhaps give you a push in the dright direction. Good luck to you young man.

Father John
 
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I always ask the internet when I'm struggling. Fuck professional counselors.
 
Agreed. Professional counsellors are more messed up than their clients half the time! You'd fare better with advice from pple on this forum, most definitely.. as from experience we live openly and honestly and those attributes enable you to help others and hold you in good stead in life :-) xxx
 
Thank you all for your support. Believe me i have tried and am trying but god im so tried and drained from fighting it. i just dunno anymore. Is it all worth it
 
Hi Bazz,

Only you can decide if it is all worth it, as value and effort in life is different for each person. I too have experienced diagnosed and medicated depression and anxiety conditions in the past. I have been medication free for a long long time now.

I don't want to blow smoke up your arse, or tell you it's easy, or even platitudes. What I can say is that once I decided that no-one else could fix me, except me, I turned a corner. I learned for myself that the panic attack wasn't going to kill me (yes it felt like it, but it really wasn't). I learned that the anxiety was a creation of my own mind and that I could get through it if I wanted to. How did I do this?

I stopped trying to control it. I just let myself have panic attacks when they showed up, I didn't run from them. I stopped caring what complete strangers thought of me and many is the time I stood in a shop with tears of pain and fear just running down my face. Eventually, they became less strong in intensity, and then they were further apart. Eventually they just didn't show up anymore.

I still have anxiety on occasion, but now I let myself feel anxious, I don't spray it on other people and try to use it for forward growth or movement.

These suggestions and techniques may not be for you, but they changed my life and the whole philosophy of allowing myself to feel unpleasant emotions and just let them stay is one I am still learning about and embracing in my life. It's funny how once you make something not wrong, it doesn't feel as awful.

Love
swingingstories
 
A sincere and heartfelt thanks to HotSexyBBW for takinG the time to talk via pm with me last night in my darkest hour. If is wasnt for her efforts i think i may not be here today.

After last nights mental battle woke up this morning without tremors and sweating from nightmares but feeling very tired and lost in life but its funny also feel somewhat at ease for the first time in a long time.

Hot Sexy BBW - i cannot thank you enough darling xxx
 
Hi Bazz, early days yet, but seems to me that you may now have experienced your 'darkest hour' ... in which case your have reached that 'turning point', where you stop going down.... from here hopefully, if you keep your focus, things will gradually start to become brighter... Stick to it, many in here are barracking for you...so please... don't let them down.
 
Bazz, I believe you have seen the light at the end of the trouble. I am sure somewhere deep within you there is the courage to fight on and once again enjoy life. It is wonderful to hear the progress you have made already even if just little steps. All of us at times are faced with obstacles we have to try to find the courage to go on.
Thank you for sharing. if you can do it we can we all can as well.
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Hi Bazz,Good to hear you are communicating with Hot.B.S.W.
Bazz are you in a position that you can take yourself away for a short holiday at all??
Sometimes getting away from everyone you know and going somewhere you have never been, could be a good thing for you.
Meeting some new friends could do you the world of good. Just a thought Bazz.
 
Well done Mate.... THAT is great news.....Keep it up (both your pecker and your chin)
 
Just when u think u may have turned the corner - wham kicked to the gutter again. I know life isnt supposed to be easy but its not supposed to be this unfair either.
 
Hi Bazz, Sorry to hear you are let down again. Life can dish out some very hard times to us all..
Sometimes it isn't fair but you still have to struggle on. What some things like this do to some of us is make us a much harder person.
Example trusting in others and becoming more aware of peoples agenda.

Though as much as it seems like things can't get better they always do.
Time is the biggest factor in my beliefs. It doesn't offer much comfort at the present time but look to the future and how you can improve your life.

Sometimes out of nowhere someone or somethings will change. As i said in my first post to you sometimes it is much better to take yourself right out of the picture and go for a holiday if that's possible, if not try and meet some different people. Take up the offer that was given to you.

You may find it very different then what you are expecting.
There are still some very genuine people out there that do care and you will find a few on here i am sure. At least you are talking about it on here and people are giving you support and different opinions. I know myself, i have had some very hard times thru the last 12 months.

Though thanks to some people that have been there for me as a true friends
i now find life is becomming easier everyday.You can't throw the towel in and give up you have to keep on trying, you will come out of it a much beter person and no one knows what is around the next corner. So hang in there mate,get away for awhile or take the offer you have had,buy you just have to battle on reguardless.
I am probably not telling you anything you don't already know, but there is help out there. Go seek it if you feel the need.What ever way you choose all the best and look back in 12months and see how things have changed
 
Thanks HappyTimes,
I have decided to take a week or two off to retreat to my familys sheep farm to take stock and get back to basics and will see how it goes.
 
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Thanks HappyTimes,
I have decided to take a week or two off to retreat to my familys sheep farm to take stock and get back to basics and will see how it goes.
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Thats great Bazz, hope all works out for you.Sounds like something you really need to do, all the best..
 
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