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I think I might have fucked up my relationship with my favorite WL

JayPerez1977

JayPerez1977

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Not sure if what I said or did made my provider uncomfortable. But I believe I might have done something by offering help to move financial and boxes. I recently moved,.have tons of boxes first she asked if I'm still had them, then she don't want them I try to make a booking and she says she will message me when she knows her schedule. Her adds are still on, haven't heard don't know if I should message or not.
 
JayPerez1977 said:
Not sure if what I said or did made my provider uncomfortable. But I believe I might have done something by offering help to move financial and boxes. I recently moved,.have tons of boxes first she asked if I'm still had them, then she don't want them I try to make a booking and she says she will message me when she knows her schedule. Her adds are still on, haven't heard don't know if I should message or not.
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You stored her belongings you mean? And helped clear money ?
How many times you tried to contact her?
 
No I didn't store anything I offered her my boxes from when I moved, after she asked me if I had boxes. I offered bro get them tomhwr place not her incall but to a distance as not to invade her privacy. I have sent her some money to help with her move.
And when I asked about booking her this twice. Haven't gotten a reply nor if it's gonna be possible to book this coming Thursday.
 
JayPerez1977 said:
Not sure if what I said or did made my provider uncomfortable. But I believe I might have done something by offering help to move financial and boxes. I recently moved,.have tons of boxes first she asked if I'm still had them, then she don't want them I try to make a booking and she says she will message me when she knows her schedule. Her adds are still on, haven't heard don't know if I should message or not.
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Sorry don't understand what you mean by "move financial and boxes". Please explain further.
 
I sent her a message asking how the house hunting is going, and I reminded her that Instill had lots of boxes if she needed them some didn't have ton spend on them.
 
joe12155 said:
Sorry don't understand what you mean by "move financial and boxes". Please explain further.
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I offered to giver her some of the empty boxes I have. I have sent her money since she hasn't been able to work. Financial help, boxes for the move. That's what I meant by help.with the move
 
JayPerez1977 said:
I sent her a message asking how the house hunting is going, and I reminded her that Instill had lots of boxes if she needed them some didn't have ton spend on them.
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She didn't want you to know her new address. That's why she wasn't interested in your help.
 
I was not going to go to her new address. It was to her old address. I just think by wanting not help I might have crossed a line cause I won't get a reply. I respect her privacy. When I offered to get her the boxes I said I will take them somewhere close to her place so I will never cross that line. One booking it could've been at her actual place I said I couldn't make it there due to time restrictions.
 
She's not your friend or partner that you should be getting worked up about mate. Even if u had a good thing going in the past, she has every right not to reply to you. Remember you were just one of her many customers....stop being so creepy.
 
Help is like feedback mate, it's only valuable when its asked for, agree with the others that you should stick to the parameters of the relationship, remember you are not her friend, and chit-chat at the end of a booking is just that

BTW, the chit-chat is usually the part that pisses me off, that's when you learn something that spoils what just happened, which as a bloke you feel compelled to try to help or fix. Keep the small talk light, and get out once jonny has spoken
 
I understand what your saying JayPerez but you need to stand off they're not really into the punter like a girl friens it's business for them.
 
Jimmy long said:
Help is like feedback mate, it's only valuable when its asked for, agree with the others that you should stick to the parameters of the relationship, remember you are not her friend, and chit-chat at the end of a booking is just that

BTW, the chit-chat is usually the part that pisses me off, that's when you learn something that spoils what just happened, which as a bloke you feel compelled to try to help or fix. Keep the small talk light, and get out once jonny has spoken
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So true
 
Like she said she will message you when she knows her schedule. As for the ads if she’s paid for the ads they possibly stay up until the time runs out or she hasn’t had time to edit them as she’s in the middle of moving - doesn’t seem like you’ve done anything wrong going buy what you’ve posted unless there is something else that’s made her back away from seeing you . Like someone else has said send the number and see if they can get a booking if it’s worries you that much .
 
Obbie said:
Like she said she will message you when she knows her schedule. As for the ads if she’s paid for the ads they possibly stay up until the time runs out or she hasn’t had time to edit them as she’s in the middle of moving - doesn’t seem like you’ve done anything wrong going buy what you’ve posted unless there is something else that’s made her back away from seeing you . Like someone else has said send the number and see if they can get a booking if it’s worries you that much .
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100% agree.. we pay for ads monthly most of the time so they stay up unless we purposely take them down. If she's moving etc she might just be really busy & trying to sort out all of that and not checking her work phone.

I've only ever ghosted or blocked clients I've seen if either they are abusive and boundary push in the booking and make me uncomfortable, they start asking to take me out 'Outside of this', they suddenly want natural services because they have seen me lots & I should trust them?, they want stuff for free or they message me all the time for no reason.

I wouldn't think she's ghosting you unless you've over stepped any of her boundaries, it just sounds like she's busy so don't sent to many messages as that will scare her off.
 
AmeliaKennedy said:
100% agree.. we pay for ads monthly most of the time so they stay up unless we purposely take them down. If she's moving etc she might just be really busy & trying to sort out all of that and not checking her work phone.

I've only ever ghosted or blocked clients I've seen if either they are abusive and boundary push in the booking and make me uncomfortable, they start asking to take me out 'Outside of this', they suddenly want natural services because they have seen me lots & I should trust them?, they want stuff for free or they message me all the time for no reason.

I wouldn't think she's ghosting you unless you've over stepped any of her boundaries, it just sounds like she's busy so don't sent to many messages as that will scare her off.
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Exactly.
 
JayPerez1977 said:
Not sure if what I said or did made my provider uncomfortable. But I believe I might have done something by offering help to move financial and boxes. I recently moved,.have tons of boxes first she asked if I'm still had them, then she don't want them I try to make a booking and she says she will message me when she knows her schedule. Her adds are still on, haven't heard don't know if I should message or not.
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same as any computor mate .. you can choose to wait OR simply close it down
 
JayPerez1977 said:
Not sure if what I said or did made my provider uncomfortable. But I believe I might have done something by offering help to move financial and boxes. I recently moved,.have tons of boxes first she asked if I'm still had them, then she don't want them I try to make a booking and she says she will message me when she knows her schedule. Her adds are still on, haven't heard don't know if I should message or not.
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Sounds like she’s busy/taking a break from ya or something along those lines - give it a while and rebook - most likely she will want to continue the customer/client relationship cos that’s the job she’s doing - right
 
My 2 cents FWIW, definately don’t message her or try to contact her in any way for at least a week (preferably 2) unless she messages/contacts you first. After a week or 2, send her a casual msg to touch base & see if she’s taking bookings. If not, wait at least another week (or 2).
And do not be clingy.
 
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