Just pay attention to the entire body. I'm constantly tickling, kissing, licking and talking dirty with a firm but not to aggresive voice. The next is technique and knowing when the moment is right. I'll spend 20-30 minutes just tickling amd teasing before I even touch a vagina.
Build the anticipation. Never ram it home and hope for the best hahaha
It's understanding what each woman is turned on by most.
Example once I get the first then I'll slow my hand movement externally rubbing once I feel her swell again I'll lick her armpit or earlobe while tickling her side etc. Increase the the rate of hand movement and hold on. I get the second then insert 2 fingers and push high up holding for a few seconds grab around the throat and flick again. Etc. Everything has to vary. The suprise it the most important factor. It's hard to explain. It's just technique, whole body and build it up to
Begin with is a good start.