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Worried about being found out about SW

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Nicky

sometime I am very worried I might meet some one who knows me personally then he will spread this news amongst my close friends or even pass this information to my parents ( I would not want them to know )
Or someone might blackmail me out my fear (there are evil men around )

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curious

worried about what?...everyone has the right to express themselves in whatever way they wish..if we are to worry about what everyone else thinks then we would never do what we really want to do in life only what we think eveyone else wants or expects us to do...i realised many years ago that i do whatever i want to do regardless of anyone else..i have done some things in the past that i would never do again, but have never done anything that i regret...and in saying that i have been judged and MISjudged many a time by others purely for doing what I want...truley the only people you have to worry about are those that you love and love you inreturn..if someone judges you either fairly or unfairly then that is their problem, as long as you can live with the decisions that you make in life than that is all that matters...true friends and people important to us dont judge us and even if they do they wont hurt you with thier oppinions....if you cant handle people knowing about whatever you do then you shouldnt do it..(that is not a go at you just the way i feel), i am responsible for all of my actions and take all opinions on board, but dont let them affect my decision to do what i want unless it affects them...anyway, most of the time the people that critcise of gossip about us are the ones that are jealous of us...remember that and do whatever you need to do in life and think of yourself and no one else....because ultimately you are the one that has to live with what you do in life...everyone else just has to accept it...and if they dont then they dont need to be in your life....
 
No secrets !

Greetings Nicki,
The obvious answer is don't have secrets.
I am PAGAN , I used to be more involved in the public side of this philosophy . I wrote a letter to a newspaper on a pagan issue and discovered later that My parents received this newpaper .
So I had to get in first and explain MY philosophies to them . Dear-Old Dad was a Mason so He was O.K. but Mother-Dear had always proffessed to being chistian.
While Mother had her reservations she did accept that this was MY choice and as an adult I did have the right to choose MY path in life.
I have been an active member of the BDSM comunity for about 10 years .Both My parents started out with . . ."Oh .How Could You..." But when they Questioned Me further they came to understand that this was both highly ethical and Very consensual .
My experience is "Have No Secrets" and no-one can blackmail you !
Of course when you tell people you can "Word " it in the best possible way ,so that Your lifestyle choice is the most favourable for YOU!
 
Its a matter of choice

This happens. Unfortunately it is part of the industry in which we choose to work and so many of us live an extremely private life because of it. You are not alone in this way of thinking Nicky, we all at times do, we have our reputations to protect. Well, this is how others make us feel that we should anyway.

If you cant stand proud in life for what you choose to do, you will never achieve because you will be chasing your tail for the rest of your life. You really need to sit and think hard if this is the industry for you or not. Dont let others destroy what you want to achieve for yourself in life, but on the same hand, dont let working in this profession destroy what you already have in life. You need to weigh up what is more important for you and how you could happily and discreetly manage both.

Whatever your ultimate decision is, Good Luck !!!
 
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Blackmail...aggghhhh

Over the years I have come to realise that 'who I am, is what you get". If others don't like it, then so be it. A true friend is one who loves and accepts you for who you are and what you do, unconditionally.
Be confident in yourself always.
 
my god.. how can they not like you and Lyn, Phil..


well'.................

then again....
hahahaha rofl.
 
I told my parents last saturday night a bit about lp's and my mother said about fn time you did something like that. :hello: As i was walking out the door to come to lps she said don't wear it out.
 
lickedysplit said:
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or when in Doubt, tell them you writing an under-cover peice for the liberal goverment on tax evassion in the industry,,,,, he heh ehhhheeeee

They'll believe you....:)

Spice-Me
 
my job is

a mattress tester for hotels
I have to ring up book in a room and bonk who ever is in there
and rate the matress out of ten


sounds pretty plausable dont ya think
ohhhh k ohhhh k so i am blonde

dahhhhhhhhh
honeyblonde
 
Honey you crack me up.

Reminds of something my dad said when I was little. I have always loved sleeping, reading in bed etc and I told him when I get older I wanted to a job where I test mattress's and pillows professionally and he says, "Baby there are already people who do that and they're called prostitutes"
 
Have you stopped to consider if someone DOES recognize you, that would mean they're in the same place as you probable doing the same thing and may feel exactly the same way...

Enjoy
Tillsunrise
 
be true to yourself .....love who you are and you will then allow others to love you
What someone thinks of you is just their opinion..and somones elses opinion is none of your concern
 
little big horn

My father once put me on the mantle piece, he said jump i jumped cracked my head on the floor. Look be realistic dont trust anyone or at least be very careful before you do. Never coff to anyone iether.At the end of the day watch your back, there are some really good people out there . But also some real bad dudes and gals.Life is not just one big party life is hard, yes life is to be lived as long as we except people are not always what they seem.Perhaps i damaged my brain when i fell and that is why i am who i am.
Sorry if this appears harsh but true.
 
I have learnt the very hard way to be less trusting and really find out who I should and shouldn't confide in.

I would imagine that the people dearest to you already know what you do. If not then it's worth getting the bottle to do it. You will soon see who are real friends and who isn't. You might be pleasantly surprised.

Who can blackmail you if you have no secrets?
 
Know need to worry.If people find out there will have to be in the scene and you will know who they are as well. So what fear you have they will have as well !! And if someone does try to confront you, say "so what?"
 
littlebighorn

Dont ever be fooled the world and the people in it are full of secrets. Secrets contain power, secrets about people , share markets ,property. The underworld. Secrets about Jesus religion. The Davinci Code a book about secrets and deception albeit fiction but based on truth. Be warned the world is one big secret. Imagine if you knew the secret recipe for coke. Secrets...............
 
I talk to my friends about every think that I do during my week off on R& R in Perth the good and bad experiences there’s nothing that thy don’t know about me we share advice with one another and I have nothing to hide thy thing I’m a bit loopy because of the thing that I do but who care’s I don’t and I’m sure thy don’t
I never had parents but I’m sure thy will back you in any thing that you do at least thy will give honest advise
 
Honesty is the most important thing.

Nicki, your post is one of the hardest issues that a worker has to face up to. Your fears are also shared by many other different people in all sorts of walks of life. Have you thought about how hard it is for a gay man to admit to his father that he is gay ? Have you thought how hard it is for a finance professional to admit that he is broke ? Have you thought how hard it is for a drunk to admit that he is a drunk and needs help ?

The reason that all of things above are so hard is because as a society we have pre conceived ideas of what is "normal" and "acceptable". Its sad but being different is not "normal" or "acceptable".

The greatest challenge to society today is to learn to accept people for who and what they are. Every person on the planet can contribute to this today. They can do this by accepting people regardless of their occupation, race, religion, creed, sexual orientation or dependency. I have always been able to find one thing that is special and one thing that I admire in every person I have met in my life - even those who have wronged me and whom I have not forged any bonds with. The challenge we all have is to listen, be empathetic, care and try and understand.

However, before other people can listen, care, etc about us we have to open up and be prepared to share ourselves, our beliefs, our strengths and our weaknesses. This is achieved by only one possible means - honest communication.

Nicky, the people who love you will never love you less because you choose to do a particular profession or because you are "different" in some way. The people who love you will love you even more if you are 100 % totally honest and open with them.

The Ruler
 
" very worried about being found out sometime I am very worried I might meet some one who knows me personally then he will spread this news amongst my close friends or even pass this information to my parents ( I would not want them to know ) Or someone might blackmail me out my fear (there are evil men around ) "

Nicky
I am in the same boat. No one knows what I am doiong for a living. If my family finds out. I know I will compent, one of my uncles who love to get me or any other female into bed. He would jump at the change to book me abd try to get me back into bed with him. Then go around telling everyone
It scares me. ::)
 
I was worried for a while and wouldn't share my name with many people but then I realised that, it doesn't matter.

It's your life and your body and you shall do with it what you wish. I digress, do not do what others want you to unless you want to yourself.

Sure, it's hard to trust people in the beginning, but soon, you'll see that most of us here don't give a crap about stuff like that. We are also doing what we want to do because we love to do it.

I haven't yet been to LP's, but I do frequent this site [be it erratic] and I have met some people from here. In my mind, it's no one elses business. My good friends and you people know that I am bi-sexual and I think my family may or may not think I am. But to me, it doesn't matter, because for now, I just want to have fun...Sure, I want to get married etc later, but for now, I like the pussy as much as the cock ;) And I'm ready to meet almost anyone for a coffee or whatever before or if anything happens.
 
summer

Hi Nicky,
Im in the same boat there!
but then usually the person that you run into is in the same way
and they don't want to be found out ether!
for excample I met someone I knew at Midland,freaked out of course!
but he was in the same boat had family and didn't want to be found
out ether .
so we had mutual respect,that is not going to happen all the
time of course!
but your just have to realize in this job that is one of the risk's
that are involved!
Goodluck Summer!
 
That last statement very true hun they can be evil i in same situation. I tell ya if my mother new the half. he he ;p
 
I have just got a new mattress would like you too rate it,& i think you will find its a 10.
 
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