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Will you say sorry to your partner even though it’s not your fault?
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Plumage
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Sometimes people get upset when they get triggered or because they have had a bad day and so even a little, innocent, thing can overwhelm them. It is OK to be sorry that someone has been upset, even if it's not your fault at a logical level. Saying 'it's all my fault' is probably not helpful, but 'I'm sorry baby, I didn't mean to upset you' followed by a snuggle and a kiss can work wonders—they may even reply that it's not your fault at all, and tell you what really went wrong with their day.
Outside of relationships, saying you are sorry can defuse things when a long argument about why they are wrong will only make things worse.
Outside of relationships, saying you are sorry can defuse things when a long argument about why they are wrong will only make things worse.
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I learnt one trick from a blonde woman, many years back, and I used this as I felt an argument was going to happen, stand up walk towards you loving partner, whom may be wanting to argue with you or whom is loosing at you and say in a very loving way "I love you" and see what happens.
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Only for the make up sex. 
Madmax1700
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Not if I am not at fault. However I can say it in a different context like I am sorry to see you upset 
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Yes i agree with you babe xx
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Apologizing for someone else's poor behaviour is no solution & it can only make things worst for you. Give her an inch & she'll take a mile
sdm85
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Agreed. Even if you are 100% in the right, just fake it and get on with life
John Smithl
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Agree.Not if I am not at fault. However I can say it in a different context like I am sorry to see you upset
Trishaxxx2
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My dog always forgives me 
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i always say "sorry, please forgive me"
usually as i am shoveling the last sods of earth onto the shallow grave
Quick lime or:
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Good one Phoebe!
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It works a treat!
IceFragmatic
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My fight will end with my partner as the time clock turns 9 pm, and then the real sorry story starts.......what I mean you know guys... 
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My version
Sometime you need to say sorry just to get the peace and quiet back again
so YES I have said sorry when I'm not really sorry, but it was a convincing sorry,
Not a sorry with a smart arse smile to follow. ( I can do these as well) HA HA
The more genuine the sorry is the easier the acceptance will be.
Keep it up
for Australia and self sanity Guy's
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Sometime you need to say sorry just to get the peace and quiet back again
so YES I have said sorry when I'm not really sorry, but it was a convincing sorry,
Not a sorry with a smart arse smile to follow. ( I can do these as well) HA HA
The more genuine the sorry is the easier the acceptance will be.
Keep it up
for Australia and self sanity Guy'sThe Frenchmanjanny-ammerson
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No. This is how abusive and controlling relationships are made.
If you are with someone who is unable to see when they do wrong and lacking the ability to give a fulfilling apology- you are most likely dealing with, at best, a selfish and contemptible person or at worse a personality disordered empathy lacking abuser.
If you are with someone who is unable to see when they do wrong and lacking the ability to give a fulfilling apology- you are most likely dealing with, at best, a selfish and contemptible person or at worse a personality disordered empathy lacking abuser.
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Yep unfortunately way too frequently. Apologising for someone else's poor behaviour just allows them to continue treating someone badly it allows excuses to be made & boundaries to be crossed I learnt the hard way.
I learnt the hard way.