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Why do guys Like Brothels?

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Cathy/Diane87

I find that some men Prefer to visit these establishments so they can fulfill there needs without having any strings attached as i have been told this by many guys before. I'm very curious on how many guys there are out there that are thinking this exact way ??
 
I go cause it's a sure thing ... The wife is no longer the wild girl any more and as much as I love her I need a bit more then the once a month vanilla sex .. We were wild sex every where and open to everything but now I'm lucky to get my dick sucked on my birthday ... I go cause I know this girl doesn't love me but she knows how to please me
 
yeh i kind of agree. you can go there, and she'll do everything you want and there's no emotional attachment. and then you can leave with a smile on your face...:occasion14:occasion15:laughing4:icon_king
 
Hi Cathy,

I actually do feel that way: i.e. no strings attached. Although this has presented a serious dilemma for me. Most people that know me say that I am a gentleman i.e. well presented and well mannered however, I have always found it very difficult to approach girls. Until very recently, I had never had sex before (and very close to my 30's) so I did the unthinkable and visited a WL. I paid some good cash, she is heavenly stunning and I had the best time ever :)

For me I would certainly prefer to not have to visit a WL for sex and it is not about the money. I would like to enjoy a meaningful relationship with a woman... Hopefully one day.
 
Thanks for the reply guys :) i have been told by many guys that even when married or in a serious long term relationship that they still visit WL. Witch to this note i wont stop giving my partner sex lol.

Internazional thank you for being honest in this reply to be honest myself i think my brother is some what like you in a way a nice guy but cant seem to find himself a nice girl. My advise to him is to get out there and just be yourself i always had some trouble finding a partner i always tried to be someone i wasn't and 1 day i just went NO im gonna go out and be myself and i also went onto oasis active and found the great man im with now and we have been together for nearly 8 months :) the internet is risky but also very good as it gives you the chance to have a chat and open up before meeting in person. it made me alot more comfortable :)
 
Cathy/Diane87 said:
My advise to him is to get out there and just be yourself )
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not good advice
for me getting out there and being yourself means packing up the 4by maybe some fishing rods and hitting some remote area for a bit

trust me im yet to see a girl who wont run a mile at the mere thought of that
 
internazional said:
Hi Cathy,

I actually do feel that way: i.e. no strings attached. Although this has presented a serious dilemma for me. Most people that know me say that I am a gentleman i.e. well presented and well mannered however, I have always found it very difficult to approach girls. Until very recently, I had never had sex before (and very close to my 30's) so I did the unthinkable and visited a WL. I paid some good cash, she is heavenly stunning and I had the best time ever :)

For me I would certainly prefer to not have to visit a WL for sex and it is not about the money. I would like to enjoy a meaningful relationship with a woman... Hopefully one day.
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I am in a very similar situation too! everyone thinks I am the perfect gentleman and stuff but still no luck with an actual relationship...so hence have to visit W/L occasionally too..
 
Hi All,

Well, I'm somewhat relieved that there are others seek the comfort of WL's for the same reasons that I do. But going back to Cathy's question: is it to have no strings attached? In a nutshell, yes. I would like to view my encounter with a WL as being one that is a mutual consent: we both know what we meet for!

Also, the main reason for me is the following: I have seen so many times half-drunk girls getting fooled by some jerk that was cunning enough to lie his way to her panties. So for me, that is simply wrong and I cannot bring myself to do something like this. If I wanted sex, I would pay for it. How cowardly does a man have to behave to lie and fool girls for sex? Only the one kind: LOSERS.
I do not want others to think that I treat WL's like objects because, for the hour or so that I will be with her, I will treat her (and tip+gift!) very kindly i.e. she is my princess, for that time at least...
 
naughtish said:
I am in a very similar situation too! everyone thinks I am the perfect gentleman and stuff but still no luck with an actual relationship...so hence have to visit W/L occasionally too..
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try being an asshole occasionally... always worked for me...

i always say to wifey that if you're too nice to people then they just take advantage...
 
Hey chrisso you dont neccasarily have to be an arse
But do make sure you dont sway to every breeze that
is blowing
 
For me it's the no strings thing. I do enjoy a lot of alone time plus I work an incredible amount of hours, by choice, and that can get in the way of a long term relationship. However when I find a girl who offers a great service, is fun to be with, is a good communicator, and there is just a general good chemistry I will arrange to see her regularly and she becomes somewhat of a girlfriend for the time I see her. I see it as a mutually beneficial arrangement where either party can end the arrangement at any time and not feel the guilt associated with ending a relationship.

When you see someone that regularly it definitely becomes more like a relationship where feelings for the other person develop. It's probably better to describe it as a close friendship however where genuine interest in the other person develops. I once saw a WL fortnightly for a period of 3 years. All up over that time I probably paid her about $20,000. Even now I still regard her as one of the best friends I have had the pleasure of knowing. The only reason I stopped seeing her was I moved interstate. And if you look at it that way it's actually quite a cheap price to pay in order to have a "relationship". In the real world it can be a lot more expensive, often costing houses.
 
Definately No Strings...... You can have a fling with someone but there is always the risk of it going bad. No chance of that with a W/L
 
I once read that the definition of a WL is a girl who leaves after you give her money!
 
There's a bit of a nice-guy-anonymous going on here.
Hi, I'm Bonkerz, I'm a nice guy and I can't get any.
The no-strings thing doesn't interest me. I want a relationship, I want all the stuff that is supposed to go with a sexual relationship, I just can't get it.
W/Ls are a necessity to me - when my hormones get too much to handle I solve the problem with money.
 
You "nice guys" know that the emotional rollercoaster that comes with having a girlfriend isn't all beer and skittles yeh? Life isnt a Hollywood RomCom where your Ryan Renolds and you end up romantically proposing to Charlize Theron in Central Park or Grand Central before she leaves thinking you don't love her :p
 
WRXXXR said:
You "nice guys" know that the emotional rollercoaster that comes with having a girlfriend isn't all beer and skittles yeh? Life isnt a Hollywood RomCom where your Ryan Renolds and you end up romantically proposing to Charlize Theron in Central Park or Grand Central before she leaves thinking you don't love her :p
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....yep, you're right WRXXXR but when one has lived a virtual "monastic" lifestyle and had the opportunity to experience that rollercoaster ride, would I do it???.........in a heartbeat.

Fudd :)
 
W3XR I believe your right But the ÖLL Rollercoaster" is a great part of life
Some of the crash landings are a bit hard to deal with but we do.
Our friend Fudd used the word experience To me that is the main word
We have to evperience life
 
I think in sum cases it is true about the no-strings attached HOWEVER I have had many of my clients both married and single who come in for emotional connection not just sex and I have also had many of those clients form emotional bonds with me.

I have had reg's who come in and we play cards for an hour...we cuddle and chat...others who we have an hardcore fucking session and then everything in between....

There are the fuckers....and the emotional cravers!!!! We all take away from the experience what it is we need...so each to there own!!!


xxxxxx
 
Love this topic. It's as old as the beginning of mankind. We all have different sex drives and needs and its not always with the one you're in a relationship with. Some just eventually turn in to friendships, with love and respect and the occasional sexual urges. If this is one-sided and you're unable to overcome it, then it's reassuring to know one can go to a safe caring establishment to fulfill those desires/fantasies, cravings, addictions.. Some men don't wish to subject their partner to alternative sexual desires and it sure as hell beats picking up drunk girls with unknown backgrounds etc. (image - Fatal Attraction) . Even after long-term relationships with healthy sex throughout, sometimes women STILL cant keep up with the male sexual drive. It's nobody's fault. Its the ingrained survival of mankind. HOWEVER, why isn't this reciprocated for women. We too can have high sexual energy and i'm buggared if i can see any fairness in society which enables females to indulge in their fantasies (whether it's sexual or emotional) with sexy hot men, with "no strings attached" ! ;)
 
Well DeeJay....it is rescipricated, not to the same proporations but that is purely a supply and demand thing but it is out there....you arent looking in the right places!!!!

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Thanks Saige! Appreciate your welcoming and the info. Please tell me more!! xx
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Oh DeeJay where do I start....firstly women need to stop thinking we are being limited by males/socitey.. the only person that can limit us is ourselves and our own fear of just doing it....

I have stopped worrying about what the norm is...what society says is normal.....Years ago I realised that my sexual "appettite" and "taste" were not main stream...after sum time I decided to embrace it rather than hide it...I am a strong, intelligent, self loving (in a tru snese not ego!!) female...if I want something, Ill ask....If I want to do something, Ill do it!!

I started to find like minded people in swining communites, on-line and after being told/realising that sex and sexiness was my god given talent...started in the sex industry....AND I LOVE IT...not saying that that is your path however this my story!!

So get out there talk to people, meet people, honour your sexuality babe...it will take you to some pretty exciting places.......This forum is a pretty good start...just be careful and do what feels right FOR YOU not anyone else..

Much Luv&Luck
 
Now to my other boys on the Thread....we all love SEX, FUCKING, VARIETY and all the hedonistic stuff...BUT as much as we whinge and moan about being in a relationship we know when the cupid hits you....it can be pretty amazing!!!

Good to see your soft and mushy sides..xxxx
 
Definitely the "no strings".

I started this post with more detailed comments about decades wasted looking for "meaningful relationships", but there's no way to make it not sound like a whinge, so let it rest. Let's just say I'm over it.

I'm single, solo, and from now on its working ladies for me.

I only regret I didn't figure it out back when I was 25.
 
Yeh, well I guess so, but for me I have to have some sort of connection...don't just like the quick bonking...can't see the sense in it...the chase is half the fun...the seduction, the playing...
 
bushseeker said:
not good advice
for me getting out there and being yourself means packing up the 4by maybe some fishing rods and hitting some remote area for a bit

trust me im yet to see a girl who wont run a mile at the mere thought of that
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Maybe your looking in all the wrong places if thats what you love you need to find a lady that loves that too. There is plenty of women out there that love camping and fishing unless you want to keep that as an excuse to get away with the boys :)
 
This is a really good question Cathy.
I like W/Ls because of the no strings thing. But I also like them because of the sheer variety as well. Whatever "type" I'm in the mood for, its just a short trip away. And its a guaranteed. Its not like staking out a bar or a club for three quarters of the night and spending a fortune in "free" drinks just head home to Mrs Palmer and her daughters.
I find the W/Ls more honest in that regards. Their not taking advantage of the situation. Its a straight business deal. Something for Something.
Plus W/Ls need love too :)
Al
 
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