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What drives a working girl (prostitute) ?

Kudos for your level of self-awareness, Bella. That, especially knowing and understanding your vulnerabilities, is probably the first step to ensuring you don't end up like her.

I think taking a good break periodically after a pre-determined number of months/years and taking stock of your life and assessing how, if at all, this line of work has begun to change you is another thing WLs can do to see if they really want to continue doing this, or whether it would be in their long-term interest to stop then and there.

Good luck. :)
 
Bella Rose I think the fact you have identified early on in your working life in this industry the possibility that you could go down the same path gives you an opportunity to take stock and work out what you are here for and where you want to go. Best of luck!
 
Well I went to see her in hospital tue and picked her up wed.
multiple health issues including being under 50kg .... I can tell you she also didnt end up with a damn cent from working
even her daughters wouldnt visit her
Shes truly broken
 
Zeus said:
So I was reading this article - http://sciencenordic.com/what-drives-prostitute

At the end of the article is a comment from a W/L.
I think it is quite upsetting and I was wondering whether this was a true reflection of the industry.

Would love to read your comments.

Here is the letter.

I have been in the escorting world for the last five years and it is not a profession I would recommend to anyone. Although I have met lovely people along my journey and the fast money has assisted in fulfilling financial goals, the emotional toll of this profession is immensely high and albeit, very difficult to put into words. All my life I had aspired to be a wife and work in the health industry so failing so miserably at 2 major life ambitions before age 25 was devastating. I still can't identify how or why, but a short time later I ended up dabbling in the escorting industry. At first I was elated as it seemed that this was the first thing in my life where I actually attained success-clients seemed to enjoy my company (despite what some people still believe, there is much more to escorting than mere sex), I got a great flow of regulars, travelled around Australia on tours and for the first time, actually felt like what I was doing was making a difference in people's lives. I developed a holistic bond with many of my clients, many of whom had endured health conditions and marriage break - ups themselves. Not surprisingly, I found I connected better with clients at least decade older than me. It was all rosy at first and escorting facilitated a few, namely financial goals. However, five years later I want more than anything to leave the industry, I'm completely warn out, feel used and abused, watched my friends get married, have babies, fulfil career aspirations whilst vicariously wishing that was me. I have not had a partner in over 5 years, I guess I just want to protect people I love from this world- it would not be fair to drag a partner into it. However, depression issues, feeling completely directionless with my life, not to mention an incomplete education, has left me feeling that there is no way forward. I have no idea what the future holds or how I will get out of the rut I'm in now....I dream of being happy, one day married with children and in a fulfilling career....right now I feel like I'm at the end of road and I don't know how to cultivate the energy or even where to start in fulfilling other endeavours- I guess I just feel like everything has been taken from me and I have nothing left to give. Although escorting may seem like a quick fix, or even like a glamorous alternative to the norm I urge anyone who is considering this profession to please, please seek an alternative path. Escorting causes inextricable damage and your life will never be the same again-trust me I know xx
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well zeusy this lady contradicts herself, complains of not being married but couldnt bring a partner into this world , she says its a quick fix for money but at the end of 5 years directionless, her 2 failed life goals before 25 and before she was a WL now later in life realises her incomplete education makes it difficult to be a in the health industry??????? alot of alarm bells in this article its to cliche and i think its a bit of a cop out obviously this author didnt proof read the final copy.....i do not need anyhting to drive me to work in this industry because the saying goes what happens behind closed doors stays behind closed doors i think this is the only profession that gets to sleep with every other profession haha :)
 
also i cant believe the responses from this article i have no sympathy for this woman one bit i just think its ungrateful these women say they felt abused and used you are in control if you start to head down that path take the effort to change the situation or bloody charge extra.......and protect your soul not just your future, which is what we all look to as that tomorrow is another day
 
The actual articles is actually (i think) pretty insightful look in the industry and motivations of the working ladies. It lines up very accurately with the impression the posters on this forum give off when talking about their work and their clients etc...

The letter, which is from someone who already admits that they hate the work, and didn't cope well with her own choices, doesn't seem like a great place to start a conversation from...

The original linked article, of which the reprinted letter was a response to, is essentially a write up of a survey of British prostitutes.

From the article: "Half of the prostitutes in a new survey say they became prostitutes because of sexual curiosity, and 68 percent consider their line of work as part of their sexuality." ... "Women became prostitutes for many different reasons, but they often feel stigmatised by society as needing help to stop their work (fewer than half of the prostitutes have considered stopping), instead of society respecting their choice of work."
 
I am really disappointed with many of the replies here. So much hate and judgment.

I've been doing this for almost 2 years. I've still NEVER touched drugs, I am in a loving relationship, I respect myself and my clients and I don't feel abused. I hold down a normal job a couple of days a week, volunteer on weekends and will be buying my first home this year.

In any job there are people who lose their way and abusive clientele. Just because I choose to earn money as a w/l does not make me any less deserving of common courtesy.

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Miss Chloe said:
I am really disappointed with many of the replies here. So much hate and judgment.

I've been doing this for almost 2 years. I've still NEVER touched drugs, I am in a loving relationship, I respect myself and my clients and I don't feel abused. I hold down a normal job a couple of days a week, volunteer on weekends and will be buying my first home this year.

In any job there are people who lose their way and abusive clientele. Just because I choose to earn money as a w/l does not make me any less deserving of common courtesy.

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Miss Chloe said:
I am really disappointed with many of the replies here. So much hate and judgment.

I've been doing this for almost 2 years. I've still NEVER touched drugs, I am in a loving relationship, I respect myself and my clients and I don't feel abused. I hold down a normal job a couple of days a week, volunteer on weekends and will be buying my first home this year.

In any job there are people who lose their way and abusive clientele. Just because I choose to earn money as a w/l does not make me any less deserving of common courtesy.

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Amen!
 
Tommmm said:
I really respect the original poster of this. Some people may talk about money, some will talk about being overly sexual and they enjoy their play time, some may say she didn't go into the industry in a smart way, some may make some random jokes. I have dabbled as a punter for several years and in fact it has been one of my worst addictions. Due to a couple of reasons I'm leaving it and now this post is my farewell to it. I'll share a perspective and short story as to why.

I met someone in the not too distant past who was a beautiful, intelligent and amazing girl and got to know her quite well. However during our friendship she had to face the incredibly sad and personal event of the passing of a parent. She also said a lot around the time how she was so scared of "something" and it was complicated. Suddenly she changed over night and became very distant and I was so worried about her from afar; as I'm sure others who cared were too.

Quite some time passed and I eventually discovered she had become severely dis-associative and understood it'd been something she had struggled with on and on for some years. The passing and the complicated grief however triggered the dis-associative disorder to a new level and I found out she had been working in prostitution for over a year since the passing.

To me it was heart breaking to see someone who I cared for fall into a period of distress but know it's her life and personal journey. I remember seeing into her shaky eyes one day when we spoke and she was so scared of herself and her emotions. This view of her eyes sometimes comes into my mind even till this day and I remember that I miss her and hope she is okay. It upsets me a lot to think about how many out there are facing their own distress and losing battles with personal demons and sometimes mental illness. Our sense of self and reality can change so easily to cope with serious things and it's trivial to push aside the complexities of addiction or undermine how mental health affects us all. I know I'm saying some things many of us know; we do things in life because sometimes we have to, we all have our phases and paths we must experience, but also sometimes life just sucks balls too.

The poster said many honest points and showed a lot of courage sharing openly their own weaknesses and lessons. I'm sure others reading can relate to it even if they've brushed aside the points because they apparently know themselves better. Who really goes into this industry with a proper plan fully self aware of themselves? It'd be naive and delusional to think we ever do actually. I honestly have a quiet prayer every day for my friend and hope she finds the strength to move forward to the next chapter in her life soon.

And guys, this world of punting is never black and white. When you see a review about a girl who had a porn-star like performance, what is really going on? I respect we all have our needs and how sexuality is important, but just for a second imagine she's your friend or your girlfriend or even your daughter, and you know there's something else going on deep down and she's not just a nymphomaniac. What if you knew she drinks most nights alone and she's distanced herself from those close to her who care and who worry daily about her. What if you knew many parts of her life before she started her "personal work" have been falling apart. Imagine how there'd be guys who are in reality passing strangers who don't truly care about her writing about having to take her for a spin. Or if they've seen her recently filling in a form ranking different facets of her looks, attitude and performance.

Punting for some years was certainly an important part of my life but it's also time to move on. This experience I'm sharing really expanded my view on this world and I wish everyone well. People are very complicated and the world is never black and white. It honestly breaks my heart to think my friend is deep down scared and alone. The world would feel so much brighter suddenly if I got a message from her saying she is feeling a bit better and she is moving forward positively. And if I ever got to see her again, I'd give her the biggest hug possible and drag her out for a drink.

Thanks for reading and farewell.
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Hi Tommmm,

I've read your post and feel your pain. I met a lady late last year and knew her for approximately 4 months. Unfortunately our friendship / relationship ended in a horrible and sudden manner mainly down to my frustration and inability to understand her.

To this day I think about the last meaningful conversation we had in which she said 'Sometimes I think there's something wrong with me' that has haunted me daily.

In all honesty I dislike the industry, I understand why ladies do it mainly for money but there are so many other reasons.

Having seen the truly dark side of this industry in which females are trafficked, held against there will and used in the most horrible way it's heart braking to know that some ladies feel and believe they have no way out.

Anyway, as you can probably tell its playing on my thoughts. Thanks for listening.
 
Personally I was compelled to join this industry because when I left school my sex addiction was completely out of control. Through uni, I had partner after partner who exhibited the same pattern of response to my behaviour. Exhaustion, confusion, denial, fear of loss and manipulation to make me stay in a relationship I could not provide love in because all I saw was the sex. Sex was confused for love and more confusion, denial etc..

The end result- drama, emotional pain, headache and burnt bridges. Watching grown men cry got old. Point is, at the end of the day, I don't want the picket fence, 2.5 children and husband. I want peace of mind but I also want to have an outlet when I feel like it and hey, call me selfish but I don't want to have to hear about how my nature makes someone else feel sexually inadequate. I also do not want to be stuck in a relationship where the sex is always the same, mediocre or just not enough. I would also rather be paid for venting hypersexuality in a controlled environment as a clean business transaction now and then.

So.. that was nice. Thanks for coming by and I'm glad we could help each other out without headfucking each other.
 
Nymph said:
Personally I was compelled to join this industry because when I left school my sex addiction was completely out of control. Through uni, I had partner after partner who exhibited the same pattern of response to my behaviour. Exhaustion, confusion, denial, fear of loss and manipulation to make me stay in a relationship I could not provide love in because all I saw was the sex. Sex was confused for love and more confusion, denial etc..

The end result- drama, emotional pain, headache and burnt bridges. Watching grown men cry got old. Point is, at the end of the day, I don't want the picket fence, 2.5 children and husband. I want peace of mind but I also want to have an outlet when I feel like it and hey, call me selfish but I don't want to have to hear about how my nature makes someone else feel sexually inadequate. I also do not want to be stuck in a relationship where the sex is always the same, mediocre or just not enough. I would also rather be paid for venting hypersexuality in a controlled environment as a clean business transaction now and then.

So.. that was nice. Thanks for coming by and I'm glad we could help each other out without headfucking each other.
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And there's nothing wrong with what you want. You have right to choose...
 
Well said Homer

We see so many from outside the industry Tell us the girls are pawns etc Personal choice seems to have been taken out of the conversation
Though its not a conversation as generally only one side of the chat is being put out into the arena of discussion
 
Happy2 said:
Well said Homer

We see so many from outside the industry Tell us the girls are pawns etc Personal choice seems to have been taken out of the conversation
Though its not a conversation as generally only one side of the chat is being put out into the arena of discussion
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Indeed mr H2...i guess in the context of certain Asian joints, that some of the ladies are not there by personal choice. But then there are those who come into the industry because they chose to. I have full respect for the ladies either way.
 
Happy2 said:
Well said Homer

We see so many from outside the industry Tell us the girls are pawns etc Personal choice seems to have been taken out of the conversation
Though its not a conversation as generally only one side of the chat is being put out into the arena of discussion
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H2 , industry outsiders only know about the industry in USA,Africa, Europe and Russia where the pimps control the women with drugs and a beating if they do not confirm
 
Nymph said:
Personally I was compelled to join this industry because when I left school my sex addiction was completely out of control. Through uni, I had partner after partner who exhibited the same pattern of response to my behaviour. Exhaustion, confusion, denial, fear of loss and manipulation to make me stay in a relationship I could not provide love in because all I saw was the sex. Sex was confused for love and more confusion, denial etc..

The end result- drama, emotional pain, headache and burnt bridges. Watching grown men cry got old. Point is, at the end of the day, I don't want the picket fence, 2.5 children and husband. I want peace of mind but I also want to have an outlet when I feel like it and hey, call me selfish but I don't want to have to hear about how my nature makes someone else feel sexually inadequate. I also do not want to be stuck in a relationship where the sex is always the same, mediocre or just not enough. I would also rather be paid for venting hypersexuality in a controlled environment as a clean business transaction now and then.

So.. that was nice. Thanks for coming by and I'm glad we could help each other out without headfucking each other.
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No thank you for sharing, it's greatly appreciated. Difference being you know where you're at.. She (ex-friend) doesn't.

There's nothing wrong with desiring more and more sex. I think that's fantastic. After all it's what the human race was designed for ..
 
There must be a myriad of reasons a woman would become a W/L and there must be as many different experiences of their time in the industry -good, bad, dangerous etc, etc. People have different experiences in any job, career , profession etc.

I agree with what's been said before and that's as long as your decision is just that, your decision, then more power to you and we need to stop the stigma.
 
I have a mate that looked after a few WLs in Perth, from a MP that did outcall work.
He said that he believed around 80 percent of the girls there were on the gear and using it daily.
I dont use MPs so I wouldn't have a clue but i have no doubts about this guys integrity, and why would he lie about that?
 
I honestly appreciate the opionions presented here. When your new to the client side of the industry yhere are still some misconceptions that come from societies expectations. It's places like these and threads like this that allow me and others to gain a greater understanding rather than relying on the loudest voices, which may not have W/L's best in mind.
 
Interesting thread, when I first went to langtrees that was probably one of my biggest concerns was all the stuff people are told about the industry, how the ladies are all abused, they don't want to do the job but have no other choice etc... And I didn't want to go causing some one else trouble and making some ones life worse, so I was a bit cautious of that but at the same time I felt that if I had went in and just asked one of the ladies " do you want to be here" "do you want to do this job" etc I would come off as rude or demeaning.

So I just went for it and so far from what I've seen it was a misconception the ladies all seemed happy and honest. But there probably still are some ladies who would have problems. So now when I do go to a working lady, I just try and be as good a client as I can be polite nice and just try make the experience I'm having as great for them as they do for me :)
 
Most girls turn to the industry to solve a problem or an issue. For most it's money and maybe curiosity.

It was a quick answer when I needed a solution, and the money kept me going back.

There are good and bad things about every profession but sex work is physically tiring and emotionally draining.

If you're strong enough to distance yourself from the work you're doing then I think the sex industry is incredible lucrative.

The attention and the glamour is addictive as is having men desire you.

But it quickly gets repetitive and the reality of standing in a line up and making sure you're the fantasy the customer wants you to be is tiring
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It will affect you and the way you see yourself when all you do is actually having to live out what a customers fantasies are over and per again. Eventually you start to see yourself the way men see you.

It's nerve wracking to surrender yourself and your body to a strangers pleasures and pretend that you love it. I kept playing the role my customers wanted and at some point it was hard to see myself as a different person from the work I did.

If I had a customer who got off on calling me a slut and a whore and that I loved what I did. It got to me and even worse I often wonder if its all I am. When you sleep with men for money, what you do creeps into who you are.
Eventually, the only I saw men were as customers and the way you're treated after a man is satisfied makes you feel worthless.

Everyone in the industry knows how mans attitude suddenly changed when he goes from worshipping you to dismissively telling you to get out when the appointment is over. It happens all the time and soon you realise your valued as a commodity. I worked and played a role which I eventually became.

My customers wanted a young compliant whore who loved what she did and I worked so often that it became hard to see myself as anything else. Men treated me the same even if they weren't customers. One night I caught a cab to see a friend and I was working and dressed very plainly as I do when I'm not at work and I was shocked when the driver offered me money for sex. He was very direct and offensive.

I wasn't working and had no intention to but something in me clicked and I slipped into my work mode and became the whore he expected me to be.

It's drains you to have to be that image if a man's fantasy over and over again and when you o it for long enough, it becomes who you are.

I never touched drugs before I started working but it became an easy fix for me. I didn't want to think about whether it was shameful to go to a room full of men and be treated in a certain way.

Drugs offered me a convenient way to become a zombie who acted out the image and idea of a young insatiable shameless whore my customers paid me to be.

In time, I came to value myself for my appeal to men and what they wanted me for. The more beautiful I was, the more willing and shameless I was the more I was wanted, and the more I was paid.

Prostitition is a very hard idea to get out of your head once you start.

If you think you can mentally distance yourself from work, then maybe you can handle it but for most, your work and your life becomes a daily reminder of who you are.

It troubles me having to think about my work and I keep doing it for the money and the momentary satisfaction a man's attention gives u.

I started in the industry to find a solution and I'm trapped in a cycle of not knowing what else to do.
I work most weekends and it takes me most of the week to recover from the weekend shift and then.i work again/

Sex work is not for everyone but its something that will change the person you are forever.
 
Working in this industry is always motivated by money first and foremost. To believe we are all drug users is very narrow minded although it is a road many follow. They use to be able to do the job and sometimes they need to do the job so they can use.
To be honest the sex is only a small part. The most significant need for a working lady is to be a good actress. As the say mattress actress.
A huge majority of clients just want to feel important and be treated like they are. I always use to make notes so I could remember as much about them as possible ie: their jobs, family, likes and dislikes.This always pays off big time if you are trying to build a good regular clientele and they are your bread and butter
 
asking for a 'friend'. what about women who dont use drugs but develop severe mental issues from working because they cant deal with it. Or do they have mental issues before? What happens when women lose the plot and never come back
 
Every working girl looses the plot every now and then. Sometimes something as simple as stepping back for a break is all you need. I always knew when I needed to step back and look after me
 
I suppose everyone has their own story about how they got into the industry and how they got out.
I suppose I was a late starter not getting into the industry till my 30's. I had a plan though. My marriage had broken down and I had three kids.
I took it real seriously because I felt I only had a small window to work due to my age. Little did I know how much work there is for the older lady "Cougar"
Because I was uneducated that became my priority. I knew I needed a job that paid really well so researched high paying jobs and did the necessary training to get there.
However my exit wasn't planned as well as my entry. Like most ladies getting out is a split second decision.
I did everything possible to protect my children and my turning point was meeting a teacher in the most undesirable way.
So I educated myself well and got the job I planned for. The only thing I really needed help with was probably a good Financial adviser but probably still do.
 
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