Virginity in mid 20's

[MaskedOne]

Hi been lurking a bit and finally decided to ask this since I noticed a few WL's posting, so would like your opinions, and anyone else too.

What are your immediate assumptions about someone (that someone being me obviously) in this situation, barring any physical deformities, major mental handicaps and not for religious reasons.

As WL's and as females do you think "What the hell is wrong with this person?" What goes through your head?
And are you happy to assist or do you :laughing4 inside while thinking 'ewww'

If you picture a WoW playing fat guy, I'm nothing like that. I'm more average heading towards athletic type, dress decently, good hygiene and all that. Picture someone that goes to nightclubs.

Cheers

 

[svengali]

Nothing unusual about still being a virgin in your mid-20s in my humble opinion and certainly nothing wrong with it either.

It beats the hell out of knocking a girl up while still in school because both of you didn't know enough about what you were doing.

 

[bushseeker]

I was 24 when i popped my cherry. I had seen a few wls but i dont care what any ine says it doesnt count. Nothing better than getting intamate for the first time with someone that wants to equally

 

[dpick19709]

I was 27 when I finally got intimate

 

[svengali]

An additional thought:

Young men tend not to understate their sexual conquests or prowess so I wonder how many really do the deed in their teens??

 

[WRXXXR]

Nothing unusual about still being a virgin in your mid-20s in my humble opinion and certainly nothing wrong with it either.

I disagree Sven, maybe it was ok 20 years ago but times, they are a changing. Unless your waiting for marriage / religion I can't see any 20 something guy in 2011 who thinks it's normal he's still a virgin. Is it ok that he is? absolutely but I don't think it's normal. Teenagers are far more sexually active now than 10 years ago when I was at high school.

I'd imagine it would make you feel like a social leper, especially when your mates are telling you about what they've been up to and deep down you probably have to watch what you say.

If your confident enough, most girls won't care but you only need to look at some of the girls who post to know that most are pretty caring and would genuinely enjoy sharing and showing you a great experience. L/T's seems to have a girl for every flavour but if you want something more private, look at someone like Alexandra Silk (and others of course) because you only have to read her posts to see that she's a great girl and could help you out.

 

[skye]

I agree wrxxxr the longer you wait the more blocks you will have to hurdle. So bite the bullet and go for it better or for worse. Its an amazing experience sex. You need to explore and discover like learning to ride a bike you can become really good at it. Some never do but many go on to make a lady the happiest woman in the world (as far as sex is concerned anyway lol).
What ever it is that is stopping you, get passed it asap.

 

[bushseeker]

I agree wrxxxr the longer you wait the more blocks you will have to hurdle. So bite the bullet and go for it better or for worse. Its an amazing experience sex. You need to explore and discover like learning to ride a bike you can become really good at it. Some never do but many go on to make a lady the happiest woman in the world (as far as sex is concerned anyway lol).
What ever it is that is stopping you, get passed it asap.

spoken like a true female not (not able) to realise the true issue

guys dont just have the women throwing themselves at them - heck if that was the case working girls would be unemployed girls

sure a small % do but the rest of us can truly struggle

i lost my virginity to my first proper girlfriend in my mid 20s
certainly there was less than 0 oportunities as a teenager all the girls were to pre occupied cycling through about 10 of the guys in my year

 

[megas]

Don't worry about what they might think of you. There are plenty of people who lose theirs later in life for lots of different reasons and I doubt many WLs would judge you negativity.

You might be interested in Dave Hughes's experience:
Link is broken, so taken down.

I say go for it!

 

[hot_stuff_900]

You have waited this long, you may as well wait longer for someone nice. You will regret losing your virginity to some random sex worker.

There is a lot more to life than sex. Anyway sex is just a glorified version of masturbation. Save your money and do not waste it on some sex worker who does not know, care or respect you.

 

[Penny]

U r the last of a dying bread u should feel happy to be able to be so selective my first was a total dud.. ahhh the choices u make at 16 r not as well informed

 

[bushseeker]

You have waited this long, you may as well wait longer for someone nice. You will regret losing your virginity to some random sex worker.

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disagree while i technically lost the big V to a random sex worker it no more filled a need than whan i do now between drinks

there is not the semblence of comparrison between sex with a willing girlfreind and WL sex no matter what

I didnt lose my virginity until i met Belinda (still remember her name) no matter how many WLs i saw before her ( it was 3 or 4)

 

[Rochelle]

Come on guys......age really doesn't matter when it comes to losing the big V. pressure doesn't help and some people might need a bit more time. So when you are ready .......then your are ready......doesn't matter who with and how old you are.

R.xxxxxxxxx

 

[MaskedOne]

I disagree Sven, maybe it was ok 20 years ago but times, they are a changing. Unless your waiting for marriage / religion I can't see any 20 something guy in 2011 who thinks it's normal he's still a virgin. Is it ok that he is? absolutely but I don't think it's normal. Teenagers are far more sexually active now than 10 years ago when I was at high school.

I'd imagine it would make you feel like a social leper, especially when your mates are telling you about what they've been up to and deep down you probably have to watch what you say.

If your confident enough, most girls won't care but you only need to look at some of the girls who post to know that most are pretty caring and would genuinely enjoy sharing and showing you a great experience. L/T's seems to have a girl for every flavour but if you want something more private, look at someone like Alexandra Silk (and others of course) because you only have to read her posts to see that she's a great girl and could help you out.

Yep this is basically how i feel about the situation. Not a great feeling.

You have waited this long, you may as well wait longer for someone nice. You will regret losing your virginity to some random sex worker.

There is a lot more to life than sex. Anyway sex is just a glorified version of masturbation. Save your money and do not waste it on some sex worker who does not know, care or respect you.

U r the last of a dying bread u should feel happy to be able to be so selective my first was a total dud.. ahhh the choices u make at 16 r not as well informed

Heh, it's not that I waited or am being selective. I had my chances in my younger years which I failed to capitalize on including any recent chances due to my incompetence and now I don't even try. My problems affect more than this area of my life tbh. I don't think I'd regret the first time being with a sex worker, its just sex. Plus I'd rather not be totally clueless if it eventually happens the normal way.

Anyways thanks for the helpful replies everyone

 

[WRXXXR]

I learnt the hard way early on about blowing my chances so I know how you feel. If the cake is there to be eaten...

Half the girls you sleep with in the future won't love you (and vice versa!!) so what's wrong with an escort?? Least that way you can choose your type of girl. You've got some great choices on here who will more than understand.

Hell, why not be awesome and have a 3sum for your first time!! Maybe just book for 2 hours as the first time might be over quickly Only thing better than 1 hottie sucking your dick is 2!! Now spin that in a story to the boys

 

[skye]

No, in fact we can understand more than any one that circumstances are different for different people. For ladies its different, men are for ever chasing us so its easy to pop your cherry had the right man the right things to say to you.
For men its harder because we expect you to take control and initiate. Not all people possess the confidence to do this (we cant all be narcissistic).

 

[sexnut]

Lost mine in a 3sum, sure they won't remember the special moment but you will forever ccasion14 Who knows you may get addicted to them:love10:

 

[Saige]

Lost mine in a 3sum, sure they won't remember the special moment but you will forever ccasion14 Who knows you may get addicted to them:love10:

Dont be so sure SexyNut...dont be so sure:love10:

 

[sexnut]

Dont be so sure SexyNut...dont be so sure:love10:

Definitely know how to make a guy gush

 

[MaskedOne]

I learnt the hard way early on about blowing my chances so I know how you feel. If the cake is there to be eaten...

Half the girls you sleep with in the future won't love you (and vice versa!!) so what's wrong with an escort?? Least that way you can choose your type of girl. You've got some great choices on here who will more than understand.

Hell, why not be awesome and have a 3sum for your first time!! Maybe just book for 2 hours as the first time might be over quickly Only thing better than 1 hottie sucking your dick is 2!! Now spin that in a story to the boys

haha a 3sum for my first time, I was about to write "Is such a thing even possible?"....

Lost mine in a 3sum, sure they won't remember the special moment but you will forever ccasion14 Who knows you may get addicted to them:love10:

....then I saw this. Would be quite an experience.
Unfortunately I'm from the other side of the country so I'll probably never meet any of the girls here. Kind of a shame, they all seem nice. (I stumbled upon this site by accident and didn't even notice L/T's was in Perth)

No, in fact we can understand more than any one that circumstances are different for different people. For ladies its different, men are for ever chasing us so its easy to pop your cherry had the right man the right things to say to you.
For men its harder because we expect you to take control and initiate. Not all people possess the confidence to do this (we cant all be narcissistic).

Yeah I somehow don't see non W/L's understanding this.
Funny thing is when I was 17 I did have a few girls basically throw themselves at me. I thought once I turn 18 and start going out to clubs it'll be the same deal but with more options. lol reality check, didn't happen like that. In their teens girls are fine with chasing, not so much afterwards probably fear of being labeled a 'slut' or just the fact there's more guys to chase them.

 

[tengels1976]

my thoughts are that it's not a big deal. Its very much dependant on the person, and their reasons for waiting

 

[Lindsay]

I wouldn't be self concious if I were you. If we were to judge everybody that came into our workplaces we wouldn't get jobs. Married men come in, men with special requests...A good lady will make you feel comfortable and will treat you with respect if it is returned. It's of much more concern to you than it is to any working lady. If you wish to lose your virginity to a working lady just choose a lady that you feel is friendly and let her know it's your first time, she'll probably be more than happy to try and make it a fun, positive experience for you.
Best wishes, L. x

 

[Tasha]

For me, I have seen several virgins, both male and female and I am thinking more in terms of WOW, they have chosen me to be someone they will remember for the rest of their lives. I feel honoured!