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Delilah Bee 🐝

Delilah Bee 🐝

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A question for the punters!

I want to know about answering texts. I find myself at times when I go to sleep or I’m busy for a weekend or not working for a couple days etc, that I don’t always check my phone. I can come back to many text requests, but I worry about replying a day later or two days later Incase it is not appropriate timing. I understand that many have wives and girlfriends and such and the last thing I ever want to do is get somebody in trouble!But I also feel rude for not replying if I miss the text. So my question is, if you text a Lady, and she doesn’t get back to you within a couple of hours, do you want her to respond whenever she receives the text? Or should she just wait to hear from you again?
Hope this makes sense!

Dee x
 
Good question - thanks for asking.

For me I assume that the lady is busy and will reply when she can within, for example, a few hours. More than that, though, is a definite NO for me - especially on a different day etc....

For those of us who are partnered it can be pretty awkward, to say the least, if received at an "out of hours" time.

I have on numerous occasions asked that the lady does not txt me back if it's not during the day and during the week. Weekends and after 5 or before 9 are off limits for me. I much prefer she waits to hear from me again....

Hope this helps.....
 
That’s a great question Dee & no doubt a dilemma for many. Shows what sort of person you are to even care.
personally I’d prefer you to text when you can but no necessarily with the answer. Maybe with something like...you there? Can you text now? Convenient?
That way if it’s awkward for us to converse we can easily justify that’s it a ‘friend’ who might be texting.
 
Longshot said:
That’s a great question Dee & no doubt a dilemma for many. Shows what sort of person you are to even care.
personally I’d prefer you to text when you can but no necessarily with the answer. Maybe with something like...you there? Can you text now? Convenient?
That way if it’s awkward for us to converse we can easily justify that’s it a ‘friend’ who might be texting.
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This is what I have taken doing. I tend to text back, especially if it was a thoughtful introduction text from someone really wanting to see me, and ask something by along the lines of “appropriate time to discuss your appointment?” Or “would you like to book in a time for your eye exam?” Haha because I feel so bad when I don’t reply and I don’t want them to think I don’t value their time. But I also know how silly it sounds to ask about an eye exam 😂
 
fb456 said:
Good question - thanks for asking.

For me I assume that the lady is busy and will reply when she can within, for example, a few hours. More than that, though, is a definite NO for me - especially on a different day etc....

For those of us who are partnered it can be pretty awkward, to say the least, if received at an "out of hours" time.

I have on numerous occasions asked that the lady does not txt me back if it's not during the day and during the week. Weekends and after 5 or before 9 are off limits for me. I much prefer she waits to hear from me again....

Hope this helps.....
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Thank you for your reply! If it’s the same day I do tend to reply and just say hello, as to not ad any details incase they are at home etc. But I do worry about giving off an unprofessional vibe or that I don’t take their time seriously if I don’t reply at all. But also never want to risk texting them the next day when they are sat having a wine with their wife 😱 it’s a dilemma for me I’ve always wondered about
 
no One size fits all solution. if the punter is driven by a horny desire to be satisfied, no “immediate” response & they’d move on & not want any apologetic delayed response down the track.
if they are intrigued to specifically share play with u they would likely desire to know they have not been ghosted and a delayed response could be welcomed and assuage the paranoia of no reply.
maybe include some rider in ur add to alert to a possible delayed response& ask that any txt enquiry to include response options.
 
I personally do not mind to have a late reply. If for some reason, I do not get a response I just figured the lady in question is either busy, or having a time off. I do understand that I'm not the only one asking for bookings, hence when I do I always ask if it's possible to see them on such day in advance or how far in advance is it better to make a booking. If for some reason I'm looking for a same day booking. I fully understand if I don't get an answer. Due to my job I can't always reply so If you can't reply to me quickly. I understand perfectly.
 
Delilah Bee 🐝 said:
A question for the punters!

I want to know about answering texts. I find myself at times when I go to sleep or I’m busy for a weekend or not working for a couple days etc, that I don’t always check my phone. I can come back to many text requests, but I worry about replying a day later or two days later Incase it is not appropriate timing. I understand that many have wives and girlfriends and such and the last thing I ever want to do is get somebody in trouble!But I also feel rude for not replying if I miss the text. So my question is, if you text a Lady, and she doesn’t get back to you within a couple of hours, do you want her to respond whenever she receives the text? Or should she just wait to hear from you again?
Hope this makes sense!

Dee x
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Dee i think you are in a catch 22 situation here and its great to see that you take the time to care about your clients and my thoughts and just my opinion is that i certainly would not like to get a text from you with wifey around so i would would say no text after a certain period of time
 
Generally, I need to make an appointment within the next 2-4 hours. I would prefer to receive a reply within about 2 hours, otherwise wait until I next have free time and I can try again.
 
Phrases like punting & YMMV are often used here, that's just it ... if a girl or whomever you've txt'd doesn't respond there's a reason. If they respond a day later then it could still be an opportunity, given many day late txt's I've rec'd are normally apologetic & they often hope I found someone ... that's ok.
If I'm txt'ing around 10ish for a lunch time liaison & hear nothing by lunchtime ... perhaps they're not working or only pick up the work phone at 12 ... that's happened! It all depends on who & when ... so, take a punt & remember YMMV

If they don't respond ever, there's probably a reason for that too ... !
 
Delilah Bee 🐝 said:
A question for the punters!

I want to know about answering texts. I find myself at times when I go to sleep or I’m busy for a weekend or not working for a couple days etc, that I don’t always check my phone. I can come back to many text requests, but I worry about replying a day later or two days later Incase it is not appropriate timing. I understand that many have wives and girlfriends and such and the last thing I ever want to do is get somebody in trouble!But I also feel rude for not replying if I miss the text. So my question is, if you text a Lady, and she doesn’t get back to you within a couple of hours, do you want her to respond whenever she receives the text? Or should she just wait to hear from you again?
Hope this makes sense!

Dee x
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No, do not respond days later .. please. or even hours later ..
Yes, if I am still ready , willing and able to , I will contact you again at a time suiting me.
BUT , for any WL , being "on call " doesn't mean you are doing nothing but waiting for me .. lol .. go enjoy your life too !!
 
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I think a reply within a couple hours is reasonable. If later then as you mentioned a dummy text would be best.
‘Hi Darling do you still want to cum over?’
Could end relationships ..
Sometimes I’ll leave instructions or block the number to be safe
Good question indeed
Loving this forum 🤙🏻🤙🏻
 
It’s like anything and could be any one reason why a text is not responded to. I always go by “better late than never”. So you would never know why a person didn’t respond to your text. In these cases normally if I don’t receive a response I will send a gentle reminder after 24 hours. If that not replied I would forget it about it. This is in the case of a working lady or business question etc etc. if it’s a known person the 3rd text would be to the tune of “what the fuck is wrong with you”😂
 
Delilah Bee 🐝 said:
Sometimes we can’t always reply depending if we are sick, off work, with family etc 🥰 it’s usually not because we don’t wish too.
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If a new client doesn't show up for an arranged rendevous, would you give them that same benefit of the doubt, or in absense of a very compelling excuse from them soon after would you be relucant to try again? I'm assuming the you would probably be relucant to see them again unless maybe they gave you a good excuse for what happened, there are plenty of others and you probably feel you don't need their business atleast when it seems likely they might well muck you around again.

Getting no response leaves the person completely in the dark, maybe they asked for or said something that left you not wanting to see them (like their race or age), maybe you thought they were a timewaster and blocked their number, they don't know.

I don't want to waste my time trying to see someone that doesn't want to see me.

Maybe I try and book you one day and get no response, and then a few weeks later I'm feeling the urge and maybe I feel I can wait for 4-5 hours ahead; now if I try and book you again, but atleast how I seem to think punters do these things I have to give you a fair chance before giving up, so I have to wait another few hours to see if you'll respond.

I can try and be as polite and understanding as the next person, but I don't want to be prepared to try and set something up and wait half the night on multiple occasions, I can absolutely respect Rex Feral's approach of wipe and and move on.
 
I’ve had replied calls or text over 2 day later after my initial contact.
A bit worrying when the blue tooth automatically answers in the car.
So once it’s gone past my availability I block there number just in case.
I normally try again when available but will soon move on and forget them and go back to my regular private ladies
 
I understand if the lady hasn't responded then she isn't available. It doesn't really matter why, and I certainly won't continue to text or pressure her in any way. But by the same logic, after say half a day, getting those late texts can become a problem for obvious reasons. I'm not offended by a lack of reply, and will always try again at another convenient time.
 
I recently texted someone to book an appointment with no response, I called again the next day to see I it was confirmed still nothing . I then removed the details and assumed she didn't want the business. Now I am hoping she didn't book it in and will be disappointed I do not come.
Too bad for her as I tried to fix the communication.
 
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