jdstar
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I had one, I meet her when I was in Melbourne she was an asian girl working privately she was very beautiful and pretty fell in love at first sight. I was gone so crazy about her that I used to visit her ever four days at first it was for sex later couple of weeks I used see her just to talk spend time with her and sex was just a reason to meet her. after couple of months i became very close to her that she started sharing everything about her life she was not only beautiful by her looks but also by her heart. she used to call me when ever she Is scared to live alone or depressed. I had a very good relation with her. when ever I think about her I just think life is very unfair with her after what ever happened in her past i all ways wish I had a time machine and change the things. my heart used squeez when ever I see her ad . I wanted to express my love to her but I was very afraid. time past by and she had to leave Australia as her visa about to expire. don't know what was holding me back to express my feelings maybe I was afraid what my family members and people would think . anyway we had a good time with each other she is still in contact with me. after meeting and knowing her I respect every working lady and every one should treat them with respect they are also humans with heart not an object.
sorry, if been very dramatic and also for my English skills
sorry, if been very dramatic and also for my English skills
Slugger1
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Thanks for sharing your story. WL have private lives and feelings as well and sometimes the lines are blurred. There are a number of threads on here about relationships with WL's some work and some don't but life is full of sliding door moments and and if you both want it you can make it work.
Plumage
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Your English might not be perfect yet, but the way you write is really moving, jdstar. "My heart used to squeeze". What a lovely way of saying it.
(I had never heard that before, but it turns out that it is a thing:
http://www.loisflowers.com/whats-making-my-heart-squeeze-today/ )
(I had never heard that before, but it turns out that it is a thing:
http://www.loisflowers.com/whats-making-my-heart-squeeze-today/ )
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Thank you for being so open and sharing.
I have never fallen for a client. There are some I get really excited to see and could spend all day with but I still keep it seperate.
I have probably 3 clients that have really opened upto me and have been going through some stuff and haven't has the support from anyone, these ones message frequently and I check in on them daily too.. I may only see them for a booking once a month so not much money is changing hands but I want them to know they do have someone they can turn too and vent or talk to who won't judge and is a constant for them and I will always message back.
These clients do know alot more about me but in doing so they also are fully aware that I am not looking for a relationship and choose to remain single, so they are aware of where they stand in that sense and know nothing but friendship is on offer ❤
I have never fallen for a client. There are some I get really excited to see and could spend all day with but I still keep it seperate.
I have probably 3 clients that have really opened upto me and have been going through some stuff and haven't has the support from anyone, these ones message frequently and I check in on them daily too.. I may only see them for a booking once a month so not much money is changing hands but I want them to know they do have someone they can turn too and vent or talk to who won't judge and is a constant for them and I will always message back.
These clients do know alot more about me but in doing so they also are fully aware that I am not looking for a relationship and choose to remain single, so they are aware of where they stand in that sense and know nothing but friendship is on offer ❤
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ozwarlock67
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Yes. Several times. But the one I did seriously get involved with was a huge mistake.
She was an alcoholic and had gambling and mental health issues.
The drink killed her in the end.
On the upside, I've met several WL's over the years that became good friends.
She was an alcoholic and had gambling and mental health issues.
The drink killed her in the end.
On the upside, I've met several WL's over the years that became good friends.
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thats awesome but i believe a person shouldnt vent there issues on a worker in this profession as you guys are not trained to deal with such issues unless there are psychologists/psychiatrists working ladies
T
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From a WL prospective I had a few clients over the years become infatuated and it really made things awkward.
One even abused me in the Kalgoorlie days because he had been taking time off work to come see me at work and got mad when he saw me out with my boyfriend at the time. I had never led him on in anyway.
Another became extremely stalkerish and it was very scary.
Others I stopped seeing as my clients because they just got to full on.
I'm most definitely not saying you are like this but please be aware there is a line between providing a service and private life.
One even abused me in the Kalgoorlie days because he had been taking time off work to come see me at work and got mad when he saw me out with my boyfriend at the time. I had never led him on in anyway.
Another became extremely stalkerish and it was very scary.
Others I stopped seeing as my clients because they just got to full on.
I'm most definitely not saying you are like this but please be aware there is a line between providing a service and private life.
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After years in the field WL's actually are probably way more qualified than psychologists in some way. You meet so many different personalities and you are sharing an intimacy when a person is naked and vulnerable giving you a huge insight into a persons persona. Times that by however many and WL's become very good at reading people and learn a lot as well as become absolutely wonderful advisors (not all but a lot).
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i disagree, as i am a clinical psychologist i see at risk/severe cases, i'll rather not go into detail and after years of being trained to deal in this area of mental health there are skills required by training, even a person who meets a lot of people cant prepare. however, it all depends i guess in what your seeing. i would guess most working ladies only see mild to moderate cases, i could be wrong as i am not on the other side.
that being said, when i think of people venting/talking about there problems i automatically think of severe cases as i am used to on a daily bases.
sircurious
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Hopefully when you went to University to study psychology, your essays were better spelt and grammatically correct?
sircurious
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All I am saying is that you as a qualified medical practitioner commenting on a serious story on this forum, I would have thought you might have taken a little more care in responding and ensuring your response on such a serious issue was readable.
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I'm sorry i do not remember commenting on any serious issues. All i stated were that work life and personal life needs to be seperate. There is a reason people spend years studying and hold such titles as therapists/psychologists ect. if you needed surgery would you see a working lady to operate on you?
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Thanks. This is why I see more than 1 lady. And a reason I space my meets because I like the lady.
Lukey
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For real WL’s are not qualified to treat people with genuine mental health conditions. Encouraging them to seek proper help ie psychologist, even their own GP, is really the only responsible thing to do in that situation.
Its actually dangerous to think you have the skills to manage something like that without the proper training.
Its actually dangerous to think you have the skills to manage something like that without the proper training.
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I think you both would be surprised. WLs have an amazing insight and learn to deal with many different personalities on many different levels. When I was a WL I was often thanked for helping clear someone's head space by being an ear and offering guidance and many a client said the same about other ladies when I was in a reception or management position. Unless you've personally worked the floor it would be hard for you to understand and I don't expect you too. As for having their own stuff to deal with, sure they do but being a counsellor is just another part of their job description.
Lukey
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Well I admit I don’t have 30 years experience working in the industry, so I’m stuck for now with my current opinion which is that yes, I’m sure WL’s can help someone with general troubles or worries on their mind absolutely, just like a friend can.
Further than that though, the best thing they could do IMO is recognise the signs of a genuine mental health condition, & direct them to appropriate professionals.
Mental health conditions can be very complicated & you might think you’re helping them but it may not be the case.
They need a whole support network, not a psychologist & WL in the same person. You can imagine how destructive getting too emotionally dependent on a WL for someone with poor mental health could be I think?
No doubt you’re wanting to help them feel better, but acting as a substitute for a psychologist is dangerous IMHO.
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Again, yes you haven't worked in the industry. Many men go to WL's as they feel it a lot less intimidating and the intimacy is part of the soothe. Your opinion is valid from a non industry worker perspective but not how things actually work. Without WL's many of these men would not get any help ever.
Lukey
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I sense this is starting to go in circles, but I’m saying that’s exactly where the WL can help him out by encouraging him to seek professional help. He may well take her advice if theres a good relationship/connection there (obviously she can’t force him & ultimately its on him).
Being “soothed” by a WL can certainly help short-term, but longer term a genuine M/H condition needs proper, professional help & strategies (moreso than seeing an escort once a week).
Besides that it’s actually a lot of responsibility for the WL to take on also, playing the role of a psychologist on top of everything else.
I can only give my opinion on the subject (as valid or otherwise as it may be considered) given my experiences as a male, those of my friends & WL’s I know.
It’s actually OK to disagree
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Yes you are repeating yourself and you sure don't listen. For someone who is not a WL and don't know how the service works from a WL's prospective nor have the years of experience you are not comprehending anything else being said. This doesn't make you right thoughI sense this is starting to go in circles, but I’m saying that’s exactly where the WL can help him out by encouraging him to seek professional help. He may well take her advice if theres a good relationship/connection there (obviously she can’t force him & ultimately its on him).
Being “soothed” by a WL can certainly help short-term, but longer term a genuine M/H condition needs proper, professional help & strategies (moreso than seeing an escort once a week).
Besides that it’s actually a lot of responsibility for the WL to take on also, playing the role of a psychologist on top of everything else.
I can only give my opinion on the subject (as valid or otherwise as it may be considered) given my experiences as a male, those of my friends & WL’s I know.
It’s actually OK to disagree
WL's have been doing this since the beginning of time. It's not something they take on, it's part of the job description.
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With clients that you feel.a certain connection with it would be hard not to catch some kinds of feels for wether it close friends or something more. I would honestly say I've got a close connection with 2 of my guys and we chat and catch up a lot and would do lengths for each other
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i know a person who would regularly see this one working lady, not going to say names but most punters may know her perhaps, who knows. After seeing this one lady for along period of time they became close such as many working ladies know they can get close to there clients. when she left the sex industry and working other jobs outside and got into a serious relationship, she ended all communications with her clients. well guess what he would constantly go around to the working ladies house, visit her at work ect ect just cause he needed to talk to someone. she told him that they were done and not to contact her again, as this was so sudden the poor fella didn't know how to respond and decided to self harm. now the client am i talking about did not see health services and only working ladies, sure, talking about it can help to a certain point but when does that point become to much? would you as a sex worker want to see a client talking about he's self harming issues if so how would you respond and treatment? i was hesitant to write this part but ill continue anyways as its a confronting topic for most.
Lukey
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Yeah that’s terrible for the poor guy.
Exactly why you can’t treat mental health conditions lightly.
It’s a dangerous thing for a fella to become too emotionally reliant on a WL. It just is, regardless how good the intentions of the WL may be...
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You can listen, be a listening ear to anyone but if they indicated they feel the need to self harm. And you think they may have tried already or thinking of it . That’s when you could nicely point them in the right direction to speak to a doctor, professional. Caring costs you nothing so do the right thing.
Very dangerous subject this thread really but could be helpful to some people.
Very dangerous subject this thread really but could be helpful to some people.