Red Flags, Green Flags, and Pink Handcuffs

[Sally-Harlots]

In the sex industry, we get pretty good at reading people. Sometimes faster than a bouncer spots a fake ID, and we're doing it in heels.

We learn to spot the red flags before they even walk through the door, appreciate the green flags that make the job sparkle, and every now and then, find ourselves tangled up in something deliciously confusing: the pink handcuffs.

Let’s break it down.

Red Flags: Proceed With Caution (or Not at All)​

These are the moments that make your gut whisper, “Nope.”

• The Over-Confident Texter: Sends five paragraphs before booking, mostly about how “different” he is. (Spoiler: he’s not.)
• The Boundary Tester: “Can I just—?” No. You can’t just.
• The Negotiator: Thinks the price list is a conversation starter.
• The Energy Vampire: You feel drained after five minutes, and not in the good way.
• The Emotional Dump Truck: Books a session to cry about his ex and forgets you’re not his therapist.

Red flags aren’t always loud, sometimes they’re subtle. A weird tone, a pushy comment, or that little feeling in your chest that says “trust yourself.”
In this line of work, your intuition is your best security system.

Green Flags: The Clients You’d Clone If You Could​

Then there are the angels, the respectful, kind, charming ones who make the job feel easy.

• The Great Communicator: Clear, polite messages, respectful tone, and actually reads your ad.
• The Boundary Respecter: Never pushes, always asks, and listens to your “no” like it’s gospel.
• The Hygiene Hero: Smells divine, trims neatly, and showers without being asked.
• The Gentleman: Says thank you, means it, and treats you like a human being (imagine that).
• The Regular Who Gets It: Knows your time, value, and boundaries, and doesn’t need reminding.

Green flags are the reason we keep doing this. They remind us that good clients exist, and that chemistry doesn’t have to mean chaos.

Pink Handcuffs: When the Lines Start to Blur​

Ah, the pink handcuffs, not literal (well, sometimes literal), but emotional ones.
They’re what happen when the connection feels too good.

That client who makes you laugh a little too easily.
The one who remembers the small things.
The one you start to look forward to, even off the clock.

They’re not a red flag, but they’re not quite green either.
They’re that soft, blurry middle ground where affection and professionalism flirt with each other.

The trick?
Enjoy it, but don’t let it tighten. Pink handcuffs are cute, until they start to leave a mark.

The Takeaway​

Sex work is full of signals, some flashing, some glowing, some glittering pink.
Learning which ones to follow (and which ones to flee) is part of the art.

So here’s to trusting our instincts, celebrating the good ones, and keeping our wrists, and hearts, free enough to move when we need to.


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