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Rape fantasy

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canieatu

Is it normal for someone to want to know what it is like to play role raping a lady and forced her to do unnatural acts.

Maybe its a fetish but it something i have always wondered about
 
Be careful and don't take it too far... make sure the Lady is comfortable and it is what SHE wants and realise...at all times...it is JUST role play.... don't EVER, EVER even think about playing it out in real life!

Having said that I know many Ladies who have asked me to play out a rape fantasy with them....some have told me that it has been a fantasy that they have carried since their early teens... and which they had never let out...until they met someone that they felt they could trust.

Ask SlaveGirl Suzie...We played out many rape fantasies together a few years ago...we both enjoyed it....

I have role played rape fantasies with some married Women...who have then gone home and shared their experience with their Husbands.
 
Not entirely uncommon

I make sure theres alot of communication and trust first
Sometimes even a signed contract and always a safe word
 
canieatu said:
Is it normal for someone to want to know what it is like to play role raping a lady and forced her to do unnatural acts.

Maybe its a fetish but it something i have always wondered about
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if you have like a safe word ( so u both know when 2 stop ) it can be fun :)


John :) :)
 
SirStefan

Thanks for the reply, I understand what you ar talking about, but how do you address this with ladies as I wouldnt have a clue where to start.
 
I would never say it was uncommon... I know quite a few of my friends who fantasise about "being taken against their will" (but totally want it if you know what I mean).

I find nothing hotter than fighting with a guy in bed before sex.... good rough and tumble action until they pin you down and start thrusting away *sigh*
 
Some girls are really into it and it can be a real turn on for the guy as well. :)
 
canieatu said:
SirStefan

Thanks for the reply, I understand what you ar talking about, but how do you address this with ladies as I wouldnt have a clue where to start.
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Well firstly one must develop a mutual understanding.... this can be stablished by asking simply, but leading questions...like... "Have you ever fantisised about being taken against your will?"

Now if the girls says "Never...what a terrible question to ask... how dare you insult me in that way"....then drop the subject....and move on!

But if she says... "Well I would never have told anyone...but since you ask... and since I trust you... yes, I have fantisised about being kidnapped, blindfolded, carried away and fukt by strangers"....

Then just slowly work on it and let it develop and you will get there... but DONT force it!
 
Minxxy said:
I would never say it was uncommon... I know quite a few of my friends who fantasise about "being taken against their will" (but totally want it if you know what I mean).

I find nothing hotter than fighting with a guy in bed before sex.... good rough and tumble action until they pin you down and start thrusting away *sigh*
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I couldnt agree more!
I love being taken by guys/girls 1 or 2 ;-p
Nice to give up control and be ravished!
 
So, canieatu, as you can see here, direct from the ladies... some of them really like that sort of play.
 
i think trust and communication are the most important here. code words for stopping play like "safety words" seem to help from experience
 
Guys, at the risk of sounding like a schoolmarm I must protest at the use of the word "rape".

What is being described here is NOT rape but "rough sex" or possibly "rape fantasy".

The obvious difference is that it is consensual with control firmly in the hands of the "victim" and it is undertaken for the pleasure of both parties with their mutual pleasure as the goal. It can include rough handling, props like handcuffs, masks, whips, ropes etc but it is still only a game played by consenting adults.

Rape, or "sexual assault" as it is described in the criminal code, is the most degrading form of attack a woman can suffer at the hand of a fellow human. It usually involves violence and the kind of mental torment that some women never recover fully from.

I hope that none of the lovely ladies who post to this board ever discovers the difference at first hand.
 
I have these role playing games with some of my lovers, but we have a special word, and when that word is said, all activities stop.
 
is there a difference between rape fantasy and things like bondage and having a little bit of rough play before sex?
 
I really hope it is normal, I've been waiting for it to happen to me most of my life (from early teens). I've never found a female partner with a "strong enough character" to do it properly, they've either got the giggles half way through, or broke character to check if I was OK (despite safety word in effect).

Don't get me wrong, I'm not into violence or being a submissive, or bondage, I just want to be a "willing participant" in being used and abused for one reason only ... her pleasure!!

*sigh*

Maybe one day...
 
i find it normal to fantasise about it
its just how we are
its kind of like watersports, except if you were to rape someone with both parties knowing, it can be a bit harder to not go overboard
 
svengali said:
Guys, at the risk of sounding like a schoolmarm I must protest at the use of the word "rape".

What is being described here is NOT rape but "rough sex" or possibly "rape fantasy".

The obvious difference is that it is consensual with control firmly in the hands of the "victim" and it is undertaken for the pleasure of both parties with their mutual pleasure as the goal. It can include rough handling, props like handcuffs, masks, whips, ropes etc but it is still only a game played by consenting adults.

Rape, or "sexual assault" as it is described in the criminal code, is the most degrading form of attack a woman can suffer at the hand of a fellow human. It usually involves violence and the kind of mental torment that some women never recover fully from.

I hope that none of the lovely ladies who post to this board ever discovers the difference at first hand.
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svengali, you hit the nail on the head.
far from being a prude, i have issues with the title of "rape" for the reasons that you mentioned.
I beleive people need to be re-educated into calling it by some other name, than "rape". submissive sex? rough sex?
 
svengali said:
Guys, at the risk of sounding like a schoolmarm I must protest at the use of the word "rape".

What is being described here is NOT rape but "rough sex" or possibly "rape fantasy".

The obvious difference is that it is consensual with control firmly in the hands of the "victim" and it is undertaken for the pleasure of both parties with their mutual pleasure as the goal. It can include rough handling, props like handcuffs, masks, whips, ropes etc but it is still only a game played by consenting adults.

Rape, or "sexual assault" as it is described in the criminal code, is the most degrading form of attack a woman can suffer at the hand of a fellow human. It usually involves violence and the kind of mental torment that some women never recover fully from.

I hope that none of the lovely ladies who post to this board ever discovers the difference at first hand.
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I would just like to say thank you so much for making this point because yes when it does happen to you when you haven't consented it is totally different and is something that no one should ever have to go through ( TRUST ME ). And as for the lady's who do enjoy role playing this it can be a huge burden on the experience if ever done without consent and i hope to god that doesn't happen.
 
Rape fantasies......you are walking a very fine line between 'role play' and 'getting out of hand' and it can be pretty scary if the line is crossed. Saftey words and trust are a must but they do not guarantee that the 'line crossing' won't happen and the play is turning into something too 'real' to handle..........well.....definitely a role play that focuses on the dark side of human nature.......so be careful what you wish for.:ky:
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Rochelle of Langtrees said:
Rape fantasies......you are walking a very fine line between 'role play' and 'getting out of hand' and it can be pretty scary if the line is crossed. Saftey words and trust are a must but they do not guarantee that the 'line crossing' won't happen and the play is turning into something too 'real' to handle..........well.....definitely a role play that focuses on the dark side of human nature.......so be careful what you wish for.:ky:
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Well said Rochelle thats what i was trying to say but you worded it alot better
 
Personally I think that with the right person it can be quite hot!! The whole thought of being dominated & 'thrown down" bit of hair pulling & biting... have to go now little flustered!!!!! PHEWW (so yeah done properly is alot of fun, try talking the whole experience through first so you know all the do's & don'ts with your partner in crime):la::icon_blow:-X
 
mmmm
lots of fun to be had!!
This is the art of domination being able to manage the parameters but maintain the eroticism.

The best way is to talk talk and talk aboutit so that you can develop the scenario to fulfil the ultimate fantasy the talking about it is foreplay in its own right and equally as tantalising as the act

let me know if you are feeling naughty......
 
Re: Overpowered, not raped

I think the best way to put it into words from a female's perspective is to be overpowered. And this is from someone we know and trust. Not a stranger to just violate us and leave us traumatised. The words rape and fantasy are a bit alarming.

I think it depends on the dynamic within the relationship you have with the person. It depends on the passion between two people as well.

Sometimes with a lover, it can be a relationship that is volatile (heated, passionate sex, rough) - and to have a fight then be overpowered by a strong masculine man who we are in a relationship with - or are sexually attracted to - is a turn on.

As far as asking women whether they'd like to be 'raped' as a fantasy - you'll have them running away from you, and never speaking to you again! In fact, they might even call the Police.

Experiences like these are part of life and our journey. I'd wait for the time to come and also for a lady to suggest you overpower her. But this needs to be discussed and done with consent.

As with most fantasies it's hard to discuss them upfront with our lovers or partners. Some partners would be alarmed at our fantasies so men feel they approach escorts instead. Depends on how well you communicate. I have a lover at the moment who I can barely talk to, and also I'd feel like a real dork telling him my fantasies that I'd love him to carry out. Maybe one night when we are drinking I might bring it up.

But yes the relationship is volatile, it's a rollercoaster, it's passionate, heated etc. I have chosen this relationship because it's intriguing (and tiring) - (over the tender intimate touch that you find in a long term partnership right now). I want the experience of a passionate lover and I'm a bit addicted to it. One day I'm not sure if I'll get into something so long term - even though I crave the intimate touch along with intimate communication. Being polyamorous, who knows?

Laura
lauramyer.com
 
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Sure, it's totally normal to fantasise about that which most societies call 'taboo', including 'rough sex' or 'rape' scenarios. There is some excellent literature available on this topic and I recommend "The Red Queen" available via amazon.com if you are really keen to go deeper into the psychology and anthropology of this topic. The only key things to remember in any kind of sexual interchange are that whatever happens between participants should always be: 1. Consenting 2. Safe 3. Sane. Love, Sheldon. xox
 
Thanks Sheldon,

That's really interesting. I'm going to look on Amazon now.

Geez, I'm learning so much here!

Laura
lauramyer.com
 
Describing it as a rape fantasy is absolutely inaccurate in that the fantasy isn't about getting raped, however calling it submissive or rough sex is also inaccurate. Laura said it best; it's about being overpowered. You want to be taken. It's not simply that the sex is submissive or rough, but that you want the other person to 'control' whether you have sex to begin with, which means stuggling to no avail. However you are still in control. If you say the safe word, it finishes, and if you do it with someone you trust, you will know they won't cross the line.

Personally, as someone whose dream women are amazonian, I've always fantasised about a woman doing it to me. I've even gone to a physically stronger dominatrix and to physically stronger prostitutes who took physical control of me. The idea of being overpowered, overwhelmed and giving up control (even though I'm stil in control ultimately) to my female partner is without a doubt one of my biggest fantasies.
 
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