Hi Bob,
I also have an enlarged prostate BPH.
I don't use toys and not sure if you are taking meds for it but I take 5mg Tadalafil (Cialis) daily and it helps with the symptoms and also the old fella.
Have a chat to your doctor about it, if you haven't already.
The price is still coming down in Australia but I still find it cheaper to get them from India through an Australian company.
They are on the PBS scheme for enlarged prostate treatment but only for DVA veterans at the moment.