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perthminx
I am not ashamed of who I am. If you have sat down to talk to me you would know that I am very open and opinionated and above all, honest. I have made many mistakes in my life. I have been arrested, been to court, terminated a pregnancy, stayed in abusive relationships, contracted an STD (treatable thank god!!), taken drugs and hurt other people's feelings. Some of these things I wish had never happened. People make mistakes. However, the real mistake is not learning from them.
I have learnt that my true friends in life are ones that support me regardless of whether they think my decisions are good or bad.
For months I posted on the forum, mentally debating whether to go to LPs or not. I didn't discuss my anguish with anyone.... I finally took the plunge and one Friday night i went to LPs and it made me feel so elated and courageous and brave and free....
After I went to LPs I told my mum, dad, and my closest friends. My dad was very supportive (he wanted more information! I told him to find his own club!). My best friends were happy for me and very curious... But my mum.... well she has gone and told half my family. I am not upset that she told everyone..... I am upset that she didn't confront me first.
It is funny the things she said. She told me that I wouldn't find love at LPs. She wanted me to be in a happy, loving relationship with a man. She wanted me to be safe. I was going to build a reputation for myself. And that the men will use me....
I personally don't see why people cannot get there head's around the notion that women like sex. At this stage in my life I don't want a relationship. I am wonderfully happy just being with me and my three babies. We don't need a man to love us.... And I like sex. This poses a problem since I don't have a partner. Now I could go out every weekend to clubs and pubs and end up with God knows, who God knows where, risking God knows what..... or I could go to a safe club that weeds out the morons, provides bouncers and staff in a secure private complex with condoms for me to have sex.
And my reputation. Refer to the first paragraph. I think it is self explanatory the reputation I have in my family. The words 'black sheep' and 'doesn't give a shit' come to mind.....
And as far as men using me goes, the last time I checked going to LPs was voluntary as was having sex there. The desire to have sex is mutual meaning no one is using anyone else...
OK so you are probably wondering if I have a point.... I am curious to know who in your lives you have told about your lifestyle decisions. Do your parents, friends and family know you swing? DO they know you are gay/bisexual? Why/why not? What has been their reactions?
I have learnt that my true friends in life are ones that support me regardless of whether they think my decisions are good or bad.
For months I posted on the forum, mentally debating whether to go to LPs or not. I didn't discuss my anguish with anyone.... I finally took the plunge and one Friday night i went to LPs and it made me feel so elated and courageous and brave and free....
After I went to LPs I told my mum, dad, and my closest friends. My dad was very supportive (he wanted more information! I told him to find his own club!). My best friends were happy for me and very curious... But my mum.... well she has gone and told half my family. I am not upset that she told everyone..... I am upset that she didn't confront me first.
It is funny the things she said. She told me that I wouldn't find love at LPs. She wanted me to be in a happy, loving relationship with a man. She wanted me to be safe. I was going to build a reputation for myself. And that the men will use me....
I personally don't see why people cannot get there head's around the notion that women like sex. At this stage in my life I don't want a relationship. I am wonderfully happy just being with me and my three babies. We don't need a man to love us.... And I like sex. This poses a problem since I don't have a partner. Now I could go out every weekend to clubs and pubs and end up with God knows, who God knows where, risking God knows what..... or I could go to a safe club that weeds out the morons, provides bouncers and staff in a secure private complex with condoms for me to have sex.
And my reputation. Refer to the first paragraph. I think it is self explanatory the reputation I have in my family. The words 'black sheep' and 'doesn't give a shit' come to mind.....
And as far as men using me goes, the last time I checked going to LPs was voluntary as was having sex there. The desire to have sex is mutual meaning no one is using anyone else...
OK so you are probably wondering if I have a point.... I am curious to know who in your lives you have told about your lifestyle decisions. Do your parents, friends and family know you swing? DO they know you are gay/bisexual? Why/why not? What has been their reactions?