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One day great career in business, a year later working girl in Langtrees! Why we work in brothel?

Stuck my nose in one, told him i'd seen her with another bloke. They sorted it out but neither of them spoke to me again

A year later i found out one of the blokes at work was screwing my bossess missus when they were on different swings. Kept my mouth shut. Took him a while but i don't work there anymore. Best paying job i ever had.

Sometimes its best to not know, and if you know pretend u dont
 
Russian women have a much better education than the brides from Asia and Latin America

really then why go for this type of thing at Mood Castings 50 wacks @ x rubles per stroke?



 
I don't believe there can be a right and wrong in this. I once had a partner that was cheating on me in the multiple times with multiple people. A mutual friend we had that knew the whole thing and chose not to tell me.

I no longer harbour any hatred or meaning to that decision. But I can tell you that I was devastated at the time.

What I got from that is that I will never stand aside and allow bad things to happen to good people.
 
A good friend, Yes. In my life, my good friends are my family and we protect each other and tell the truth about things, even ugly things.

While I've never had to be in this position before, I know that among our circle that a betrayal from a partner is one degree but a betrayal from a friend is just as bad. If my partner was cheating- I'd want to know. I'd like to hear it from him first, but if a friend knew and didn't tell me- that friendship would be over. Trust would be blown to high hell. I don't keep deceitful people in my life it is poison for the soul.

You can judge me and think I'm nosy and should stay out of other peoples business, and my method might be madness for some- but it works just fine for me and my long term circle of mates.
 
Desire83 said:
A good friend, Yes. In my life, my good friends are my family and we protect each other and tell the truth about things, even ugly things.

While I've never had to be in this position before, I know that among our circle that a betrayal from a partner is one degree but a betrayal from a friend is just as bad. If my partner was cheating- I'd want to know. I'd like to hear it from him first, but if a friend knew and didn't tell me- that friendship would be over. Trust would be blown to high hell. I don't keep deceitful people in my life it is poison for the soul.

You can judge me and think I'm nosy and should stay out of other peoples business, and my method might be madness for some- but it works just fine for me and my long term circle of mates.
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Desire are you saying that your friend does not have as close a relationship with your partner as you do with your friend .

what if your friend's relationship is far more closer to your partner than you have with your friend .
what happens now ??

either way the friend is damned if they do and damned if they don't .

i prefer to stay out of the equation and take it like a man and stand tall.
 
Well, you'd hope then that that friend would confront the partner and ask them to stop being a shit and tell the truth. Humans are curious creatures and what I think would be an ideal result isn't necessarily what I'd get in reality.

Everybody has their own code to live by. I'm not going begrudge someone that- if it doesn't sit right with them to be honest with me, so be it. If their loyalty lay with my *cheating partner* well I'm sure they can enjoy lots are snuggly wuggly picnics together in the future. :p
 
lol so true different situations call for different actions :-) :-) no one ever wins . i have seen it many times before :-)

sit on the fence and watch the entertainment when the shit hits the fan .
 
A while ago 60 minutes ran a feature on a scam involving Russian and Eastern European "mail order brides".

They met their future husbands through a dating website, corresponded, met, eventually migrated to Australia and gained citizenship by virtue of their Australian husbands and that was when the wheels fell off.

Next move was to turn up to a Police Station with a couple of (self-inflicted) bruises and tell a heart-breaking story of abuse to get a restraining order which virtually locked the man out of his own home. By the time all the legal dust had settled the guy found himself several grand out of pocket, single again and possibly with a Police record to boot.

I am sure there are some lovely women in Russia and other countries who would genuinely like to meet and marry Australian men but sorting the genuine from the scammers and gold-diggers would be a test for Solomon himself.
 
Have been getting emails lately from a girl who is trying to scam money doesnt matter what I send back I still get loving emails back saying shit then sends nude pics with them all of a sudden they stop if I dont send cash
 
svengali said:
A while ago 60 minutes ran a feature on a scam involving Russian and Eastern European "mail order brides".

They met their future husbands through a dating website, corresponded, met, eventually migrated to Australia and gained citizenship by virtue of their Australian husbands and that was when the wheels fell off.

Next move was to turn up to a Police Station with a couple of (self-inflicted) bruises and tell a heart-breaking story of abuse to get a restraining order which virtually locked the man out of his own home. By the time all the legal dust had settled the guy found himself several grand out of pocket, single again and possibly with a Police record to boot.

I am sure there are some lovely women in Russia and other countries who would genuinely like to meet and marry Australian men but sorting the genuine from the scammers and gold-diggers would be a test for Solomon himself.
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As mail order brides seem more synonymous with lonely guys finding a wife I imagine the scammers (faking domestic abuse) would be an exceedingly small percentage, otherwise the industry would surely dry up. Sixty Minutes/A Current Affair/Today Tonight *love* to get the public riled up on nonsense inflammatory stories, especially the last two. A while ago I remember seeing a sob story piece about people who had handed their money over to internet scammers, we were supposed to feel sorry for them as nothing could be done. Common sense (along with common courtesy) isn't really that common anymore!

Armada suggests Russian women have a strong drive to have a family, if that's their motivation breaking up a family after they get a husband would be counterproductive.
 
Next move was to turn up to a Police Station with a couple of (self-inflicted) bruises and tell a heart-breaking story of abuse to get a restraining order which virtually locked the man out of his own home. By the time all the legal dust had settled the guy found himself several grand out of pocket, single again and possibly with a Police record to boot.

Well, i live in the hotel where Aussie guy bashing his girlfriend every Friday when he gets drunk. She choose to put up with it, because " she loves this man". It doesn't' mean that all Australian man like that, By the way. To get restraining order it's not that easy.
 
Farm Boy 2 said:
Russian women have a much better education than the brides from Asia and Latin America

really then why go for this type of thing at Mood Castings 50 wacks @ x rubles per stroke?



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If you get outside your farm land further than South East Asia than you will see it for yourself.-)
 
johnlou said:
lol so true different situations call for different actions :) :) no one ever wins . i have seen it many times before :)

sit on the fence and watch the entertainment when the shit hits the fan .
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But i feel kind of responsible.....-))) I would love to know that about my partner but it seems like a lot of women wants to live in illusion...
 
I beg to differ with a lot of the replies to this thread.

If you were in your friend's situation and your partner was cheating on you, wouldn't you want to know? I've been in this situation before and though finding out broke my heart, I was grateful to be told sooner rather than later. Ignorance isn't always bliss.

I wouldn't feel bad for telling the truth because you haven't done anything wrong. The only person who should feel guilty is the partner who continues to lie to your friend. x
 
Miss Holly said:
I beg to differ with a lot of the replies to this thread.

If you were in your friend's situation and your partner was cheating on you, wouldn't you want to know? I've been in this situation before and though finding out broke my heart, I was grateful to be told sooner rather than later. Ignorance isn't always bliss.

I wouldn't feel bad for telling the truth because you haven't done anything wrong. The only person who should feel guilty is the partner who continues to lie to your friend. x
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True...Ignorance is very costly in almost all contexts.
 
Armada said:
If you get outside your farm land further than South East Asia than you will see it for yourself.-)
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Could not understand this at first but think your saying something like " poverty is a cruel master" And by the way this ethnicity elitism sometimes draws a bit of flack.

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I would confront the cheater and give him a time frame to do the right thing. I lost a good friend once because I couldn't watch her lowlife husband make her look like a fool. Lost my friend but when her marriage finally ended I was the first person she called.
I am straight up and stand up for what I believe in. Where do you draw the line? Do you watch someone getting assaulted and don't react in case you hurt someones feelings.
Complacency is as bad as being the perpetrator x
 
I agree with Vivian,,,give them the opportunity to come clean themselves and if they don't then tell them.
I had a group of people who knew my ex was repetitively cheating on me and didn't tell me. It went on for years and my instinct was telling me something was up, he was trying to convince me I was crazy and it was all in my head, to the point where I had a nervous breakdown..Still no-one came forward..Eventually I found out and a huge wight lifted, even more so when I totally ended things...I felt very let down by our friends and couldn't believe they let me suffer for so long and for that I can't forgive and don't have them in my life anymore...Sadly the world dealt many of them the same blow years later and though I believe in karma I felt for them.
It's an awful feeling to find your partner is cheating and I wouldn't wish that on anyone but it's worse not knowing for sure...
 
Desire83 said:
A good friend, Yes. In my life, my good friends are my family and we protect each other and tell the truth about things, even ugly things.

While I've never had to be in this position before, I know that among our circle that a betrayal from a partner is one degree but a betrayal from a friend is just as bad. If my partner was cheating- I'd want to know. I'd like to hear it from him first, but if a friend knew and didn't tell me- that friendship would be over. Trust would be blown to high hell. I don't keep deceitful people in my life it is poison for the soul.

You can judge me and think I'm nosy and should stay out of other peoples business, and my method might be madness for some- but it works just fine for me and my long term circle of mates.
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I totally agree with you girl,,,,,,,, been there done that so to speak not cool

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How good is the friendship that is the what gets to the heart of it
I have one truly great friend Been friends since we were 8 so 42 yrs If it happened to him I would stick my bib in . But any other friends ? Maybe not
 
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