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need advise.. I want a mmf, he says no..

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I'm married, I love my husband a lot, but he is a stubborn jerk at times.

He won't allow me to have a 3some with two guys, but is more then happy to have a 3some with two girls.

Nothing I say can change his mind, I'm at a loss, this is my only fantasy, and one I'd love to fulfill...

Help! :(
 
Are you bisexual? Is he?

If you are but he isn't I can, in a little way, understand his frustration.

If that isn't the case then he is being a bit unfair. What are the reasons for his reluctance? Would he accept you with two other guys where he isn't involved, or maybe just spectating?
 
magrov said:
Are you bisexual? Is he?

If you are but he isn't I can, in a little way, understand his frustration.

If that isn't the case then he is being a bit unfair. What are the reasons for his reluctance? Would he accept you with two other guys where he isn't involved, or maybe just spectating?
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I'm not Bi, But I am happy to give it ago, but he is pig headed.
He has had mmf in the past with other girlfriends, but hates the idea with me.
He'd hate me with other guys.. He would be quite upset..
 
Ahoy;- I suspect your hubby is jealous and controlling.
I assume you are happy in your relationship, but, wish to experiment with your sexual urges or needs.
My advice is not telling your hubby, but, become a punter like the rest of us. Hire a male and let him know you wish a double and for that male to make all the arrangements. This way you get your satisfaction and needs attend too and its only costing you some cash, welcome to the world of the punter. Good luck in your endeavours.
Cheers and Pass the rum
Secret_Plussize said:
I'm not Bi, But I am happy to give it ago, but he is pig headed.
He has had mmf in the past with other girlfriends, but hates the idea with me.
He'd hate me with other guys.. He would be quite upset..
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Secret_Plussize said:
I'm not Bi, But I am happy to give it ago, but he is pig headed.
He has had mmf in the past with other girlfriends, but hates the idea with me.
He'd hate me with other guys.. He would be quite upset..
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Ok, so it's a jealously issue. If he has done it in the past but doesn't want to "share"you witg a guy then at least you know that he is deeply in love.

I would suggest talking with him about getting a professional guy in as the third party. That way he can feel a bit less threatened. Just make sure that if it happens that you spend equal attention of him as well as the other guy.
 
happypirate said:
Ahoy;- I suspect your hubby is jealous and controlling.
I assume you are happy in your relationship, but, wish to experiment with your sexual urges or needs.
My advice is not telling your hubby, but, become a punter like the rest of us. Hire a male and let him know you wish a double and for that male to make all the arrangements. This way you get your satisfaction and needs attend too and its only costing you some cash, welcome to the world of the punter. Good luck in your endeavours.
Cheers and Pass the rum
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Probably better advice then mine HP. :)
 
Secret_Plussize said:
I'm married, I love my husband a lot, but he is a stubborn jerk at times.

He won't allow me to have a 3some with two guys, but is more then happy to have a 3some with two girls.

Nothing I say can change his mind, I'm at a loss, this is my only fantasy, and one I'd love to fulfill...

Help! :(
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It's a simple matter of what's good for the goose is good for the gander! Suggest it be a birthday or special occasion gift for you and it not be someone in your circle of friends..
 
Secret_Plussize said:
I'm not Bi, But I am happy to give it ago, but he is pig headed.
He has had mmf in the past with other girlfriends, but hates the idea with me.
He'd hate me with other guys.. He would be quite upset..
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lol SP :-) so your husband is a very proud man :-) ,
lets see if we can help
Q1 have you and hubby played with another lady ??
if no then how about you do this and then try again with the MMF , you might have a win
 
johnlou said:
lol SP :) so your husband is a very proud man :) ,
lets see if we can help
Q1 have you and hubby played with another lady ??
if no then how about you do this and then try again with the MMF , you might have a win
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Well . I am happy to play with another girl, but what pisses me off is I asked for a mmf, he said 'No.but I'll do two girls..' Like that somehow makes up for it.

So.. Maybe another girl is needed... Just need to find one.. Hrmmm..
 
Tania said:
It's a simple matter of what's good for the goose is good for the gander! Suggest it be a birthday or special occasion gift for you and it not be someone in your circle of friends..
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My birthday is so far away :(
But may give him time to prepare... Yes.... I'll start planting seeds!
 
magrov said:
Ok, so it's a jealously issue. If he has done it in the past but doesn't want to "share"you witg a guy then at least you know that he is deeply in love.

I would suggest talking with him about getting a professional guy in as the third party. That way he can feel a bit less threatened. Just make sure that if it happens that you spend equal attention of him as well as the other guy.
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A professional guy? Are they in Canberra??
(I'm far too sheltered!)
 
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Secret_Plussize said:
A professional guy? Are they in Canberra??
(I'm far too sheltered!)
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i am guessing your sheltered life has cum to an end :) :) time to open your sexy eyes wide
 
I had a girlfriend we both wanted a 3some
Except as in your case the make up was different.
I decided I may not feel the same way about her after an mmf.
(I was much younger then)
So that decided it. Neither of us got our wish
Lifes full of not getting what you want a nd sometimes its better that way
 
intimidation to be had when there is another light saber in the room. The force can be opposing. Not sure how you feel about having another set of boobies infront of you.
 
Secret_Plussize said:
Well . I am happy to play with another girl, but what pisses me off is I asked for a mmf, he said 'No.but I'll do two girls..' Like that somehow makes up for it.

So.. Maybe another girl is needed... Just need to find one.. Hrmmm..
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Homer SP has answered this question :-)

homer said:
intimidation to be had when there is another light saber in the room. The force can be opposing. Not sure how you feel about having another set of boobies infront of you.
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Ahoy all you need to do, is ask the madam at Canberra langtrees to organise the guys for you, as well they have lovely beautiful rooms. Welcome aboard SP
Cheers and Pass the Rum

Secret_Plussize said:
A professional guy? Are they in Canberra??
(I'm far too sheltered!)
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Well Secret Plusslze. i think you've let him Take Controll of your Life. But Never Too Late, Dont Ever Ask, Tell him,If you Never Go, you Never Know. Tell him and let the Fun Begin.........:):p:D:joyful::kiss:
 
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Both parties should agree otherwise it will just cause friction within the relationship..and you need to be prepared to deal the consequences. Is it worth it...is the question and answer...
 
you do need to tread very lightly with having a MMF as your husband might say yes and he really means no , it is far easier for a women to except another women into the fold but a man to except another male , not so good .

i have seen subjects like this on many a chat room and forums andthey do have their problrms not for a week but some time in the future . :-)
 
johnlou said:
you do need to tread very lightly with having a MMF as your husband might say yes and he really means no , it is far easier for a women to except another women into the fold but a man to except another male , not so good .

i have seen subjects like this on many a chat room and forums andthey do have their problrms not for a week but some time in the future . :)
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Yes, I agree JL.

The big question you have ask is : are you prepared to risk what you have (however imperfect), for something you have never tried, and may not even like when you get there ?

There are lots of things we all want to do, but when we weigh them up against the consequences/possible consequences, then we walk away with out doing it.

If you really want to, I'm sure that you can engineer the situation, but is it worth it ? Depends on how you feel about him.

Cheers.
 
Thanks guys :)

Looks like it won't happen.. Makes me a little sad, but my marriage does mean more... Even if he is a stubborn jerk at times...
 
Secret_Plussize said:
Thanks guys :)

Looks like it won't happen.. Makes me a little sad, but my marriage does mean more... Even if he is a stubborn jerk at times...
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SP we all have our faults but we do make up for them in other ways :-) :-)

take the good with the bad :-) you never know , it might cum to the fruition some day in the near future :-)
 
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