Marraige is Outdated?
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Sir Cruiser
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You could well be right
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Geordie Steve
Certainly marriage is is something that is changing in this modern day. We live in a liberated society where marriage doesn't mean you can't share or stop exploring. Marriages and couples that understand and openly tactile this are generally stronger
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Jennajane
Marriage...... Just a piece of useless paper !!!!!
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Geordie Steve
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Geordie Steve
It can be a piece of paper that acts like a handcuff ..... But not always, some find it the key to greater experiences
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Geordie Steve
Sadly all too often true
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Geordie Steve
Sadly all too often true
Farm Boy 2
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Geordie Steve
So many men wish that was the case , however it is not true ,
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Geordie Steve
I like that response, very clever
We were together for 9 years before getting married...nothing changed...I just didn't want to be old, fat and have wrinkles in my wedding photos so I thought I better hurry up and do it....LOL
Some people aren't suited to a traditional style relationship...and I think it's great that more and more couples are being more acceptable of non traditional styles- poly relationships, non-monogamy etc. While those things are not currently apart of my relationship or might not ever be... I've seen how these things can both help and hinder.
Marriage is a legal arrangement... Not to be held with romantic notion. I think that's were people get so confused. You can marry someone you are inlove with, and/or love and care for... but don't marry someone just because you love them...because that (IMHO) is not enough of a good reason.
Some people aren't suited to a traditional style relationship...and I think it's great that more and more couples are being more acceptable of non traditional styles- poly relationships, non-monogamy etc. While those things are not currently apart of my relationship or might not ever be... I've seen how these things can both help and hinder.
Marriage is a legal arrangement... Not to be held with romantic notion. I think that's were people get so confused. You can marry someone you are inlove with, and/or love and care for... but don't marry someone just because you love them...because that (IMHO) is not enough of a good reason.
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dominique lewis
people just dont take marriage serious these days some are on the third,forth you dont need to get married to be together its just a piece of paper and sometimes after u get married people change and show their true colours
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Geordie Steve
Thanks for responding back and I totally agree with everything you say.
The important thing in any relationship is to be tolerant of one another and of others. Its important not to be judgemental of others and to respect their rights to enjoy life as they wish. We're not all the same but I can appreciate other lifestyles and respect them. We never know how as individuals we evolve over time both alone and in relationships
The important thing in any relationship is to be tolerant of one another and of others. Its important not to be judgemental of others and to respect their rights to enjoy life as they wish. We're not all the same but I can appreciate other lifestyles and respect them. We never know how as individuals we evolve over time both alone and in relationships
Tania Desire - you needn't worry. You will never be old, fat and have wrinkles.....
How Marriage Benefits Society
Looking at marriage in general, there is no question that marriage is good for society: Children, women, and men all benefit enormously.
Benefit's for Children
Looking at the benefits for children, there is a wealth of evidence that children living in two-parent homes are better off than those in single-parent families. They are 44 percent less likely to be physically abused, 47 percent less likely to suffer physical neglect, 43 percent less likely to suffer emotional neglect, and 55 percent less likely to suffer some form of child abuse.
Those living with their two married parents through age 16 have higher grades, higher college aspirations, and better attendance records than children in one-parent families or who experience family disruption. They also are half as likely to drop out of high school.
Furthermore, children in two-parent homes are less than half as likely as children in single-parent families to have emotional or behavioral problems. And children who live with biological or adoptive parents are about a third as likely as those living with single parents to use illegal drugs, tobacco, or alcohol. In addition, boys raised with two parents are about half as likely to commit a crime leading to incarceration by their early 30s.
Clearly, the research shows that marriage helps children do better on every level, and that is exactly why the government should encourage healthy marriages.
Benefits for Women
For women, despite a whole generation of a movement that has misled them into thinking that marriage is not necessarily in their interest, the evidence proves otherwise.
Studies show that wives are 30 percent more likely to rate their health excellent or good than single women of the same age. In addition, married women (and men) are less likely to suffer long-term chronic illness or disabilities than single women. And mortality rates are less than one-third as high among married women as among non-married women.
Women gain financially as well--marriage increases income by 50 percent for women (25 percent for men)--and domestic violence rates decrease substantially. Married women are far less likely to be victims of intimate-partner violence than divorced, separated, or never-married women. The rate per thousand for divorced or separated women is 31.9; never married women, 11.3; married women, just 2.6.
Benefits for Men
Finally, the evidence shows that marriage benefits men significantly and serves as a civilizing influence on them.
Notably, single men have almost six times the probability of being incarcerated as married men, and men who live with their biological children are more involved in the community and service organizations, more connected to their own siblings, adult children, and aging parents. Fathers living with their children invest more hours per week in work and careers than non-fathers.
Men's financial gains are substantial. Married men make 25 percent more money than single men, and two-parent families are five times less likely to be in poverty than single-parent families.
Their health and quality of life also improve with marriage. Mortality rates are two-thirds as high among married men as among single men. Married men (and women) are less than half as likely as their divorced counterparts to attempt suicide
Looking at marriage in general, there is no question that marriage is good for society: Children, women, and men all benefit enormously.
Benefit's for Children
Looking at the benefits for children, there is a wealth of evidence that children living in two-parent homes are better off than those in single-parent families. They are 44 percent less likely to be physically abused, 47 percent less likely to suffer physical neglect, 43 percent less likely to suffer emotional neglect, and 55 percent less likely to suffer some form of child abuse.
Those living with their two married parents through age 16 have higher grades, higher college aspirations, and better attendance records than children in one-parent families or who experience family disruption. They also are half as likely to drop out of high school.
Furthermore, children in two-parent homes are less than half as likely as children in single-parent families to have emotional or behavioral problems. And children who live with biological or adoptive parents are about a third as likely as those living with single parents to use illegal drugs, tobacco, or alcohol. In addition, boys raised with two parents are about half as likely to commit a crime leading to incarceration by their early 30s.
Clearly, the research shows that marriage helps children do better on every level, and that is exactly why the government should encourage healthy marriages.
Benefits for Women
For women, despite a whole generation of a movement that has misled them into thinking that marriage is not necessarily in their interest, the evidence proves otherwise.
Studies show that wives are 30 percent more likely to rate their health excellent or good than single women of the same age. In addition, married women (and men) are less likely to suffer long-term chronic illness or disabilities than single women. And mortality rates are less than one-third as high among married women as among non-married women.
Women gain financially as well--marriage increases income by 50 percent for women (25 percent for men)--and domestic violence rates decrease substantially. Married women are far less likely to be victims of intimate-partner violence than divorced, separated, or never-married women. The rate per thousand for divorced or separated women is 31.9; never married women, 11.3; married women, just 2.6.
Benefits for Men
Finally, the evidence shows that marriage benefits men significantly and serves as a civilizing influence on them.
Notably, single men have almost six times the probability of being incarcerated as married men, and men who live with their biological children are more involved in the community and service organizations, more connected to their own siblings, adult children, and aging parents. Fathers living with their children invest more hours per week in work and careers than non-fathers.
Men's financial gains are substantial. Married men make 25 percent more money than single men, and two-parent families are five times less likely to be in poverty than single-parent families.
Their health and quality of life also improve with marriage. Mortality rates are two-thirds as high among married men as among single men. Married men (and women) are less than half as likely as their divorced counterparts to attempt suicide
Jacq
Sure is Jacque, Been married for 30 something yrs (took 10 to do that) but seperated for along time, stayed that way as i swore i would never do it again, which i would of if xxxxx had her way, sorry still married can't do that, it' comes down to a piece of paper that can cost you shitloads of money, i was lucky i just walked away from a house, so that was fair enough. Seen friends loose lots and lots more... Don't get me wrong i admire people that can last a lifetime but it's pretty rare, last time i heard we had the worst divorce rate in the World!!
Selina Glitters
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Marriage was such hard work, constantly draining. Separation is just as hard though (with kids).
Sir Cruiser
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Separation is hard, with or without kids, but obviously harder withSelina, Seperation is Hard when Kids are Involved...........
scarlett lee
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"And mortality rates are less than one-third as high among married women as among non-married women."
Don't mean to rain on your parade Zeus but human mortality rate is 100% no matter who you are.
Don't mean to rain on your parade Zeus but human mortality rate is 100% no matter who you are.
Farm Boy 2
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"And mortality rates are less than one-third as high among married women as among non-married women."
Don't mean to rain on your parade Zeus but human mortality rate is 100% no matter who you are.
True Scarlett when your time is up its up, bit unfair when someone else decides your time is up tho .
Happy2
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You sure Scarlet?"And mortality rates are less than one-third as high among married women as among non-married women."
Don't mean to rain on your parade Zeus but human mortality rate is 100% no matter who you are.
Start another thread on reincarnation and you will find someone who has been alive in some form since at least Cleopatra
And the best thing ? Your past lives are always cool Cleopatra , Napoleon ,Joan of Arc
Always notice its Cleopatra . Never Cleopatra's snake handler ?
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Jennajane
My mum and dad..... They r amazing xxxxxxx
Sophie Lee
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