Lonely

[AmeliaKennedy]

Hey everyone!

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One thing I have struggled with since going private is being lonely, obviously this line of work is not something you want to tell people so it's kept a secret which means you don't have many people to lean on. It also means you are not chatting to colleagues or getting to spend time with the girls because your private your on your own alot...

What do other girls do to stop the loneliness of the industry from creeping in? I have always worked in very social team environments so it's a shock when most days unless I'm with a client I'm alone in my own thoughts.

How do you make friends in this industry when it's such a secret?

Xx

 

[Tania Admin]

Oh that is sad. I just want to reach through the computer and give you the hugest hug.

When I worked private many of my close friends knew what I did for a living and were always there for me. Perhaps open up to your friends, even just 1 or 2 of them. If they judge you then they aren't really friends anyway, you are still the same person they know and your occupation shouldn't change that.

I'm always here if you need someone to talk to about industry related stuff. Flick me a pm and I will send you my mobile number.

 

[AmeliaKennedy]

Oh that is sad. I just want to reach through the computer and give you the hugest hug.

When I worked private many of my close friends new what I did for a living and were always there for me. Perhaps open up to your friends, even just 1 or 2 of them. If they judge you then they aren't really friends anyway, you are still the same person they know and your occupation shouldn't change that.

I'm always here if you need someone to talk to about industry related stuff. Flick me a pm and I will send you my mobile number.

Thank you... xx

 

[Sir Prank]

online games if you cant talk to people irl why not talk to them over the internet playing a game you enjoy. even though im not a working lady it helped me get through last year covid lockdown

 

[Lukey]

Hey everyone!

Warning deep and meaningful

One thing I have struggled with since going private is being lonely, obviously this line of work is not something you want to tell people so it's kept a secret which means you don't have many people to lean on. It also means you are not chatting to colleagues or getting to spend time with the girls because your private your on your own alot...

What do other girls do to stop the loneliness of the industry from creeping in? I have always worked in very social team environments so it's a shock when most days unless I'm with a client I'm alone in my own thoughts.

How do you make friends in this industry when it's such a secret?

Xx

I love deep & meaningful
So I’m not a WL (shock!) so cant give you lived experience, but I can totally understand your feelings of isolation; I can imagine it’d be a shock to go from social work environments to your current.

Very generally speaking (and possibly not very helpful ) I find it can be helpful to talk with people in a similar situation to you. Spend time doing things you enjoy, with other people who feel the same way about it (and I don’t mean that the way some might think ). It (feeling lonely, isolated) must be a common thing for private WL’s to experience.

I hope you can find ways to ease those feelings, they’re not fun!

 

[Deleted member 49173]

Hey everyone!

Warning deep and meaningful

One thing I have struggled with since going private is being lonely, obviously this line of work is not something you want to tell people so it's kept a secret which means you don't have many people to lean on. It also means you are not chatting to colleagues or getting to spend time with the girls because your private your on your own alot...

What do other girls do to stop the loneliness of the industry from creeping in? I have always worked in very social team environments so it's a shock when most days unless I'm with a client I'm alone in my own thoughts.

How do you make friends in this industry when it's such a secret?

Xx

I can provide you with absolutely ZERO experienced help , but why do you keep yur IG private ?
could it provide some form of pseudo social intercourse maybe ?? and I hear that IG can be quite the place to 'advertise' for all/any business ..

 

[Taco]

Why is the there not a professional association or social club / support group ?

 

[Tina M]

Why is the there not a professional association or social club / support group ?

Why doesn’t someone start an online one , and maybe you could meet up every know and then . Just an idea I don’t do private service only so not sure if you would find it to be a good idea? Being a few ladies , gents out there that may like a chat every know and then . Good question Paco

 

[Daredevil]

I'm pretty sure there is one. The regular I go to has mentioned it to me and I've seen it on her phone when she's been showing me an example of the checks done on potential clients to weed out problems.

 

[Georgia Sharp]

Why is the there not a professional association or social club / support group ?

there is, Magenta do meet ups

 

[Tina M]

I'm pretty sure there is one. The regular I go to has mentioned it to me and I've seen it on her phone when she's been showing me an example of the checks done on potential clients to weed out problems.

Maybe you could ask the name of it for the ladies Daredevil ? If the private ladies are interested ? AmeliaKennedy and any other ladies that might like to check it out. Sorry for my input , I know I’m not a private worker but might be worth a look at least .

 

[Taco]

Ah there you go. Georgia says Magenta is one !!!

 

[Taco]

Hey Amelia,
Good to see some practical support, love and understanding for you out there! Yes, the irony is in such an intimate business, you are quite isolated due to stigma in a judgemental society !! You can't or it s difficult socialise and share your feelings and stresses with anyone outside the industry if you need to be discreet. That's ' why Tina is lucky? / brave? in not hiding anything.

 

[Tina M]

Hey Amelia,
Good to see some practical support, love and understanding for you out there! Yes, the irony is in such an intimate business, you are quite isolated due to stigma in a judgemental society !! You can't or it s difficult socialise and share your feelings and stresses with anyone outside the industry if you need to be discreet. That's ' why Tina is lucky? / brave? in not hiding anything.

Hi
I’m not brave or lucky I’ just don’t hide what I do because it a job and I’m lucky my family and friends are open minded yes and not everyone’s is . But once people see you for a service it is known . If you need and want to keep it under wraps then you just have to ask your clients to respect your privacy and I’m sure they will be more than happy to if you ask them. Some ladies don’t have a choice to be open about it due to many reasons. And I understand that , I just don’t hide it if they want to ask me , just my view . I was just saying Paco you had a good question about that and I meant no disrespect to many one by putting a comment on the thread. Just as others also can comment on a thread as long as there respectful in there views . If you put a thread up and I’m respectful there’s no harm . As I said you had a good question and thought what a good idea you had. I’m judged just as much as any person I’ve heard it all I live in a small town things go around quickly so I know how it feels to be judged by a lot of people at once. I’m an understanding person, caring and respectful to other WL for the work they do it is a service that many people desire and want. I meant well I was paying you a complement Paco for putting the question up in the thread . Sorry to anyone that felt i was not right for commenting no harm intended.
tina

 

[osscar]

Wow Amelia you have shed light on something i never thought possible however now you have shared it does seem to make sense, i always thought that WLs had a great network but as you say if you are working privately it could be isolating and lonely. I wish i had an answer but im a mear male and have no insight all i know is that you ladies are worth your weight in gold for the service you provide to the male poulation and im sure youhave to put up with some a holes but know that most of us do appreciate and respect you all.

 

[Taco]

Hi
I’m not brave or lucky I’ just don’t hide what I do because it a job and I’m lucky my family and friends are open minded yes and not everyone’s is . But once people see you for a service it is known . If you need and want to keep it under wraps then you just have to ask your clients to respect your privacy and I’m sure they will be more than happy to if you ask them. Some ladies don’t have a choice to be open about it due to many reasons. And I understand that , I just don’t hide it if they want to ask me , just my view . I was just saying Paco you had a good question about that and I meant no disrespect to many one by putting a comment on the thread. Just as others also can comment on a thread as long as there respectful in there views . If you put a thread up and I’m respectful there’s no harm . As I said you had a good question and thought what a good idea you had. I’m judged just as much as any person I’ve heard it all I live in a small town things go around quickly so I know how it feels to be judged by a lot of people at once. I’m an understanding person, caring and respectful to other WL for the work they do it is a service that many people desire and want. I meant well I was paying you a complement Paco for putting the question up in the thread . Sorry to anyone that felt i was not right for commenting no harm intended.
tina

Oh Tina, no no , There s no offence I was complimenting you. That's the trouble with text .. it can be misinterpreted. I hold you up as an example. I don t know your personal circumstances so as you said you are 'lucky 'to have supportive friends and family and or brave if you live your life regardless of other peoples opinions. I'm with you. I so admire you. Perhaps it s better phrased as SW s don t have the support and understanding they deserve as human beings??

 

[Tina M]

Oh Tina, no no , There s no offence I was complimenting you. That's the trouble with text .. it can be misinterpreted. I hold you up as an example. I don t know your personal circumstances so as you said you are 'lucky 'to have supportive friends and family and or brave if you live your life regardless of other peoples opinions. I'm with you. I so admire you. Perhaps it s better phrased as SW s don t have the support and understanding they deserve as human beings??

Paco thank you for the complement, however you comment feels a bit sarcastic , that is my option , I wrote a respectful comment in the beginning post . I said you had a good question. If you want to discuss anything with me , from the way it is turning we can discuss it privately like adults Not make sarcastic comments about another persons post on a thread.
Tina

 

[Taco]

Tina I'm so sorry my comments were able to be interpreted that way. As I said, that is a problem with text, it's open to different interpretation, and I think it may be relevant for people to see the person reading can be hurt unintentionally.
I can only assure my comments were honestly NOT sarcastic, but in admiration and respect.
I don't think our conversation is turning bad, but actually an example of how communication needs to be open and care may need to be taken to be thoughtful and clear.
I take full responsibility for not being clear.
I am gutted that my comments have unintentionally caused you hurt.

 

[Lukey]

Tina I'm so sorry my comments were able to be interpreted that way. As I said, that is a problem with text, it's open to different interpretation, and I think it may be relevant for people to see the person reading can be hurt unintentionally.
I can only assure my comments were honestly NOT sarcastic, but in admiration and respect.
I don't think our conversation is turning bad, but actually an example of how communication needs to be open and care may need to be taken to be thoughtful and clear.
I take full responsibility for not being clear.
I am gutted that my comments have unintentionally caused you hurt.

Yes true. I find the liberal use of these guys can help where text alone might have various interpretations.

 

[Tina M]

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Tina I'm so sorry my comments were able to be interpreted that way. As I said, that is a problem with text, it's open to different interpretation, and I think it may be relevant for people to see the person reading can be hurt unintentionally.
I can only assure my comments were honestly NOT sarcastic, but in admiration and respect.
I don't think our conversation is turning bad, but actually an example of how communication needs to be open and care may need to be taken to be thoughtful and clear.
I take full responsibility for not being clear.
I am gutted that my comments have unintentionally caused you hurt.

Hi
Your comment never hurt me or guttered me. And I will also take responsibility for not being more clear. I’m glad we can chat about it, best way to go . it can be the way one reads the text and I will be more open and thought full when replying. Because I do apologise for my response and I’m respectful when I write . I was adding to a thread as others do. But if I offend or upset yourself or anyone in am sorry I didn’t mean it like that. Glad it’s sorted. And anyone reading this thread I was not trying to hurt anyone in any way by my writing. I was just joining in a thread as I do on other threads.

 

[HappyPirate]

Hey everyone!

Warning deep and meaningful

One thing I have struggled with since going private is being lonely, obviously this line of work is not something you want to tell people so it's kept a secret which means you don't have many people to lean on. It also means you are not chatting to colleagues or getting to spend time with the girls because your private your on your own alot...

What do other girls do to stop the loneliness of the industry from creeping in? I have always worked in very social team environments so it's a shock when most days unless I'm with a client I'm alone in my own thoughts.

How do you make friends in this industry when it's such a secret?

Xx

Hi Amelia, thank-you for the thread and topic. I can understand your view point of been alone, this also can be true for some Punters, who live double lives or keep their social life away from their professional and family life.
I find on-line platforms like;- Talkin Sex can be helpful, were you have a chance to interact with like-minded adults on other platforms like Skype, but in a professional sense I have been enjoying how on-line models also known as cam-models have now becoming very popular, some do raunchy shows, some play games and some just talk to different people. So technology has given us new ways of interacting with people, off course finding a platform that suits yourself and interacts with like minded individuals may be a challenge.
Good luck, Amelia you are among friends
Cheers and Pass the Rum

 

[svengali]

Tricky one indeed. Perth is such a small town and somewhat socially conservative so most W.L.s, strippers etc tend to keep their work under wraps. However, like any work you do need a work/life balance and a social network to back you up and I can see how that could be hard. My best suggestion would be to look into finding social or even sporting/fitness groups other than industry related ones where you can build up a few contacts without going into too much detail about your work. If finances (and travel restrictions) permit working interstate would be a good solution.

 

[Rusty]

Hi Amelia
Like you said unless you are with a client you are alone in your own thoughts.
Well I think that you are going to get very busy very quickly and you’ll have that many clients that you’ll be hanging for the quiet times so therefore enjoying the time alone because I think you have a beautiful soul and I for one have never seen you but now fully intend to
Sooner rather than later .
Just my thoughts

 

[Taco]

Yes true. I find the liberal use of these guys can help where text alone might have various interpretations.

Yeah, good point Lukey

 

[Taco]

 

[AmeliaKennedy]

Thank you to everyone who took the time to reply and share some insight and ideas!

I told my brother What I do yesterday and it's such a huge release! He was so supportive and non judgemental and now I have another person I can talk to about work

Sending love to all of you.. and yes this forum is amazing I tend to maybe start too many threads and talk to much but it really does help and it feels like such a supportive united community where we can all talk together and bounce ideas and suggestions off each other.

Enjoy your weekend xxxxx

 

[Tania Admin]

Thank you to everyone who took the time to reply and share some insight and ideas!

I told my brother What I do yesterday and it's such a huge release! He was so supportive and non judgemental and now I have another person I can talk to about work

Sending love to all of you.. and yes this forum is amazing I tend to maybe start too many threads and talk to much but it really does help and it feels like such a supportive united community where we can all talk together and bounce ideas and suggestions off each other.

Enjoy your weekend xxxxx

That is awesome news. I'm glad you have more support.

And don't be sorry. The forum is here for that exact reason, to support WL's, to support Punters, for Fetish questions and information, for brothels, massage parlours and independents all to give and receive information and to advise, fun, seriousness, comfort and so no-one has to feel alone xo

 

[Taco]

Thank you to everyone who took the time to reply and share some insight and ideas!

I told my brother What I do yesterday and it's such a huge release! He was so supportive and non judgemental and now I have another person I can talk to about work

Sending love to all of you.. and yes this forum is amazing I tend to maybe start too many threads and talk to much but it really does help and it feels like such a supportive united community where we can all talk together and bounce ideas and suggestions off each other.

Enjoy your weekend xxxxx

... wow , sounds like it's been an emotional and maybe stressful time. So good to hear you've had a breakthrough and have some love and support. Woo hoo.

 

[Taco]

Hey you guys .... I just discovered the Breakfast Club thread !!!! Now my brain is really spinning ... Where was this during loneliness discussion? What a great idea for WL s to meet and socialise. Especially for private escorts meet establishment.

 

[Slugger1]

Thank you to everyone who took the time to reply and share some insight and ideas!

I told my brother What I do yesterday and it's such a huge release! He was so supportive and non judgemental and now I have another person I can talk to about work

Sending love to all of you.. and yes this forum is amazing I tend to maybe start too many threads and talk to much but it really does help and it feels like such a supportive united community where we can all talk together and bounce ideas and suggestions off each other.

Enjoy your weekend xxxxx

Well done Amelia it must have taken some courage to tell your Brother and it is great that he is cool with it.

I found this forum a few years ago after a difficult marriage breakdown.

I decided 6 years of being a monk was enough and had paid my penance.

When doing some research about seeing a WL I came across this forum and have found it very interesting and informative.

I sometimes spend too much time on here but it is certainly entertaining and there are a lot of characters on here.

Thanks to @Mrs Langtrees for sponsoring the forum.