“A lingam massage can be deeply emotional and healing. It creates a space of sexual being rather than sexual doing.”
Lingam is an ancient tantric term used to describe the penis. It means ‘Staff of Life’.
A Lingam Massage allows a man to experience a whole other level of pleasure.
The challenge many men face during a Lingam Massage is to free their mind and to receive pleasure.
Because to do this fully, and to go deeply into the feelings, sensations and emotions, requires vulnerability.
So before men can allow themselves to feel vulnerable, they need to feel safe.
How To Prepare For A Lingam Massage
The first step to an unforgettable lingam massage is a safe and sacred space. Creating this space is an expression of love which allows your partner to be vulnerable, to let go and to slide deeply into his pleasure.
#1 The Right Temperature
Warmth is vital. I can’t emphasize this enough. If your partner is not warm, he won’t be able to relax, go into his body, or get into the experience.
#2 The Right Ambience & Sound
Entice his senses. Soft lighting & music (without words) will add to the space. Incense can work beautifully, but remember your partner’s sense of smell can be very different than your own.
#3 The Right Massage Oil
Warm oil feels delicious on his skin. The plainer the oil, the better it is for him. My recommendation is Coconut Oil. Warm the oil by putting it in a bowl of hot water. Make sure the oil is not hot; you don’t want to burn him.
#4 The Right Mindset
Be compassionate. For many men this might be the first time they get touched this way. Some may not be sure how to react or respond.
He may also not have an erection, or the erection may come and go. This is because for most men the slow approach of a lingam massage can be new and confusing.
Be confident anyways.
A man does not need to have an erection to experience pleasure. More than that he does not need to have a full erection to have an orgasm.
4 Steps To A Heavenly Lingam Massage
Before you begin the lingam massage make sure to massage and open his entire body from head to toe.
And whatever you do communicate with him. Tell him to breathe, to relax and to allow himself to embrace whatever he’s feeling.
#1 Make Him & Yourself Comfortable
Have your man lie on his back and get him comfortable with cushions. Place them under his head, his neck, his back, and his bum, whatever he needs to be able to relax.
Sit between his legs, or next to him, in a position that’s comfortable for you.
#2 Connect
Begin by placing one hand on his heart center (in the middle of his chest) and your other hand on his genitals. Breathe. Spend a few moments looking into each other’s eyes.
Allow the warmth of your body to flow into him, and imagine the boundary that separates your physical bodies to disappear.
#3 Start With His Groin
Then start by gently stroking his groin crease. Go up and down. Make circles with your fingertips. Also stroke his perineum – the area between his balls and anus.
#4 Squeeze & Stroke
Now move over to his penis and hold it in your hands. Start to gently squeeze and stroke his penis… slowly… very slowly.
Try each stroke a little differently: hard, soft, fast, slow – ask him what he prefers.
Different Ways Of Stroking His Penis
#1 The Milker: Milk your hands alternately up his lingam. Start at the base, and move all the way up past the head.
#2 Anvil: This is the opposite of the Milker. Apply long strokes from the head all the way down, alternating hands.
#3 Corkscrew: Hold the base with one hand, stroke up the shaft to the head with the other hand and corkscrew your hand off the head.
Any of these strokes can take him to orgasm. They can also cause very different feelings and sensations.
Whatever way it unfolds, this will sure be a beautiful and powerful experience of pleasure for you and your partner and an incredible gift of love.
Lingam is an ancient tantric term used to describe the penis. It means ‘Staff of Life’.
A Lingam Massage allows a man to experience a whole other level of pleasure.
The challenge many men face during a Lingam Massage is to free their mind and to receive pleasure.
Because to do this fully, and to go deeply into the feelings, sensations and emotions, requires vulnerability.
So before men can allow themselves to feel vulnerable, they need to feel safe.
How To Prepare For A Lingam Massage
The first step to an unforgettable lingam massage is a safe and sacred space. Creating this space is an expression of love which allows your partner to be vulnerable, to let go and to slide deeply into his pleasure.
#1 The Right Temperature
Warmth is vital. I can’t emphasize this enough. If your partner is not warm, he won’t be able to relax, go into his body, or get into the experience.
#2 The Right Ambience & Sound
Entice his senses. Soft lighting & music (without words) will add to the space. Incense can work beautifully, but remember your partner’s sense of smell can be very different than your own.
#3 The Right Massage Oil
Warm oil feels delicious on his skin. The plainer the oil, the better it is for him. My recommendation is Coconut Oil. Warm the oil by putting it in a bowl of hot water. Make sure the oil is not hot; you don’t want to burn him.
#4 The Right Mindset
Be compassionate. For many men this might be the first time they get touched this way. Some may not be sure how to react or respond.
He may also not have an erection, or the erection may come and go. This is because for most men the slow approach of a lingam massage can be new and confusing.
Be confident anyways.
A man does not need to have an erection to experience pleasure. More than that he does not need to have a full erection to have an orgasm.
4 Steps To A Heavenly Lingam Massage
Before you begin the lingam massage make sure to massage and open his entire body from head to toe.
And whatever you do communicate with him. Tell him to breathe, to relax and to allow himself to embrace whatever he’s feeling.
#1 Make Him & Yourself Comfortable
Have your man lie on his back and get him comfortable with cushions. Place them under his head, his neck, his back, and his bum, whatever he needs to be able to relax.
Sit between his legs, or next to him, in a position that’s comfortable for you.
#2 Connect
Begin by placing one hand on his heart center (in the middle of his chest) and your other hand on his genitals. Breathe. Spend a few moments looking into each other’s eyes.
Allow the warmth of your body to flow into him, and imagine the boundary that separates your physical bodies to disappear.
#3 Start With His Groin
Then start by gently stroking his groin crease. Go up and down. Make circles with your fingertips. Also stroke his perineum – the area between his balls and anus.
#4 Squeeze & Stroke
Now move over to his penis and hold it in your hands. Start to gently squeeze and stroke his penis… slowly… very slowly.
Try each stroke a little differently: hard, soft, fast, slow – ask him what he prefers.
Different Ways Of Stroking His Penis
#1 The Milker: Milk your hands alternately up his lingam. Start at the base, and move all the way up past the head.
#2 Anvil: This is the opposite of the Milker. Apply long strokes from the head all the way down, alternating hands.
#3 Corkscrew: Hold the base with one hand, stroke up the shaft to the head with the other hand and corkscrew your hand off the head.
Any of these strokes can take him to orgasm. They can also cause very different feelings and sensations.
Whatever way it unfolds, this will sure be a beautiful and powerful experience of pleasure for you and your partner and an incredible gift of love.
Love the corkscrew method personally
