Is a Women's Place in the Home?
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Sir Cruiser
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And for some wives, it can be a turn on that their guy is playing their part.Ever heard about doing things together? The faster homework if finished, the faster leisure time starts....
After a year and a half of being a working mum, I can honestly say I'm still struggling to find my place. I miss a lot of the aspects of being a full time stay at home mum...mostly the ability to be organised, have a brilliantly tidy home, and the time to help my kids with projects, go to after school activities, weekend birthday parties, school performances, parent teacher nights... and to be able to have just time in general with my kids...we used to have friday night pizza and movies...just can't do that anymore... since keeping them up on week nights is frowned upon.
I'd had to let go of the preconceived notion that I can do the housewive/mum thing as good as what I expect, and what I want. I have horrid guilt about working, and the evidence of the dismay is everything I miss out on and over time it is starting to trigger my depression and anxiety about leaving the house at all.
I think there are women out there that are truly amazing and love working, and somehow pull off having another place than "just" at home... I don't think women are so limited these days in just belonging at home, which is great...but I'm still trying to make it work...without it making me miserable.
I'd had to let go of the preconceived notion that I can do the housewive/mum thing as good as what I expect, and what I want. I have horrid guilt about working, and the evidence of the dismay is everything I miss out on and over time it is starting to trigger my depression and anxiety about leaving the house at all.
I think there are women out there that are truly amazing and love working, and somehow pull off having another place than "just" at home... I don't think women are so limited these days in just belonging at home, which is great...but I'm still trying to make it work...without it making me miserable.
Sir Cruiser
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It sounds like you are doing the best you can and that is all anyone can expect. Respect to you Tania
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Ms Sue
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Jacqui that is so 1950's .....
HA!!!! I WOULD LOVE TO SEE A MAN TRY.
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I don't think it really matters anymore as to who stays at home with the kids. Unfortunately though, times have toughened up financially for most , and both parents are finding that one income is just not enough anymore, therefore both have to work.
I feel for you Tania Desire because I'm feeling the pinch of guilt with my kids as well, and I'm trying to burn the candle at both ends to try and make it up to them. Try and hang in there. Remember there are lots of us mums out there just like you. x
I feel for you Tania Desire because I'm feeling the pinch of guilt with my kids as well, and I'm trying to burn the candle at both ends to try and make it up to them. Try and hang in there. Remember there are lots of us mums out there just like you. x
Sir Cruiser
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And also like you MS, credit to all mums like you and Tania, you go girls
Cayla Cream
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Yes i totally agree with a woman running the house and working less. Men seem to be growingly imature these days and dont realise they should be working hard and earning good money to support thier families, in return the Lady should be neat, clean and organised to provide the for her Man.
Sir Cruiser
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I cannot speak for other guys but i work hard during the day, do paperwork during and also at night. In addition, i vacuum, iron, feed the animals, pick up the poo, tidy up, fuel the cars, etc etc so please don't tarnish all men
Cayla Cream
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Cayla Cream
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did you actually read it??I cannot speak for other guys but i work hard during the day, do paperwork during and also at night. In addition, i vacuum, iron, feed the animals, pick up the poo, tidy up, fuel the cars, etc etc so please don't tarnish all men
Cayla Cream
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If more people Tradition and Goodness in mind, it might put things back into perspective.I cannot speak for other guys but i work hard during the day, do paperwork during and also at night. In addition, i vacuum, iron, feed the animals, pick up the poo, tidy up, fuel the cars, etc etc so please don't tarnish all men
Sir Cruiser
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Yes i did but a lot of women work too and men need to be a part of the house work too. It is not just down to women to run the house, these days it takes two.
Cayla Cream
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Marry me, carly!
I think this is the idealised wife most 'unenlightened' men (according to feminists) pine for.
However, in modern (Western) society, this is often very hard to do with our cost of living and higher expectations of material comforts, so women feel compelled to get a job to help make ends meet even if their preference is to manage the household. Raising your children is probably the most important 'work' (because it shouldn't be seen as a chore, of course) anybody can do. Unfortunately, many don't have the luxury of doing so without at least part-time employment to pay the bills.
While some may try their darnedest to rejig men and women's roles in their view of a utopian gender neutral society, I think the traditional male and female division of labour ('breadwinner' and 'homemaker') -- which evolved based on respective innate strengths -- will continue in many nuclear families for some time to come. It'll just get harder to achieve the old ideal many still yearn for.
Of course, family life isn't for everyone and many women (like many men) will put career or other priorities first, which is absolutely their right. I just wish the busybodies amongst them would stop trying to screw up the majority (or is it a large minority now?) who actually do want a 'traditional' family -- which unfortunately is almost becoming a politically incorrect notion in some sections of 'enlightened' society now.
Vive la liberation!
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