Interesting/Nice/Thought Provoking, Conversations Had With Clientele
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Hmmmm @Master Yoda the man that can type a war and peace novel over a coffee, liked you post but has not mentioned any good topics he has talked about... now I find that rather odd......
Certainly…..Hmmmm @Master Yoda the man that can type a war and peace novel over a coffee, liked you post but has not mentioned any good topics he has talked about... now I find that rather odd......
I’ve had great rooms with almost no words, and great rooms with a little banter. The common thread wasn’t the amount of chat—it was whether the talk matched the moment.
What lands for me (and seems to land for them):
• Sometimes the best start is silence. Not frosty—just two people settling. A hello, a smile, a breath. If she doesn’t reach for conversation, I don’t force it. Ten quiet minutes can make the whole hour glide.
• Other times it’s “companionable quiet.” A line here or there—music, food, dogs vs cats—then we let it fade. No chasing threads. You can feel the room exhale.
• Light banter, if she opens that door, is gold. A small joke, a human story with no sharp edges. If she leans in, I’ll follow. If not, I let it go. (My internal rule: if I’m talking to settle my nerves, I’m talking too much.)
• Longer stories only work when she wants them. I’ve learned to wait for the second question and the eye contact that says, “keep going.” Otherwise, I park it.
Little lines I’ve said that seemed to go down well—offered, not imposed:
• “Happy to keep it quiet—we can talk later if you feel like it.”
• “Want me to shut up and let you float?” (Usually gets a smile.)
• “All good on pressure/pace/temperature?” (Simple, practical, done.)
Topics I avoid because they pull energy the wrong way: exes, drama, health scares, money, politics, and anything that sounds like I’m fishing for reassurance. If it wouldn’t belong at a calm first coffee, it doesn’t belong when someone’s trying to relax.
Recently I’ve spent a heap of non-intimate, work-only hours with the Langtrees ladies—rewriting profiles, playing with AI. The best sessions we had were the ones that felt unhurried. A little laugh, a small question, then space. No performance. Just… ease.
That’s my lane. Not “how it should be,” just what’s worked.
Curious to hear others:
• Workers: what tiny client behaviour makes you think, “thank god, easy night”?
• Clients: have you tried going one notch quieter than usual? What changed?