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I don't understand the concept?

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This will seem really weird coming from a male, but I just don't get the whole sex worker industry.
This is in no way an indictment of those in the industry. It's just the way I see things.
What I don't get is this: if a woman won't have anything to do with you unless you pay her, how is that a turn on? It wouldn't matter how sexy she is, to me if she doesn't actually WANT to be with me willingly then I think I would almost find it insulting. I definitely couldn't share something as intimate and close and meaningful as intercourse with someone that I have to pay to get them to even look at me.
I know this isn't the typical male view of things. And never having used the services of a W/L it might be that my opinion would change in the hands of a good one. In fact it's the openness of people wanting to willingly share sexual experiences with others that attracted me to this site. I find the idea of someone who wants to share themself very arousing. I don't think I could feel that way with a paid worker. At the very least it would have to be someone that really loves the job and really does enjoy the experience, so that the money was just an aside.
Feel free to tell me I'm mad. I know I'm a bit different. Probably being brought up in an all female house I guess. Would love to hear people's opinions.
 
Agree I do with both posts here, as both points of view so far holds true.
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In the view of T.J. McDon of how a willingness to share herself openly and willingly and seemingly unconditionally to the bounds of monetary grips is a knowingness that brings about great pleasure in mental and sexual stimulation.***** Speaking for myself, I certainly enjoy short term physical encounters with non WLs.***** And often these encounters are full of conversation and fun that extends way beyong the contraints of a room or apartment,***** and certainly not restricted by the governing effects of limited hours.
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Buffy 69 points out something I also love and agree with.***** WL provide a presence where availability is almost at hand when required.***** And the benefit of no strings being attached is a must for some patrons.***** And these encounters are generally kept secret from those intended for these to be kept from.
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In my own opinion, both are great experiences intheir own way.***** I enjoy both and choose not to even make comparisons between the 2.***** Both need to be had :)***** They are very different ways of playing the same game.***** Like Ice Hocky and Golf.
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If there was one thing that I am nearly puzzled by its this.***** And I do say nearly puzzled as I do understand where these situations come from.***** In the world of WLs and Seekers, the a common understanding is generally understood that a service is agreed on.***** Then WL endevours to provide to the best she can and the Seeker enjoys while respecting boundaries.***** When the time is through, they part until next arrangements are made.
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Often I am left shaking my head as I witness first hand the harrassment and the love struck gentleman that attempt to take their paid*****encounters into a higher level of dillusion.**********It is reported*****that phones, emails, and sometimes more scary ways of direct communication*****are seen from Patrons who want more.***** On*****phones,*****emails, and PMs.***** Up to 34 missed calls can occurr one after another.***** SMS messages that are of the nature between friends of partners are recieved.***** Always these seem to be with intention of intruding on the private lives of the WLs.***** A lot of these messages on SMS and PM are really creepy.***** If placed in the context of a psychopath movie these would fit right in.***** I mean endless repeated messages inthe nature of "....I know that I am just a customer and I know that you might not want a guy like me, but I thnk you are great in everyway, and I just wanto to be friends...etc etc".***** Yeah so I was creeped out when I was shown these messages from one particular guy to one particular WL that lasted for months.***** This guy was told by the lady that she did not feel comfortable to see him anymore and was honest in why she felt that way.***** He took this message to her boss and attempted to damage her employment.***** But all this transpired to was him trying to rubbish her everytime someone said something nice in the forums.**********I know who he is and I will not name him and the lady will not lay charges*****as he is harmless.***** Yet I go back to my point of the theme of this thread.***** Which is that it is something that I do not understand.

Most tedious and annoying to the WL are the individuals that get a kick out of sending sexually explicit, affectionate, or friend like messages outside of bookings. Trust me!!! These are not welcome like they think it is. And te best way to know that is too see if these guys would get the time of day if it was confirmed that they would never make a booking again. I say that with good intention to the seekers. As most naughty or affectionate messages sent to punters is followed by "dickhead" by voice. I am amused as at least 20 WL do this without fail.

The worst thing I have witnessed in the lack of courtesy from Seekers is when they identify a WL if they recognise her in public!!!!********** On James Street NorthBridge one night I*****saw a Seeker walk past a WL he had recognised and addressed her as well as reaching out to touch her.***** That in my opinion is total disregard and lack of respect.***** SHe may have been with her parents, children or husband.
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Looking forward to some insight.***** See you soon :)
 
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Hey Guys, I'm a W/L and a lot of the clients that visit us are working away (mines etc) and don't want to spend their time off chasing girls, so to speak.

All come in for different reasons such as fetishes that their partners may not want to fulfil.

Just giving you an insight on the inside

Imogen xx
 
I see and appreciate what you are saying. And I choose to not openly judge as I am only aware of these mistakes since I one made them myself.

The WLs do tell me these issues and not it annoys or impedes them in some cases. But as I said it is up to the WL and these dudes.

However I do stand by my comments about the lack of intuition and basic courtesy that manifest into such creepy and ill intentioned actions as well as the outright disrespect shown to WLs in some cases.

I'd love to hear some views from WLs themselves on all of what is said in these few posts. I'm far from perfect and would love to learn more :)
 
T.J. McDon said:
................I don't think I could feel that way with a paid worker. At the very least it would have to be someone that really loves the job and really does enjoy the experience, so that the money was just an aside. .................
Feel free to tell me I'm mad. I know I'm a bit different. Probably being brought up in an all female house I guess. Would love to hear people's opinions.
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I once thought that way too - that sex and affection only had value when given freely but, as with a few other things, my opinion has had to change to accomodate reality.

Purchased sex, when it is just sex without even the pretence of affection, is a shocking experience and leaves both parties feeling dirty and used. On the other hand, a good worker can deliver an experience pretty close to that of an enthusiastic and willing girlfriend.

These ladies comprise only a small percentage of working ladies and if you are lucky enough to find one you will understand the difference. Sex, even when it is paid for can be a wonderful thing and these special ladies are worth every cent that they charge.
 
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