Wow Tessa very grumpy (sounds like you have had a few bad ones up there ), i reckon if he was like you assume he would be just shoving it up here ass and not asking advice, helpful advice is best given in a less bitch manner, and guys are more likely to heed that advice. Yep there are a few satirical comments posted but take them just as that. I think the general tone of post is advising him that lotsa lube, gentle, slow approach is needed and only if she agrees, don't let it ruin a sexual relation ship. Its not that bigga thing, must ppl i know try it once or twice then the novelty has worn off.