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How do WL's go with boyfriends/ lovers?

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Laura Myer

Hi all,

Something I'm really curious about lately..... Just wondering how you have gone or manage boyfriends or lovers working in the industry?

I know if you've been honest with boyfriends, they usually won't accept it. So I've chosen very casual relationships instead as a way of getting around it.
And I guess that was why my face was revealed in the end as I just couldn't be bothered lying as well as having people manipulate me and threaten to tell 'so and so'.

It was hard to take but now it's like 'yeah? and? so what?' There was nothing nobody could do. I lost some relationships and false friends, but I said to myself 'they're too small minded for me now, so move on and meet more open minded people'.

Love to hear other stories?

Laura
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Hi Laura,

I find most W/Ls - especially the younger ones - have to be single. If they have partners, the partner very rarely understands. So, the W/L either stops working or stops the relationship - hard decision either way.

The more mature W/Ls seem to have it sorted much more sensibly as you have described.
 
Hi Laura
I'm actually married, coming on 11 years now. My husband knows I am a WL and infact was one of the many who said I could make money from doing what I love! Two years ago after 2 years of talking and discussions, we decided to try swinging. It then progressed into both of us seeing others seperately as in an open marriage. This is working well for us and has brought us even closer than we already were. It was about 3-4 months ago when short on cash and bills getting the better of us when we decided I could make money from doing what I love...giving men pleasure. It wasn't a big leap for me really as I have a huge sexual appetite and I was doing it for free...so why not make some money from it? Our open relationship and me being a WL hasn't had any ill effect on our marriage, only positive...but then we are so secure within ourselves there wasn't any doubt it would.

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hi laura ive been with a working girl for 12 months and while i might not be happy about everything that comes with the job i do understand that it is just work . my girl was upfront about what she does from the start which was a big help if i had of found out later i would not be with her now . so while every guy might not be happy about it i think if you are up front about it from the start you will find a nice guy who will accept you for who you are and what you do . just make sure he knows that he's the one you love and anything else is just work. btw i plan to marry the one im with so you will find the right guy one day just be up front about your line of work . hope this helps adam :)
 
Im new to the industry and it is something i am always thinking about if i was to continue working if i get a boyfriend. well i dont have one atm so i guess ill have to figure that one out if i do but until then i get to FUCK without the HEADFUCK lol :p
 
high five to that ss....they aint worth it....mine got me into a lot of trouble and didn't give a rats ass...that was just for flashing *sigh* fucking cops are all assholes...corrupt and worse than real crims!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
Guess it is an age thing......older guys can handle it better.
I am with my partner for 6 years now and we discussed/developed the idea of me working together. I have to say that he used to be a driver/bar man/security/manager of escort agencies in the past and knows the industry which certainly helps. I am working now for several months and so far it hasn't changed our relation ship at all.
Talking to other W/Ls I am aware that this is not the norm. I personally couldn't live the double life pretending I am not doing what I am doing.
I think until we find an accepting (really accepting and not only pretending) partner it is easier and less stressful to stay single......or you there might be lot's of 'brick wall running' going on.:BangHead:
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i personally wouldnt want a guy to understand, id want him to tell me to quit. that's just me..and id do the same for him. he would be the only man id want in my life. i realise one can seperate love from sex, but i guess i'm a romantic and could not do both. and i only do RnT. but i still couldnt do both. which is sad really, because time is going by..but when he comes along i'll know what to do..
 
Personally I'm an open book with everyone, so my profession is usually known by people when I meet them... I told one partner after a couple months I would quit, he very angrily told me he accepted me for who I was & that at the end of the night I come home to him so who cares?? We stayed together for 2years without any problems regarding my job & I think I loved him more so for that. At the moment i prefer to be single as I feel somewhat better for it! I think your question is great but I think it's more an issue of do you tell people what you do? 'cause #@*^ trying to remember all the lies you've told & stressing yourself out over it everyday....I have friends who do it & I worry about them all the time, as it really screws with your psyche! All my love to our fellow working girls out there...you all rock!!!xxxooooooooooxxx:wav:
 
Lantana said:
i personally wouldnt want a guy to understand, id want him to tell me to quit. that's just me..and id do the same for him. he would be the only man id want in my life. i realise one can seperate love from sex, but i guess i'm a romantic and could not do both. and i only do RnT. but i still couldnt do both. which is sad really, because time is going by..but when he comes along i'll know what to do..
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Your a beautiful soul Latana & I suppose we all wish to be swept off our feet & want to be loved from head to toe, & #*@^ me if we don't all deserve that someday!! I love a fellow romantic...:thumbsup::love1::love8:
 
Well done Rochelle!

A woman who has got something together; your man is very special in that he copes. I salute both of you.
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Very interesting answers.

I personally feel a guy can reap all the benefits of having a WL as a girlfriend or lover. For one, we don't need their money or try to take what doesn't belong to us. In fact, we'd no doubt help them out when they needed it (yes done this before but won't do again as they don't honour it).

I think some of you who have boyfriends who accept it - you sound so fortunate! And it's inspiring to hear about the guys who accept it.

But for now, I just stick with the casual relationships and do tell them upfront. Mainly because people want to try to manipulate.

Laura
lauramyer.com
 
Lantana said:
i personally wouldnt want a guy to understand, id want him to tell me to quit. that's just me..and id do the same for him. he would be the only man id want in my life. i realise one can seperate love from sex, but i guess i'm a romantic and could not do both. and i only do RnT. but i still couldnt do both. which is sad really, because time is going by..but when he comes along i'll know what to do..
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I totally agree.I have men inmy life that support me but if I had a lover that didn't have a problem with me working I wouldn't be happy.B
 
One of our work collegues does Stripper at night in Adelaide and everyone at works knows about it and just dont give a rat about it. I think thats the right mentality.
 
i think it would be rare to find somebody who could see you off to work at night knowing what you were doing and not have a problem with it. girls may find there partners may have problems accepting their chosen profession due to the fact that socieity expects relationships to be monogamous and anything other to be taboo.maybe this is why younger girls find more problems with their partners excepting what they do . young peoeple being more affected by what there friends etc , not to say some older men dont have the same resevations .
 
working girls with a boyfriend dosent work together they dont match because the boyfriend has no control over her, i mean he is not the only one for her. sharing your girl with someone else is not a good idea
 
Sometimes the guys understand, sometimes they don't. I don't find that there are any hard and fast rules in this area. I have found that for a lot of girls, the partner or boyfriend wants them to stop when it suits them, and then wants them to start again when the money is low ... and then stop again ... and then start again .... ad nauseum. Mostly it's just easier to be single in this game, but some people may be able to make it work.
 
I am going to give it a try, my partner is much older than me. We have discussed at length and he is very supportive. Just hope we can keep it like that.
 
just go with the flow babe..
If you are both happy with the situation then go for it...
Relationships can be hard under any circumstance ...
But at least you know you gave it your best...
 
I have been single the whole time iv been working dont know if i could have a boyfriend and do this.But i suppose i wont know till it hapens i agree with Ashley just go with the flow.
 
I have been doing this for a while... and the relationship is older... and he has always been the rock/support for me to do this.... at the end of a bad day a cuddle always solved the issue...

Perhaps he is the exception and not the rule :angel1:
 
I agree with you katie. If the relation ship is older than the W/L job chances are there that it might work out. I think starting a new relation ship already working is very hard thing to do and I can't blame the guy if they rather stay away and on the other hand for sure the W/L who rather stays single.
Jetting all over the place to work in different establishments is certainly a lot easier without a partner.
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