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Hi, I'm 60, happily married. My wife and I haven't had sex for a few years. She is my best friend and I have no intention of changing that. We have discussed my (annoyingly) frustrating desire to be sexual, and she has (not reluctantly) agreed for me to consult a sex worker. I have decided to post in this 'relationship' forum because I believe that all experiences based on any interactions fit the category of a relationship. So, in this business relationship that I would like to embark on makes me want to ask something. Forgive me for any naivete in my question.....

I want to convey respect and appreciation to a woman to allow me to be physically intimate with her and her body. I get that she isn't doing it because she is delighted by the idea, but because it is her chosen profession.

Is it appropriate for me to end the exchange with extra payment if I am happy with her service? I ask this because I'd like to let her know that just because I am paying for her service, I am not a mindless consumer and don't want to take this exchange for granted as if I am entitled. Or is there another way to express myself in this way? Or am I trying too hard?
Thanks.
 
Vic01 said:
Hi, I'm 60, happily married. My wife and I haven't had sex for a few years. She is my best friend and I have no intention of changing that. We have discussed my (annoyingly) frustrating desire to be sexual, and she has (not reluctantly) agreed for me to consult a sex worker. I have decided to post in this 'relationship' forum because I believe that all experiences based on any interactions fit the category of a relationship. So, in this business relationship that I would like to embark on makes me want to ask something. Forgive me for any naivete in my question.....

I want to convey respect and appreciation to a woman to allow me to be physically intimate with her and her body. I get that she isn't doing it because she is delighted by the idea, but because it is her chosen profession.

Is it appropriate for me to end the exchange with extra payment if I am happy with her service? I ask this because I'd like to let her know that just because I am paying for her service, I am not a mindless consumer and don't want to take this exchange for granted as if I am entitled. Or is there another way to express myself in this way? Or am I trying too hard?
Thanks.
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My advice to you is to firstly make sure your wife is 100% ok with it.

Sometimes they say they are ok with it but it then becomes an issue and jealousy comes into it.

If you both agree then be discrete and choose wisely by looking at reviews the lady you choose has.

Look for an experienced working lady with good reviews.

If the booking goes well then by all means reward the good service in the same way you would any other transaction.

If your wife wants to know details then assure her it was a business transaction only and that she could never replace her.

There is no right or wrong in this but that would be my advice as I have been in a similar situation.

Good Luck with it whichever way you go.
 
Slugger1's advice is on the money Vic01. Yes it's a transaction but it's an intimate transaction and should be respected and rewarded when it exceeds expectations. Ideally you will meet a few ladies before you find one you truly click with and visa versa. Once you find her the rest is easy!!
 
Slugger1 said:
My advice to you is to firstly make sure your wife is 100% ok with it.

Sometimes they say they are ok with it but it then becomes an issue and jealousy comes into it.

If you both agree then be discrete and choose wisely by looking at reviews the lady you choose has.

Look for an experienced working lady with good reviews.

If the booking goes well then by all means reward the good service in the same way you would any other transaction.

If your wife wants to know details then assure her it was a business transaction only and that she could never replace her.

There is no right or wrong in this but that would be my advice as I have been in a similar situation.

Good Luck with it whichever way you go.
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Thank you, I wasn't looking for marriage advice, we have been down many varied and challenging roads so there is little risk here.
Yep, so rewarding the good service is the way to go. Appreciate the feedback. 👍
 
Slugger1 said:
My advice to you is to firstly make sure your wife is 100% ok with it.

Sometimes they say they are ok with it but it then becomes an issue and jealousy comes into it.

If you both agree then be discrete and choose wisely by looking at reviews the lady you choose has.

Look for an experienced working lady with good reviews.

If the booking goes well then by all means reward the good service in the same way you would any other transaction.

If your wife wants to know details then assure her it was a business transaction only and that she could never replace her.

There is no right or wrong in this but that would be my advice as I have been in a similar situation.

Good Luck with it whichever way you go.
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I agree with you mate... its best to always be 100% sure whether wife is okay about it.
 
Personally, I'd look for a mature (40+) private lady whom you can converse with as I'd expect you would see her on a somewhat regular basis.
While it is always just business you can also have a good connection beyond just sex.
Maybe wrong, but I have a feeling that is what you need.
 
Lots of great feedback here @Vic01. I hope your encounter is fun 🤩 best of luck 😘
 
Vic01 said:
Hi, I'm 60, happily married. My wife and I haven't had sex for a few years. She is my best friend and I have no intention of changing that. We have discussed my (annoyingly) frustrating desire to be sexual, and she has (not reluctantly) agreed for me to consult a sex worker. I have decided to post in this 'relationship' forum because I believe that all experiences based on any interactions fit the category of a relationship. So, in this business relationship that I would like to embark on makes me want to ask something. Forgive me for any naivete in my question.....

I want to convey respect and appreciation to a woman to allow me to be physically intimate with her and her body. I get that she isn't doing it because she is delighted by the idea, but because it is her chosen profession.

Is it appropriate for me to end the exchange with extra payment if I am happy with her service? I ask this because I'd like to let her know that just because I am paying for her service, I am not a mindless consumer and don't want to take this exchange for granted as if I am entitled. Or is there another way to express myself in this way? Or am I trying too hard?
Thanks.
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Why pay extra when already paying for a service? Paying extra doesn't make you any less of a consumer let alone a mindless one at that. In my opinion, if you are happy with the service, thank her, treat her with respect and appreciation. Paying her extra, in my opinion, may make her feel she is a commodity and has a price.

Just my 2c. What do I know? I've never been lucky enough to be paid for sex! 🤣 🤣 🤣
 
Deleted member 69478 said:
Hi, I'm 60, happily married. My wife and I haven't had sex for a few years. She is my best friend and I have no intention of changing that. We have discussed my (annoyingly) frustrating desire to be sexual, and she has (not reluctantly) agreed for me to consult a sex worker. I have decided to post in this 'relationship' forum because I believe that all experiences based on any interactions fit the category of a relationship. So, in this business relationship that I would like to embark on makes me want to ask something. Forgive me for any naivete in my question.....

I want to convey respect and appreciation to a woman to allow me to be physically intimate with her and her body. I get that she isn't doing it because she is delighted by the idea, but because it is her chosen profession.

Is it appropriate for me to end the exchange with extra payment if I am happy with her service? I ask this because I'd like to let her know that just because I am paying for her service, I am not a mindless consumer and don't want to take this exchange for granted as if I am entitled. Or is there another way to express myself in this way? Or am I trying too hard?
Thanks.
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I think a genuine thank-you and treating her with respect go a long way. A tip is nice too, but don’t feel you have to overdo it.
 
Hey babe,

A few things that might make your punting journey a pleasure from start to finish:

A little extra affection to your wife can go a long way to helping her feel comperrsion instead of jealousy.

Maybe as your wife how involved she wants to be, does she want to view the ad, know when you go, ask questions after? Or prefer you don't mention it and stay discreet?

When you find ads for escorts you like, read the entire ad. Usually all the info is in there so you won't need to ask any questions.

Look for ads where photos and profiles are verified, that means the escort is using real photos.

Check the ad to see if the escort offers a standard service and charges extra for more intimate fun like kissing, mutual oral, etc or if its an all inclusive service

Always use condoms. If you are offered BBJ or natural BJ that is a BJ without a condom and it is not safe and you can catch an STI so just say no.

Send a short text to ladies you are interested in with a friendly Hi, your name & age to make sure you're going to find someone you connect with, the date and time you're interested in booking, how long you want to book for, ask about any extras you think you might like to try, tell them you are new to booking ladies so they can be considerate of that. Check if there is parking, it's not sexy but it is practical.

Be wary of escorts who won't tell you their extra prices or what their service includes when you book. A reasonable price in the ad might include very little and they might ask for quite a lot for extras because some punters just think 'oh well, I'm here now'. That is not ok. If it happens, turn and walk away.

Shower really well before you leave home, if you can. Don't go overboard with aftershave or cologne. You will be offered a shower on arrival even though you are showered. Accept the second shower. Always let your escort know at the beginning of your booking 'I need time for a decent shower at the end' so she can leave time for that and your wife will appreciate you not coming home smelling like another lady.

If you arrive at the booking and the escort has used photos from when she was much younger, or photos that are definitely not her then tell her "I am not going through with the booking as you do not look like your ad'. Turn and walk away, don't listen to any 'you have to pay a cancellation'.

Or avoid the bait and switch of fake photos by searching for brothels where you get to meet ladies in person and see who you have a spark with.

Tips are welcome and appreciated. You can tip at the beginning of the service or at the end, it's up to you.

A tip for happily married in a sexless marriage punters, variety is your friend. The cash does make this a service but sex & great conversation means your brain might pump out cuddle juice right after which increases every visit. Seeing different ladies means your cuddle juice won't amp up to make you feel bonded.

Langtrees Perth is the best place on earth to begin your punting journey. Ladies are beautiful inside and out. You get to meet them in a lounge and figure out who you connect with best before heading to the bedroom. Your first punt will be better than anything you ever dreamed about. Ladies photos and ages are all real, their prices for standard and extras are on their advertising profile.

For a closer look at some of the ladies of Langtrees, open the link to roster, select photos you like to open to profile page.

Happy punting!


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Shazaam said:
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... and his original post was back in August 2023.

I guess we'll never know the outcome of Vic01's attempts at reigniting his sex life outside the realm of a supposedly secure marriage.

Still, I thank Celeste_SJ for her suggestions on how might a bloke negotiate the type of drama that has been previously discussed in this thread.
 
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