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First Bi exsperience

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bazz68

First Bi experience

Hi All,
I am contemplating having my first bi experience and really not sure how to go about it. Where does on go to make contact with similar people or should i try a male escort, or a couple, the only thing is i am not sure how far i want to go with this.
I would be more relaxed in a private setting, Somewhat confused but very curious.

Any advice would be welcome, thanks.

Bazz
 
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Hi Bazz,

I'm pretty much in the same boat as you, have found it difficult to go about finding someone to share it with.

I've found some couples out there but for the most part very few have moved beyond the 'curious' stage, and have found it difficult to move from chatting online into actual meetings.

A male escort is something i've considered as well but have had quite a bit of trouble finding one in the online world, though there are ads in the paper.

Anyway i'd be interested in hearing thoughts on this as well :)

Baal6007
 
Hi Guys,

It seems it's so much harder for guys to have same sex experiences. I actually think there are a lot more men curious about it, but they don't say because they don't want to think of themselves as GAY.

Having a same sex experience does not mean you are gay, it can mean that you are curious and an open sexual person. I am not a lesbian, don't even consider myself bi, but in the right circumstances I can enjoy play with another woman. Why is it easier for women than for men?

However, if you're looking for a comfortable try as you go experience, why not come up to LP's. There are some men there who don't/won't try out boy on boy, but I happen to know quite a few who will, and if you find a couple then you can also have some female contact too, might help in the comfort stakes.

Alternatively, it's not hard to find gay guys who are happy to initiate the straight-trade. Connections is another good place to start.

Good luck,
swingingstories
 
I'd also recommend LP's (Ladies PLayground, a swingers club for those who don't know).

Most people there are warm and friendly. If you ask, then nobody will get offended, they'd just inform you that they aren't into that if they are not.

You could also try Craigslist and Gumtree (both of which have Perth sites) and places like red hot pie - though you should follow the standard rules for meeting strangers from online in RF (meet in a public place, let someone know where you are going, walk away if you don't feel right, etc).
 
I had my first male-male experience in a bathhouse (565 Beaufort, which is regrettably now closed). There's another one in Perth still running, Steamworks (http://www.perthsteamworks.com.au/) which I haven't personally been to. The advantage is that you don't have to worry about wondering if the guy you're checking out is a) actually into guys, b) out for sex tonight and c) interested. In a bathhouse, a) and b) are an emphatic yes and c) is usually obvious. The etiquette is that when you arrive, you get a towel and (usually) condoms and lube. Take your own condoms if you've got a preferred brand. You strip off in a locker section and wear just the towel around the place itself. Then you can either cruise around and check everyone out, or watch some porn in a viewing lounge, or check out some action live, in the flesh, or just hang out in a comfy chair or hot tub and wait for someone to come along.

There's a good guide here Link is broken,so has been removed but the short version is:

1) Play safe at all times. Always use a condom. Always. If you never, ever let your safety slip out of your mind then you can relax and enjoy the sex.
2) If you get approached and aren't interested, say no politely. They'll back off.
3) If you get a polite no, don't be rude - smile, be polite and back off right away.
4) Always wear a condom! So important, it shows up twice even in the short version.

It's not considered rude to hang around for a while watching and seeing if it's really your thing, but if you do go into a "private" area with someone then it's polite to let them know you're new at this.

Hope this helps, and enjoy yourself. As posted above, remember that same-sex sex doesn't make you gay - it just makes you open-minded. Plus the blowjobs are fantastic, best I've ever had (sorry ladies).
 
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I had my first bi experience with a great guy who ocassionally used to join my ex & me for mfm's. It was terrific and broke down those psycological barriers that most blokes have drilled into them, especially my (older) generation. So I suggest you do everything to meet a couple and then only do mm play if you are both totally comfortable (this may take more than one meeting).
 
Hey Bazz68,
You could try a place in Como, they advertise in Sundays paper, Guys meet bi guys, phone Keith, I think the ad goes.
Place is set up with rooms, TV room, magazine room, pool table, kitchen. Is fairly laid back and promotes safe sex and a place where you can explore without pressure, they have rules and guidelines much like the clubs.
If its not for you you can always leave.
Good luck ,
 
i had my first bi experience in a club, but had been thinking about it for a long time i am very happy i got the chance to explore that side of me
 
I have been lucky enough to have had sex with another guy on a few occassions. THe first time was with a mate of mine !! True story, he'd come out to all of us 6 months earlier. One night we'd been out having a few drinks, walking with him back to the Perth Station we started kissing in the park in Northbridge. One thing led to another......

Since then its been a fairly rare occurance unfortunately. I'd consider myself " bi when I can be " - certainly not ashamed about it. There are some things that men just do better !!!
 
Iknow what you mean, I have been looking at it, with no success, guess we'll have to keep looking:P
 
I'll admit to being curious about it. Probably more on hj and oral than full penetration though. I'm a pretty shy person, so I've never taken it further. I've also never spoken to my partner about it, though I have said to her on a number of occasions that I would more than comfortable with MFM.
 
anyone know a good place to meet other young guys (i'm 21)?
i've been wanting to try things with a guy for ages now
 
Been arround guay guys alot and not guay ... i know that for sure but go to gay clubs and have fun . its that simple have fun and everything will come naturaly !!
 
good luck, dont have attraction for guys but girls on girls thats pretty hrny
 
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