Dominating vs Domineering
Dallas
Legend Member
My view is that someone who's dominating is controlling over one person or situation and someone who's domineering is constantly trying to control and dominate all those around them. So the first one is probably more about one person's relationship with another and the other says more about someone's personality overall. Just my take on it but I could be totally wrong.
I think in the first case, the personality is fluid depending on the person or situation as to what triggers them, and in the second i think they are control freaks so it's in their nature.
I think in the first case, the personality is fluid depending on the person or situation as to what triggers them, and in the second i think they are control freaks so it's in their nature.
Z
Zenithas
To dominate is to take control, as Dallas has said. Domination is an act stemming from discipline, and expecting the same. To domineer is to bully, though it can be used to describe bully-play, force-play and other psychological aspects of BDSM. Domineering is an act stemming from insecurity, and expects the same.
A dominant will take control as per the limits you arrange; usually this is beforehand, sometimes on the fly if they and you trust in one another enough. They will use a mixture of unspoken mechanical handling and verbal command to order you about, move you, position you, and make use of you, and in theory will do so within the aforementioned guidelines.
A domineering person will act arrogantly and aggressively, and if it's not a part of the psych play mentioned previously, will be doing so simply out to get an egotistic sensation from harassing another. In said situations it constantly runs the risk of running past unmentioned limits, simply because it doesn't care to know them, let alone abide them.
So, the final comparison; A dominant takes control out of respect. A domineering person takes control out of a lack of respect.
A dominant will take control as per the limits you arrange; usually this is beforehand, sometimes on the fly if they and you trust in one another enough. They will use a mixture of unspoken mechanical handling and verbal command to order you about, move you, position you, and make use of you, and in theory will do so within the aforementioned guidelines.
A domineering person will act arrogantly and aggressively, and if it's not a part of the psych play mentioned previously, will be doing so simply out to get an egotistic sensation from harassing another. In said situations it constantly runs the risk of running past unmentioned limits, simply because it doesn't care to know them, let alone abide them.
So, the final comparison; A dominant takes control out of respect. A domineering person takes control out of a lack of respect.
Missy Myers
Gold Member
I think a Dominating person does so with the best intentions of helping the other person. They see a need to be dominant in a situation and want to fill that need. Someone who is domineering, on the other hand does so for their own egotistical interest.