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Dominance and submission?

I studied this topic with an exciting cross dressing partner many years ago. I believe that submissive starts at 1 and goes to dominant at 10. When I first meet this person I was a 4-6 range, and learnt to go to a 3-8 range. Most people assume I am dominant because I am bossy...what I did learn is the DOM does all the hard work, and I am too lazy for that.
The true submissive probably gets the most joy from their body and experiences, I watched a 4 hr BDSM scene once, where the lass when released had a 4 minute writhing orgasm. At first I thought she was a academy award operator like me, but within 3 seconds I was going I want one of those before I die.
Orgasm also goes in a range from 1-10 ...I got to about a 8.5 in my 50's and feel I will never get to the 10 as I have too many preconditioning issues from childhood and my era. It is great to see that now days we are so much freer.
 
I’m still on the fence, which most likely makes me a switch. Then again, I’m not certain I’ve explored dom/sub matters thoroughly enough to decide yet.

What I do know is it always depends on what my personal life has been like lately, or more specifically what’s been on my mind in terms of how I’m relating to my past experiences both inside and outside the bedroom.

If I’m feeling guilty about something that’s yet to be resolved (especially if I was certainly in the wrong), I’ll tend towards submission, even so far as to ask to be called names or insulted relating to the incident. Alternatively if I’ve been done wrong in a way I can’t clarify, I’ll generally be more than ready to dominate someone so I can prove to myself for a moment that I’m capable of being in charge.

All of this said, the reasons I can come up with for my lack of further exploration (which are also the reasons I should keep on going, strangely enough) are:
  • finding a playmate (or more than one) who can roll with my changes in demeanour from time to time
  • trust issues stemming from negative experiences involving lack of aftercare and ignorance of safe words and gestures
  • unresolved feelings towards what I was raised to believe about sexual liberation and gender norms.
Yeah... it’s a lot, huh? o_O:hilarious:
 
Sophie South said:
I’m still on the fence, which most likely makes me a switch. Then again, I’m not certain I’ve explored dom/sub matters thoroughly enough to decide yet.
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A very honest response!

As written before in this thread, consider the whole thing as a spectrum 1 -sub … 10 -Dom and we move on the spectrum.
Add in a second dimension of kink level and you get a grid for where your at.

This is me (kind of)...

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Depends, my wife prefers me to Dom, but she has her requests as well. Ethically non monogamous, my girlfriend is a switch, but we haven't made it to actually figuring out our dynamic yet. Honestly though, I wouldn't mind switching with her, being a Dom all the time can get exhausting for me.
 
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Are you "Dominant" OR "Submissive"?

Which one goes with your Personality or which one do you think goes best with you while role-playing?
Let's disclose some sexy dreamy secrets of US!!!!!😘😜💖

I am totally Submissive loyal to my master always committed and ready to serve whenever where ever he wants.
What about you all sexy out there??????😘😘💖💖💖🌹
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I enjoy both, have found it good to be the sub as it teaches/shows me ways to be a good dom...perhaps a case of I don’t know what I don’t know 🤔
 
BDSM (bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, and sadomasochism) as reckless, dangerous, and unhealthy.
Who said ???
I found 36% of adults admitted to using some form of bondage during lovemaking
Not only are researchers failing to find evidence of harm BDSM causes, but they are also discovering it actually has quite a few health benefits :
- Improved Mental Health
- Less Stress
- Improved Relationships
It's would be double benefit pleasure fun and healthy isn't 😍😍😍
 

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I am a switch - Dominant when i play with women, mostly submissive when i play with men. (mostly because pegging is one of my biggest kinks and pegging is just one of those things that can be quite difficult to do from a submissive position)

I love being submissive though - the orgasms are more intense as i give over total control of my body to someone i trust as they play out a scene they have planned for me. I also experience incredible sub drops and rely heavily on aftercare from my Dom, which isn't something you feel when in a Dominant role.
 
I am very much a Sub and I love it, I love having someone who is in charge and dominate me, my dom play partner is someone who I trust to just take charge and will at the end of the time know that both of us have had a fun time and have been pleasured that doesn't necessarily mean sex
 
punter.dave said:
In the bedroom I'm always a dom when engaging in play ... however in some cases I'm not always the top as I do enjoy being on the receiving end of certain types of play (knife play and Wax play specifically) though I still stay in control. I rarely call myself a switch simply because it's probably a 98/2 split and it can give the wrong impression to a play mate looking for a true switch.

There are also situations where I like to give the sub an opportunity to be a top for a little while.... an example is an ex of mine who loved making me watch her play and denying me access to her. She was what I guess many would call a brat and it was all about challenging the dominance role at times and keeping me on my toes lol (who wants a lazy dom) .. I'd always let her have a bit of fun as frankly I enjoyed watching... but when it was time to take back the top role the dom voice would come out and she'd behave ;)

With that said ... outside of the bedroom I love a strong independent woman who keeps me challenged and is on equal footing in every aspect because I am absolutely NOT a dominant personality outside of the bedroom.
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You are my perfect type of playmate 😊
 
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