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Disciplines - Codes Of Conduct.

AndyRew00

Hercules
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A discipline is any training intended to produce a specific character or pattern of behavior.

Disciplines are often activities that are used within the context of a scene and are sometimes referred to as play, dance, work, or some other concept that frames the situation of how the scene is to be carried out. Some especially dangerous disciplines might be categorized as edge play. [a full section will be devoted to Edge Play]

Most disciplines are written (at least in part) in the style of best practices to indicate a preferred method of starting to experience a new type of play.

Alternately, discipline may also refer to a form of consequence as part of a punishment dynamic that may be part of a negotiated power exchange dynamic, or in the case of funishment, may be part of a scene.
 
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Bondage:

Bondage or ligotage is consensually tying, binding, or restraining a partner (usually physically) for erotic, aesthetic, and/or somatosensory stimulation. Rope, cuffs, bondage tape, self-adhesive bandages, or other restraints may be used for this purpose. In some cases such as suspension and extreme bondage, or even just specific dangerous ground ties, bondage may be considered edge play.

Bondage itself does not imply sadomasochism. Bondage may be used as an end into itself, as in the case of rope bondage and breast bondage. It may also be used as a part of sex or in conjunction with other BDSM activities. The letter "B" in the acronym "BDSM" comes from the word "bondage". Sexuality and erotica are an important aspect in bondage, but are often not the end in itself. Aesthetics also plays an important role in bondage.

A common reason for the active partner to tie up their partner is so both may gain pleasure from the restrained partner's submission and the feeling of the temporary transfer of control and power. For sadomasochistic people, bondage is often used as a means to an end, where the restrained partner is more accessible to other sadomasochistic behavior. However, bondage can also be used for its own sake. The active partner can derive visual pleasure from seeing their partner tied up, and the restrained partner can derive tactile pleasure from the feeling of helplessness and immobility.

Types of Bondage:
  • - Decorating a partner for sensual and/or artistic reasons.
  • - Binding body parts, such as arms and/or legs, together.
  • - Spreading out body parts, such as arms and/or legs.
  • - Binding the restrained partner to an outside object, such as a Saint Andrew's Cross, a chair, or a table.
  • - Suspending the restrained partner from the ceiling or other hard point.
  • - Hindering and/or slowing down the movement of the restrained partner, such as with a hobble skirt or a corset.
  • - Wrapping the restrained partner up in soft, elastic material, thus restraining their entire body. This is known as mummification.
  • - Binding the body in such a fashion as to cause pain for the purposes of SM.

Bondage Implements -
  • - handcuffs
  • - manacles/iron
  • - suspension cuffs
  • - thumb and toe cuffs
  • - Rope(ground, suspension, rope dress, western, eastern, materials, various ties)
  • - chain restraints
  • - Latex restraints
  • - leather restraints
  • - silk restraints
  • - Mental Bondage
  • - Bags
  • - Furniture (Saint Andrew's Cross, stocks, bondage bed, bondage table, Cage)
  • - Gags
  • - Hanging/Gallows
  • - Hoods
  • - Mental Bondage
  • - Mummification
  • - Posture Restraints (spine bars, spreader bars, posture collars, backboards, arm binders)
  • - Suspension Frame
  • - Hard Point
  • - Torture Devices (Pear of Anguish, Iron Maiden, etc.)
  • - Vacuum Restraint
Chest Harnesses -
Chest Harnesses are rope bondage that is used the support the chest area.

Pentagram Chest Harness:
The pentagram chest harness is a decorative chest harness that creates a pentagram shape on the chest of the bottom.

Chest Harness:
This super quick tie provides an anchor point high on the torso.

Floor Ties -
Floor Ties, sometimes referred to as "ground work", are rope bondage ties that are specifically designed for the bottom to remain on the floor and experience restriction, though some of these techniques might be safely combined with suspension techniques. Each tie may have many alterations and permutations and can vary a great deal regionally as well as between riggers. In some cases the names of the ties may be different with the tie being the same. It is important to know the various aspects you might be changing should you use modifications or various tie combinations and that can have a major impact on scene safety.

Hip Harnesses -
Hip Harnesses are used to offer support and/or decoration to the hips of a bottom with rope bondage.

Bones and Rope Hip Harness:
1) versatile - there are two versions, with and without a hip line, both comfortable in suspension,
2) solid - doubling the rope at the front stem prevents the leg frictions and the waist friction from being able to slip in suspension,
3) comfortable - the leg frictions are towards the inside thigh, and the hip support rope doesn't restrict leg movement (e.g. opening the legs). The hip support constitutes a 'mesh' at the back which offers extra support for the buttocks in a face-up position.

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Mental Bondage -

Mental bondage is a BDSM term that means the restriction of movement without using physical means.Mental bondage works by obedience alone. The bottom is commanded, either verbally, via body language, or implicitly (they know what is expected of them instinctively or because they've been instructed on earlier occasions before), to assume a certain body position, posture, or stance, and to remain still in this pose until they are permitted to leave it.

Mental bondage can be especially useful for some forms of play that require access to surface area as it allows restriction of the bottom (pending self discipline of the bottom) but without having outside tools and elements covering their various parts that would otherwise hold them in place.

Examples:
  • - The Gorean slave positions are examples of mental bondage.
  • - Corner Time could be considered a form of mental bondage.
  • - Confinement to a room or house without physically locking the person up, such as in grounding, is a form of mental bondage.
  • - Objectification as furniture can be considered a form of mental bondage.
  • - A way of combining mental bondage and spanking is by putting the spankee in the desired spanking position and telling him or her not to move out of this position. This means, for example in the OTK position
  • - No reaching back with either hand. Hands must remain in front of the spankee
  • - No kicking, bending, tucking up or crossing the legs
  • - No wriggling.
 
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Communication Disciplines

I must admit that my first impression coming across this subject in the BDSM environment did throw me a little in regard solely on its title. Am I to have the strength/discipline to withhold the transfer of the spoken word and only speak when ordered to? was my first uneducated guess. However as I ventured further into the topic it quickly became apparent I have no idea to its meaning whatsoever. Before I go any further I want you to watch this 10 minute video.


Communication Disciplines are nuanced practices and art forms that primarily involve the transmission of information. The following 10 subjects are related to the category of communication disciplines in the BDSM environment.
 
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Punishment or Funishment?

At some point or another, most kinksters have brought a little (or a lot of) funishment into the bedroom. We don’t spend our evenings perusing the Mr S online store because we’ve got out-of-control subs, we do it because we play hard.

“you’ve been a very naughty boy. Get over my knee, I’m going to have to spank you!”

There’s nothing wrong with that. We’re all mature adults around here. We know when play is play and when things start to get serious.

But, when things do start to get serious, we’re often faced with dilemmas like:
• My boy is a bit of a maso and he gets off on the pain
• I tried that last time, but here we are in the same situation again
• What if it backfires and put distance between us?
• What if he hates it and starts to resent me?
• What if it triggers other issues?

Punishment isn’t meant to be enjoyable. If it is, then it isn’t punishment. If you’re using funishment in the bedroom, then you have probably chosen what you do there based on mutual enjoyment. That means that the things you do in the bedroom are probably not going to be effective punishments, which means you need an entirely different approach if you are using punishment for behaviour modification.

Fortunately, you have four different overall approaches available to you and it is worthwhile familiarising yourself with the basis for this in our article Behavior Modification Using Reinforcement and Punishment.

It’s worth repeating something that we touched on in that article. Punishment is only fair if you have already discussed what you want and how to achieve it clearly with your sub, AND you’ve checked that they understand and they are capable of doing so. No sub is a mind reader, and it’s unfair to punish anyone because they just ambiently “should have known” what you wanted.

Punishment is also not a substitute for communication. You need to run through the issue with your sub, making sure that they understand exactly what the punishment is for and getting a commitment from them to correct the behaviour in the future.

If properly administered, punishment can strengthen bonds between Dom and sub. Restrictions and boundaries are part and parcel of our power exchange, and it’s a part that many subs enjoy having. But, they’re not real if they’re not enforced.

What can be used for punishment? I’m not sure of the source of the illustration below, and personally I wouldn’t use many of suggestions, but you might see something that inspires you. The main thing is that it should be something that truly is a punishment for your sub. If you can find a punishment that is associated with the transgression then all the better, because that sense of association will help to deliver a strong message.

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Written by Author MasterMac
 
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