some people go about it differant ways. You can contact a mistress from the newspaper or a few of them and ask if they will train you, they may charge or may use you in bookings. You can contact a dungeon fetish place in the area that you live and see fi they would be willing to train you, or you find a club or other people aroun off forums like this that some people would willingly train others in the arts of the fetish depending on what it is. Of course I see a lot of people anting to train subs as they want to be dominant and the other subservient, but some others may come to the fore to this post.
same for the guys also. maybe you two can train together..lol