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Autism friendly workers

ChubbyBear

ChubbyBear

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I've found plenty of workers who are disability friendly online, but I was wondering if there are any that are specifically accepting and understanding of autism and the challenges that could arise in a session (i.e, physical and social awkardness and clumsiness, sensory sensitivity or overload, etc.). No real preferences, as long as she's kind, accepting and genuinely enjoys her work.
 
Hi sweetheart
I would hope that all disability-friendly workers be inclusive when it comes to Autism. Or a least have an understanding of it. Autism is different for each person. Sensitivity to light and sound, overstimulation. Some seek out the touch and for others, it can be a trigger. ASD runs deep in my family, with 4 of my children and 2 of my grandchildren. I am also on the spectrum

I would encourage you to have an open dialogue with the person to assess their knowledge. And educating them on your possible triggers so that they can best cater to your needs
 
If i find one I'll let you know.
You can try seeing who is on the list here, i haven't.

Link is broken so has been taken down
 
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Skwirl said:
If i find one I'll let you know.
You can try seeing who is on the list here, i haven't.

Link is broken so has been taken down
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Sent them an email for their list of disability friendly services, waiting on a response now. Thank you.
 
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Miss Monique said:
Hi sweetheart
I would hope that all disability-friendly workers be inclusive when it comes to Autism. Or a least have an understanding of it. Autism is different for each person. Sensitivity to light and sound, overstimulation. Some seek out the touch and for others, it can be a trigger. ASD runs deep in my family, with 4 of my children and 2 of my grandchildren. I am also on the spectrum

I would encourage you to have an open dialogue with the person to assess their knowledge. And educating them on your possible triggers so that they can best cater to your needs
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Sensory issues aren't as much of a problem, more difficulty with social interactions and motor skills/knowing what to do with my hands and other parts of my body. I'm sure that most workers that list themselves as disability friendly on their profiles can handle autistic clients, but someone who could also coach me in sex and intimacy matters would be great (I saw one ad for intimacy coaching but they only saw mature men).
 
ChubbyBear said:
No real preferences, as long as she's kind, accepting and genuinely enjoys her work.
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Thanks for bringing that up, CB.

After interacting with a lot of sex workers and punters and reading plenty of reviews, I've come to the conclusion that many of us (both clients and sex workers) have either diagnosed or undiagnosed autism, ADD, ADHD, bipolar, anxiety, personality disorder etc. but won't admit to it. We all would rather others think we're 'normal' when the truth is there's no 'normal'. We all fall on the spectrum somewhere.

We need EVERY sex worker to be educated, informed, understanding, compassionate and accommodating to everyone. Any sex worker who doesn't is in the wrong job. You shouldn't have to be seeking 'autism friendly' workers. Autism shouldn't even be considered a disability when it comes to sex.
 
I'm fairly out about being Autistic+ADHD because I'm always some version of wierd but reactions are worse if people can't label me. BUT I have enough white middle-class chartered accountant privilege that I can get away with it, making me not "mad" but "eccentric".

However, autism is often a disability when it "comes:)to sex" because:
• Sensory issues can make us (assuming everybody else is like me) crap at touching things during foreplay or politely dealing with fish smells.
• Breaking eye contact to think or concentrate on sensations, while reverting to your default face setting whenever you concentrate on something else, is easily interpreted as mechanical sex.
• It is easy having severe mummy issues if your autism made you incapable of perceiving your mother's affection. Mummy issues can make us crap at relationships.
• Autistic people are associated with more premature babies and other breeding problems, though current science will never do experiments required to be certain about causation after some German scientists got in trouble in the 1940s, but my dad was an only child and both my sisters have had only one live child each, with no more. I'd warn any woman with autistic blood relatives to be wary.
 
For what it's worth, I saw Dee Licious in Norwood a few years ago and she was incredible. I don't know if she was specifically disability friendly but she really helped me shake off the nerves and have a fun session so I can personally recommend her.
 
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