An experience that taught me trust and respect

[Geordie Steve]

Hi there forum members, though I am still a relative new comer to this site, I've already seen what a close knit and friendly group of people you are.

I thought I would share a true story that happened to me which restored my faith in others. In a recent posting I shared that I have enjoyed for a number of years the swinging scene with my wife and latterly as a single man (widower).
In our early ventures into swinging we used to organise to meet others mainly through advertisements and visit one another's homes. After a while we decided we would like to try a club and enjoy being with many other people, watching, talking, relaxing and playing.

We knew of a club that was some 50km from our home, far enough away not to be seen going in by people who may know us (or so we thought). The club was welcoming when we arrived and it had a really great atmosphere, so it didn't take us too long to get into the "swing of things" (if you know what I mean).

Having met and made new friends we decided to go to the bar area to relax and chat for a while. As we neared the bar, sat at it was a lady colleague from work with her husband. At first there was an awkward look between us which quickly turned to a smile and laughter. We had the usual banter of "I didn't recognise you in only your stockings and heels" and "you look so much better out of your work clothes".

We quickly got over the fact that we were work colleagues and sat talking, sharing experiences and enjoying one another's company. After a while the four of us felt comfortable and decided we would like to explore together, so we found a play area and had a fabulous evening.

Nothing changed in the work environment, though we often arranged regular liaisons at the club (silly but the four of us felt it was right to go to the club to play, but didn't feel it would be right to play in our homes). We were always great friends and never once feared that our friendship would be breached.

Since then there have been others that we knew and came across at clubs, some we became friends with, some we did not, however we all knew our swinging lifestyle was safely protected, after all, we were all of a like mind and neither judged or wished to be judged by others.

Swinging has brought so much pleasure and trust in my fellow beings.

Cheers
Steve

 

[Rochelle]

that's a good story to share. I know a few people/couples who think about it but are holding back because of the consequences they might have to endure if their swinging would come out in the open.
Swinging seems to be a taboo in our modern world as much as our industry.
It is a shame because it can be so much positive energy when you meet and connect with like minded people.

 

[Sir Cruiser]

that's a good story to share. I know a few people/couples who think about it but are holding back because of the consequences they might have to endure if their swinging would come out in the open.
Swinging seems to be a taboo in our modern world as much as our industry.
It is a shame because it can be so much positive energy when you meet and connect with like minded people.

Good post GS, i have found it hard to meet people in that lifestyle but mainly due to just having a working relationship as opposed to a wife relationship. Connection and intimacy are more important to me tho

 

[HappyPirate]

Ahoy Thanks for sharing
Cheers and Pass the Rum

 

[Rochelle]

Good post GS, i have found it hard to meet people in that lifestyle but mainly due to just having a working relationship as opposed to a wife relationship. Connection and intimacy are more important to me tho

I agree............connection and intimacy can be a base of a relation ship/human connection. Relation ships based on sex mainly will run out of things to fill the relation ship with when sex turns boring or stale..........

 

[Master Yoda]

Thank you for sharing...that is a nice story.

 

[Geordie Steve]

Thank you for sharing...that is a nice story.

Thank you for responding, I wanted to share it for a couple of reasons, one to hopefully allay fears that some who may be considering joining the swinging lifestyle and secondly dispelling the misconception that those of us who do enjoy the lifestyle are "without morals or scruples". We are just normal people who have a more liberated approach to taboo subjects such as sex. The couples who swing are loving and care passionately about their partners, they simply don't have to consider them as a possession to do so.

Cheers
Steve

 

[Geordie Steve]

I agree............connection and intimacy can be a base of a relation ship/human connection. Relation ships based on sex mainly will run out of things to fill the relation ship with when sex turns boring or stale..........

Hi there, genuinely appreciate the feedback and do respect both viewpoints.

What I would say though is that the swinging lifestyle still doesn't remove or take away the intimacy and connection that exists in a relationship, if anything it strengthens it and makes the bonds even stronger between them.

Couples only come together in the first place because they have a connection, when comfortable and it feels right, then the intimacy is established. Intimacy however goes far beyond merely physical connection, it also comes in the shape of understanding one another, knowing how each person feels and caring for them. It's that intimacy that bonds the relationship. A swinging lifestyle doesn't remove the love that couples have for one another, it simply demonstrates the strength of trust between them and that they are comfortable to love life as a true partner not a possession of one another.

It certainly worked for us and was our experience

Cheers
Steve

 

[Thor]

Great story to share! Thanks for the insight.

Mrs Thor and I have started talking about it. We're still unsure though it is a hot fantasy for both of us.

But a work colleague, especially a lady. Thats hot as! It must have been fun back at work that week!

 

[Rochelle]

So true Geordie, I said before somewhere on here (so sorry to repeat but I think it is so true)........if couples are comfortable and connected enough to get over the green monster called jealousy they have a real chance to get much more of great experience together.

 

[Geordie Steve]

So true Geordie, I said before somewhere on here (so sorry to repeat but I think it is so true)........if couples are comfortable and connected enough to get over the green monster called jealousy they have a real chance to get much more of great experience together.

Hi Rochelle, you are so right, it is a shame that the green monster too often gets in some cases stops good turning to great in relationships

 

[Geordie Steve]

Hi Rochelle, you are so right, it is a shame that the green monster too often gets in some cases stops good turning to great in relationships

Sorry auto spell got in the way, meant to say;
Hi Rochelle, you are so right, it is a shame that the green monster too often gets in the way in some cases and stops good turning to great in relationships

 

[Mrs Langtrees]

Great Thread have you learnt how to use multiple conversations yet, I am sure Rochelle will teach you.By the way when are you coming back Rochelle, I want you in Canberra one day soon.

 

[Geordie Steve]

Great Thread have you learnt how to use multiple conversations yet, I am sure Rochelle will teach you.By the way when are you coming back Rochelle, I want you in Canberra one day soon.

Hi Mary-Anne, thank you. No, I've yet to master the art of multiple conversations but am a willing learner Rochelle.

 

[Rochelle]

Great Thread have you learnt how to use multiple conversations yet, I am sure Rochelle will teach you.By the way when are you coming back Rochelle, I want you in Canberra one day soon.

At this stage beginning of February. I am looking at the week starting Monday the 9th. Yes, let's talk about Canberra when I am back.