BUT I LIKE IT NATURAL
By Vixen Unfiltered
If I had a dollar for every man who asked, “How much extra for natural?”
You can’t put a price on that, love. How do you price your health, an unintended pregnancy, or an infection you could pass on to somebody else? All because a little piece of rubber feels uncomfortable?
One request still sticks with me. A man wanted condomless sex without us having reviewed current test results. Then he told me his wife was ten weeks pregnant.
That upset me immensely. Some untreated STIs can seriously harm a pregnancy. Syphilis, for example, can cause miscarriage, stillbirth or infection in the baby. Testing and timely treatment matter.[1]
Half an hour of “penis freedom” is a pretty bloody poor reason to disregard someone else’s health.
“I’ve never had anything” isn’t a guarantee. Many STIs have no symptoms. Looking well and giving someone your word don’t establish your STI status.[2]
I keep my bookings low-volume and don’t offer blow-and-go services. I take my health seriously and seek medical advice. But I won’t pretend that makes me immune. Oral sex without a condom can transmit STIs too. Regular testing helps detect infections; it doesn’t prevent every exposure.[2]
Agreeing to one activity does not mean agreeing to everything. My boundary is mine. It isn’t an invitation to negotiate.
Condoms reduce risk, although they don’t eliminate it. Negative test results also have limits: recent infections may not show up yet, and a test cannot account for exposures that happen afterward.[2][3]
LET’S CLEAR UP A FEW MYTHS
“Sex workers are all dirty drug addicts.”
A job title tells you neither someone’s hygiene nor whether they use drugs. Having an STI or struggling with substance use doesn’t make someone disposable, either.
“Sex workers automatically have higher STI rates.”
Australian STI Guidelines say there is no evidence Australian sex workers have higher STI rates than the general population. Equally, a higher price, an agency or a particular website cannot guarantee someone’s health. Assess actual precautions, not stereotypes.[3]
“I can reverse the payment because I didn’t like it.”
Raise concerns honestly and promptly. A genuine payment dispute is different from fabricating one to avoid an agreed payment. In Victoria, a false or misleading representation about payment that causes someone to agree to a commercial sexual act is specifically recognised as a circumstance where they do not consent. Whether conduct constitutes a particular offence depends on the facts and the legal elements; every unpaid bill is not automatically rape.[4]
“She agreed to sex, so taking the condom off is fine.”
Absolutely not. Victorian law recognises there is no consent where agreement depends on a condom and the other person intentionally removes or tampers with it, or intentionally does not use it. That conduct can amount to rape or sexual assault. The relevant offence still has to be proved.[4]
“Alcohol or drugs make consent irrelevant.”
Being asleep, unconscious, or too affected to consent or withdraw consent is not consent. Simply having consumed alcohol or drugs does not automatically mean a person cannot consent. Nor does an accused person’s self-induced intoxication excuse an unreasonable belief in consent under Victorian law.[4]
THESE ARE REAL AUSTRALIAN CASES
• ACT, 2015: Akis Livas pleaded guilty to rape after pretending to pay a sex worker $850 with an envelope stuffed with paper. ABC reported an eight-month jail sentence.[5]
• NSW, 2025: ABC reported Harjeet Saini had pleaded guilty to eleven sexual-assault counts involving at least four women, in a pattern involving promised or purported payments that did not materialise. That report preceded sentencing.[6]
• ACT, 2025: Aleksandar Ivanovski was found guilty of rape after covertly removing a condom during an encounter with a sex worker who had refused condomless sex. He received a two-and-a-half-year sentence, to be suspended after one year.[7]
These cases arose under their respective jurisdictions’ laws. They demonstrate that paying for sexual services does not remove a worker’s right to consent or make deception and violated boundaries consequence-free.
I value my health. I value yours and the health of the people around us. I don’t need to judge another worker’s choices to be firm about mine.
My answer to “How much extra?” is no.
Respect it.
REFERENCES
[1] NSW Health — You, your baby and syphilis
https://www.health.nsw.gov.au/sexualhealth/Pages/you-your-baby-and-syphilis.aspx
[2] Healthdirect — Safe sex
https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/healthy-living/physical-wellbeing/safe-sex
[3] Australian STI Management Guidelines — Sex workers
https://sti.guidelines.org.au/populations-and-situations/sex-workers/
[4] Crimes Act 1958 (Vic), version 323: sections 36AA, 36B and 38. In particular 36AA(1)(m), (o), and the intoxication-related provisions.
https://www.legislation.vic.gov.au/in-force/acts/crimes-act-1958/323
[5] ABC, 6 February 2015 — Akis Livas payment-deception case
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2015-02-06/man-jailed-for-rape-after-tricking-sex-worker/6075496
[6] ABC, 16 December 2025 — Harjeet Saini convictions
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-12-16/nsw-consent-laws-protect-sex-workers-against-non-paying-clients/106114406
[7] ABC, 6 June 2025 — Aleksandar Ivanovski stealthing conviction and sentence
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-06-06/act-man-jailed-for-over-two-years-for-stealthing-sex-worker/105387166
By Vixen Unfiltered
If I had a dollar for every man who asked, “How much extra for natural?”
You can’t put a price on that, love. How do you price your health, an unintended pregnancy, or an infection you could pass on to somebody else? All because a little piece of rubber feels uncomfortable?
One request still sticks with me. A man wanted condomless sex without us having reviewed current test results. Then he told me his wife was ten weeks pregnant.
That upset me immensely. Some untreated STIs can seriously harm a pregnancy. Syphilis, for example, can cause miscarriage, stillbirth or infection in the baby. Testing and timely treatment matter.[1]
Half an hour of “penis freedom” is a pretty bloody poor reason to disregard someone else’s health.
“I’ve never had anything” isn’t a guarantee. Many STIs have no symptoms. Looking well and giving someone your word don’t establish your STI status.[2]
I keep my bookings low-volume and don’t offer blow-and-go services. I take my health seriously and seek medical advice. But I won’t pretend that makes me immune. Oral sex without a condom can transmit STIs too. Regular testing helps detect infections; it doesn’t prevent every exposure.[2]
Agreeing to one activity does not mean agreeing to everything. My boundary is mine. It isn’t an invitation to negotiate.
Condoms reduce risk, although they don’t eliminate it. Negative test results also have limits: recent infections may not show up yet, and a test cannot account for exposures that happen afterward.[2][3]
LET’S CLEAR UP A FEW MYTHS
“Sex workers are all dirty drug addicts.”
A job title tells you neither someone’s hygiene nor whether they use drugs. Having an STI or struggling with substance use doesn’t make someone disposable, either.
“Sex workers automatically have higher STI rates.”
Australian STI Guidelines say there is no evidence Australian sex workers have higher STI rates than the general population. Equally, a higher price, an agency or a particular website cannot guarantee someone’s health. Assess actual precautions, not stereotypes.[3]
“I can reverse the payment because I didn’t like it.”
Raise concerns honestly and promptly. A genuine payment dispute is different from fabricating one to avoid an agreed payment. In Victoria, a false or misleading representation about payment that causes someone to agree to a commercial sexual act is specifically recognised as a circumstance where they do not consent. Whether conduct constitutes a particular offence depends on the facts and the legal elements; every unpaid bill is not automatically rape.[4]
“She agreed to sex, so taking the condom off is fine.”
Absolutely not. Victorian law recognises there is no consent where agreement depends on a condom and the other person intentionally removes or tampers with it, or intentionally does not use it. That conduct can amount to rape or sexual assault. The relevant offence still has to be proved.[4]
“Alcohol or drugs make consent irrelevant.”
Being asleep, unconscious, or too affected to consent or withdraw consent is not consent. Simply having consumed alcohol or drugs does not automatically mean a person cannot consent. Nor does an accused person’s self-induced intoxication excuse an unreasonable belief in consent under Victorian law.[4]
THESE ARE REAL AUSTRALIAN CASES
• ACT, 2015: Akis Livas pleaded guilty to rape after pretending to pay a sex worker $850 with an envelope stuffed with paper. ABC reported an eight-month jail sentence.[5]
• NSW, 2025: ABC reported Harjeet Saini had pleaded guilty to eleven sexual-assault counts involving at least four women, in a pattern involving promised or purported payments that did not materialise. That report preceded sentencing.[6]
• ACT, 2025: Aleksandar Ivanovski was found guilty of rape after covertly removing a condom during an encounter with a sex worker who had refused condomless sex. He received a two-and-a-half-year sentence, to be suspended after one year.[7]
These cases arose under their respective jurisdictions’ laws. They demonstrate that paying for sexual services does not remove a worker’s right to consent or make deception and violated boundaries consequence-free.
I value my health. I value yours and the health of the people around us. I don’t need to judge another worker’s choices to be firm about mine.
My answer to “How much extra?” is no.
Respect it.
REFERENCES
[1] NSW Health — You, your baby and syphilis
https://www.health.nsw.gov.au/sexualhealth/Pages/you-your-baby-and-syphilis.aspx
[2] Healthdirect — Safe sex
https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/healthy-living/physical-wellbeing/safe-sex
[3] Australian STI Management Guidelines — Sex workers
https://sti.guidelines.org.au/populations-and-situations/sex-workers/
[4] Crimes Act 1958 (Vic), version 323: sections 36AA, 36B and 38. In particular 36AA(1)(m), (o), and the intoxication-related provisions.
https://www.legislation.vic.gov.au/in-force/acts/crimes-act-1958/323
[5] ABC, 6 February 2015 — Akis Livas payment-deception case
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2015-02-06/man-jailed-for-rape-after-tricking-sex-worker/6075496
[6] ABC, 16 December 2025 — Harjeet Saini convictions
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-12-16/nsw-consent-laws-protect-sex-workers-against-non-paying-clients/106114406
[7] ABC, 6 June 2025 — Aleksandar Ivanovski stealthing conviction and sentence
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-06-06/act-man-jailed-for-over-two-years-for-stealthing-sex-worker/105387166