Should a P.M remain that way??

should a "PM" stay private

  • yes

    Votes: 18 85.7%

  • no

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • depends on the circumstances

    Votes: 3 14.3%
  • Total voters
    21
billybones

billybones

Thrillseeker
Legend Member
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7
Should your Private message remain exactly that a "private message"???

For me, yes it should,. After all if you wanted to keep something between you and another member, that is the whole idea otherwise you`ld just post it for eveybody else to see.

Not trying to take any sides but was it right that different prices were being paid by different people.
I guess that is entirely up to the business owner and what they want each person to pay is up to them. If I found out my friend was going a cheaper hamburger then me at the same shop I`ld question the owner, take my business elsewhere or discuss it quietly between other freinds, not stick a big poster up outside the shop window.

How many of us punters would like to see our private numbers posted along side our forum names?

I don`t think too many. :notworthy
 
Sensual ~ Vanessa

Sensual ~ Vanessa

Gold Member
Points
0
Yes I think a private pm ought to remain private
unless your concerned about a member harming themselves
or someone else and then you bring the attention to a mod, not
necessarily public forum

It seems the issue you are making reference to, the wl was discrete and
didn't broadcast it, unfortunately that info was not treated in the respect
of the privacy of which it was delivered.
Doesn't make him a bad person - he fucked up ! we're all human, it happens.
Maybe next time.......:)
 
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WRXXXR

But common sense should be used when dealing with people you've never met who may or may not be discussing your service in the first place..

People can charge what they like for their "time and service" but remember the Internet has given people a voice so if you continue to chop and change the price it's go the potential to come back and bite you in the arse!
 
billybones

billybones

Thrillseeker
Legend Member
Points
7
WRXXXR said:
But common sense should be used when dealing with people you've never met who may or may not be discussing your service in the first place..

People can charge what they like for their "time and service" but remember the Internet has given people a voice so if you continue to chop and change the price it's go the potential to come back and bite you in the arse!
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Agree the internet has given us a voice but at the same time, we should be able to talk amongst ourselves.
I think this is why most forum sites have a P.M function.

Also agree she shouldn`t been charging different prices but how do we know she was unless some of us were sending each other P.M and that`s where the chat should have stayed.

Also agree with you Sensual ~ Vanessa that he made a mistake as all humans do and hopefully he has learnt by this and will be more careful in the future.
There is no such thing as the perfect person.
 
billybones

billybones

Thrillseeker
Legend Member
Points
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Now your trying to sweet talk me...
Are you hoping I`m going to give you some tips??

Tip 1. As much as we all like a screw, why use that as a profile pic??
 
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WRXXXR

billybones said:
Agree the internet has given us a voice but at the same time, we should be able to talk amongst ourselves.
I think this is why most forum sites have a P.M function.
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Don't get me wrong I agree pm should be kept private but everyone needs to realize you might have NFI who's actually reading the message at the other end.

There's every chance it is going to be harmless but you just never know.
 
johnlou

johnlou

5 Star General
Foundation Member
Points
0
a PM is what it is a " PRIVATE MESSAGE " between 2 ip address unless it has been CC'd to others . unless it is a harressing message or a message of harm to 1's self or someone else on the forums . but in reguards to the post mentioned in another thread then this post should have stayed private ( if it was a real pm ) n not a fake to do harm the the said person as it does happen a lot more than u would liketo think on the internet.


John
 
Happy2

Happy2

Legend Member
Points
15
I am pleased to say I have become actual real not cyberfriends with a member on this site If PM's were put up for anyone to see this would not have happened
So for me of course all PM's should be Private as the term implies
 
Demon

Demon

Legend Member
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happy2 said:
I am pleased to say I have become actual real not cyberfriends with a member on this site If PM's were put up for anyone to see this would not have happened
So for me of course all PM's should be Private as the term implies
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Same privacy also all other private communications: Phone calls, letters, face-to-face conversations, etc.
 
Happy2

Happy2

Legend Member
Points
15
Yes Demon If opened and then uploaded a private letter addressed to you I think
I may get more than a infraction for my efforts
Not including the smack in the mouth coming from you
 
johnlou

johnlou

5 Star General
Foundation Member
Points
0
Demon said:
The poll is pretty clear: 100% vote 'yes'.
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Demon 1 vote can only be 100%
2 votes can be either 50% or 100%
3 votes can be either 33.3333% or 50% or 100%

in yr case u was the only vote . so go figure :) :)

John
 
Demon

Demon

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johnlou said:
Demon 1 vote can only be 100%
2 votes can be either 50% or 100%
3 votes can be either 33.3333% or 50% or 100%

in yr case u was the only vote . so go figure :) :)

John
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I was proving that I can be a politician. Spin the results the way you want.:la::la::la:

Now it is 100% from 5 votes. Five times more valid, and each person can vote only once.:eek:ccasion14
 
Happy2

Happy2

Legend Member
Points
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johnlou said:
Demon 1 vote can only be 100%
2 votes can be either 50% or 100%
3 votes can be either 33.3333% or 50% or 100%

in yr case u was the only vote . so go figure :) :)

John
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Oh I dont know johnlou a vote for- depending on the circumstance- is a vote for yes/no/maybe a foot in each camp
 
D

~Dragons_Princess~

First rule of the internet - Assume everything you put on it will be seen by everybody...
 
antonov

antonov

Gold Member
Points
0
Absolutely a PM should remain private.

That one stupid act has blown the whole integrity of the system right out of the water. No-one in their right mind is going to divulge any private information to anyone on this forum knowing there is a risk that it could be made public with a simple "cut and paste operation".

As for WLs charging different punters different prices, I don't have a problem with that. Surely she is entitled to make an assessment of how pleasant or otherwise the job is likely to be and price accordingly - isn't that what all other service industry people are entitled to do? Even my lawnmower man has the right to charge my neighbour more than me if he wants to.....
 
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WRXXXR

If your lawn mower man has half a brain he won't (especially now..) as he knows it'll then cost him work once your neighbor finds out he's charging you less for the same amount of lawn.

I'm happy to be proven wrong but I can't see a WL having successful longevity if they continue to charge person A $100p/h, person B $200p/h and person C $300p/h for the same service.

We saw it on another thread and it was very clear there's a few people not happy and who wont see her!
 
N

Naughty Thoughts

I voted "it depends on the circumstances" and here's why:

First, let's go to the extreme worst end. If you receive a pm from a member containing child porn, then you are required (probably by law, not 100% sure) to report it. Either directly to the police or at least to a moderator / staff here on the forum. I'd be disappointed with someone who didn't report it.

Next, a less-worst case scenario: you receive a threatening PM. Again, I'd say something like that should be reported (and it has been, because it has happened).

In both of those cases - should the message(s) be publicly posted? Probably not in the first case, but I've seen it done in the second case. Sometimes that's been a good thing, sometimes a bad thing. It depends on the circumstances.

In most other cases, a private message is a private message - but as ~Dragons_Princess~ said - once it is on line, it's out there and there and there is no bringing it back. Same situation as when a couple breaks up - in theory they should delete any "personal" photos they have of each other, but if it is a nasty break-up, those photos might get sent around, despite being very personal.
 
Happy2

Happy2

Legend Member
Points
15
There will always be some exceptions As lone road pointed out
But as the majority of us have said Private is what it says so we must protect that
 
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