Orgasms!
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Finger up the bum...
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Sooo, what do you do with the finger?
chocy
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Maybe u are overthinking it which will make it worse.... what med do u take?
joe12155
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Do you mean the medication you take causes the delayed ejaculation? What's the medication called?
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Yes, correct. In addition my natural state is to take along time. The med is Duloxitine, it's a typical side effect.
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Sure that's possible, it is frustrating.
dan60
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i know your pain, i was taking anti-depressants many many years ago when i was married.
i couldn't reach orgasm no matter how hard i went at it.
very frustrating.
but i eventually found the cure..........
i got rid of the wife and i didn't need the pills any more.(true story)
i couldn't reach orgasm no matter how hard i went at it.
very frustrating.
but i eventually found the cure..........
i got rid of the wife and i didn't need the pills any more.(true story)
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Haha sometimes the drastic stuff works. And thanks, yeah it's not ideal. I recon I'll be on them for a while as their prescribed in part for pain management for an permanent meurologic condition. So I think I'm stuck with it but pain is definitely down so they are working.
Yoyoma
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What great contribution to the topic...
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Look at your Avatar,.. LOL
Yep fingers up a male ass massaging the acorn right normally makes a male squirt.. so I think my contribution was bang on the money.
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How do find this acorn?
Luckypete 08
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Haha maybe i should try that ?
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_Finger up the bum_
l6zan5
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These euphemisms for massaging the prostate... might be better if it's just spelled out for the poor chap, at least then he might be able to look it up.
As an alternative, perhaps you could maybe arrange an outcall and like get yourself started prior to your companion's arrival? Probably wouldn't hurt to try and find someone you suppose might be understanding too... experiencing such issues has made me hate handjobs, lady feels tired, gives up and decides to start jerking you off, gets frustrated and rougher and rougher until there is zero chance of finishing because it's just unpleasant for all involved.
As an alternative, perhaps you could maybe arrange an outcall and like get yourself started prior to your companion's arrival? Probably wouldn't hurt to try and find someone you suppose might be understanding too... experiencing such issues has made me hate handjobs, lady feels tired, gives up and decides to start jerking you off, gets frustrated and rougher and rougher until there is zero chance of finishing because it's just unpleasant for all involved.
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Thanks, I did think about having a half wank earlier in the day, prior to a visit. I'll give your suggestion a try. Cheers!
dan60
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maybe try the opposite.
no wanking or porn for about 4/5 days.
wait until you have blue balls.
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It's a good idea, although I'm already doing that...
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I'm no doc or psych but i think its about conditioning your brain while not putting to much pressure on yourself. having an ability over time to delay ejac until you've had enough and just explode. it sort of works for me.
Georgia Sharp
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I second this. If it is depression or anxiety, work out if it is circumstantial... if it is... change your circumstances.
Failing that could you skip your pills the day of, or day before you want to have sex...?
If neither the above are options then you should, as a kindness to your partner, jerk off at the end of sex.
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I second this. If it is depression or anxiety, work out if it is circumstantial... if it is... change your circumstances.
Failing that could you skip your pills the day of, or day before you want to have sex...?
If neither the above are options then you should, as a kindness to your partner, jerk off at the end of sex.
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Yes , from my personal experience from SDR's missing them for a day won't help this. As the body takes well over a month to condition from the change they make whether it be starting them or trying to taper off them.
The situation was incredibly confidence damaging to my girlfriend in our early 20's as she had huge self esteem issues. So this was seen by her as not being attractive or desirable enough to make it happen. We did in time learn of ways to get past it but it was no quick fix. More like tease for the days before we would see each other and foreplay would end up being hours when we finally met to assist.
After we sepperated years later I had tried escorts and couldn't achieve climax with them. Not that they weren't amazing in their craft or beautiful women and souls. Just the 1-2 hrs of someone's time didn't bring forward enough connection and desire in my mind for them.
But I have been off the medication for 3 years now and feel so much better lifting that cloud and fog from my mind. Mind you after 11 years of drs cocktails for your brain. It took a year out of my life quitting work and personnel affairs to regain it .
Failing that could you skip your pills the day of, or day before you want to have sex...?
If neither the above are options then you should, as a kindness to your partner, jerk off at the end of sex.
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Yes , from my personal experience from SDR's missing them for a day won't help this. As the body takes well over a month to condition from the change they make whether it be starting them or trying to taper off them.
The situation was incredibly confidence damaging to my girlfriend in our early 20's as she had huge self esteem issues. So this was seen by her as not being attractive or desirable enough to make it happen. We did in time learn of ways to get past it but it was no quick fix. More like tease for the days before we would see each other and foreplay would end up being hours when we finally met to assist.
After we sepperated years later I had tried escorts and couldn't achieve climax with them. Not that they weren't amazing in their craft or beautiful women and souls. Just the 1-2 hrs of someone's time didn't bring forward enough connection and desire in my mind for them.
But I have been off the medication for 3 years now and feel so much better lifting that cloud and fog from my mind. Mind you after 11 years of drs cocktails for your brain. It took a year out of my life quitting work and personnel affairs to regain it .
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good stuff Lukifer and good to see u came out the other side.
l6zan5
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If neither the above are options then you should, as a kindness to your partner, jerk off at the end of sex.
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I get that for guy's a lot of importance is placed on orgasm/ejaculation not least from ourselves collectively, and perhaps this is going to sound strange (and perhaps I am) but I really have to think this kind of sentiment might misunderstand some of the issue and be part of the problem punters like the OP might face.
Jerking yourself off at the end, might work for the porn type guy that has had so much sex but needs their practiced own hand to finish the job - but they can jerk it for like 2 minutes to complete a porn scene all over their partner. I truely think that's the wrong way to imagine this for people like the poster.
I'd like to like to cum in a punt, maybe even more than once, but if delayed ejaculation is an issue I think some really great sessions can be where both parties can put asside the guy's orgasm and just have a good time. Orgasms are enjoyable and all, but so is sex.
Having a lady say they are done, and tell you to jerk off, and keep asking you to hurry up; I've been there and that situation cooling off and getting less sexy rapidly; becoming more and more like a nagging girlfriend wanting you to finish watching footy to clean the bathroom after maybe 2 minutes. It is I think the last thing a guy wants from a session with an escort.
That's what I meant with understanding. maybe important to find an escort with good English and be open about what the punter expects performance-wise themselves and what they might want realistically from the other party - have a working lady that doesn't take the challenge wrong and try and go triple hard tiring themselves out doing do after 15 minutes, and instead takes things slow and just tries to also ensure they both have a good time over the session duration, pacing themselves for a long and slow session maybe like the length of the booking time. Hopefully this isn't sounding unrealistic, and maybe it's too much based on what I would want.
I've had hour long sessions and at the end the WL was dissapointed "sorry I couldn't make you cum" where it was like "I think we both had a really good time, thank you!" and they get it.
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I get that for guy's a lot of importance is placed on orgasm/ejaculation not least from ourselves collectively, and perhaps this is going to sound strange (and perhaps I am) but I really have to think this kind of sentiment might misunderstand some of the issue and be part of the problem punters like the OP might face.
Jerking yourself off at the end, might work for the porn type guy that has had so much sex but needs their practiced own hand to finish the job - but they can jerk it for like 2 minutes to complete a porn scene all over their partner. I truely think that's the wrong way to imagine this for people like the poster.
I'd like to like to cum in a punt, maybe even more than once, but if delayed ejaculation is an issue I think some really great sessions can be where both parties can put asside the guy's orgasm and just have a good time. Orgasms are enjoyable and all, but so is sex.
Having a lady say they are done, and tell you to jerk off, and keep asking you to hurry up; I've been there and that situation cooling off and getting less sexy rapidly; becoming more and more like a nagging girlfriend wanting you to finish watching footy to clean the bathroom after maybe 2 minutes. It is I think the last thing a guy wants from a session with an escort.
That's what I meant with understanding. maybe important to find an escort with good English and be open about what the punter expects performance-wise themselves and what they might want realistically from the other party - have a working lady that doesn't take the challenge wrong and try and go triple hard tiring themselves out doing do after 15 minutes, and instead takes things slow and just tries to also ensure they both have a good time over the session duration, pacing themselves for a long and slow session maybe like the length of the booking time. Hopefully this isn't sounding unrealistic, and maybe it's too much based on what I would want.
I've had hour long sessions and at the end the WL was dissapointed "sorry I couldn't make you cum" where it was like "I think we both had a really good time, thank you!" and they get it.
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Yes, thanks for the feedback. Often I do jerk myself off at the end, but it's not the same and it'd be great to cum faster. But it's a good idea, worth a try.
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Same and I can't come off them. It's not an option unfortunately.
Skankpunt23
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Stop jacking off
joe12155
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Cock ring makes your cock harder and last longer. So it doesn't help you to come faster.
l6zan5
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not only is a cock ring a solution to a problem you haven't described, but I think it's a potentially a nasty problem when used with an erection for a sustained period - an erection is caused by blood filling the penis, if you restrict blood flow for a longer period that can be bad I believe, don't risk cock gangrene!