I am very inexperienced at sex

Sam Curtis

Sammy
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Hi all, i am 24 and i have only has sex once a couple of years ago, im really feeling the itch to get out there and start dating or just satisfying my urges. My issue is i have horrible anxiety and its held me back from dating or having sex for years because i just think i will really suck at it or embarrass myself. To improve my confidence i just want people opinions on how to prepare a noob like myself to get back in the bedroom and how to put some of my anxiety's to rest .
 

Gutsy

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Let any perspective working lady know your situation ahead of time. It might matter to them and they might be able to help.

Also, the more you pay the more you get. Spend the extra money and time on someone that is interested in giving you an over all positive experience rather than draining your balls as quickly as they can and getting you out the door.

Prepare for it like a date.

Finally, the more you do it the better you’ll get. If you don’t embarrass yourself at least once you are doing it wrong.
 

Slugger1

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Perhaps start at a massage parlour where you can start with just a massage and work your way up the extras list as you become more confident.

If you see the same lady a few times you can build a rapport with her to make you feel at ease.

There are plenty of reviews and recommendations on here so do some research before you take the plunge.

Just remember they won't bite.....unless you ask them to!
 

Wacky

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Let any perspective working lady know your situation ahead of time. It might matter to them and they might be able to help.

Also, the more you pay the more you get. Spend the extra money and time on someone that is interested in giving you an over all positive experience rather than draining your balls as quickly as they can and getting you out the door.

Prepare for it like a date.

Finally, the more you do it the better you’ll get. If you don’t embarrass yourself at least once you are doing it wrong.
It’s hard to find someone who will actually put her efforts and deliver the best service...!!!! All my years experience I hardly found one or two girls who were really friendly and treated me good ...

I guess 90% of the women working, will take your money no matter what u pay and kick u out of the door in no time ..!!!!

Thanks
 

Snowy

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It’s hard to find someone who will actually put her efforts and deliver the best service...!!!! All my years experience I hardly found one or two girls who were really friendly and treated me good ...

I guess 90% of the women working, will take your money no matter what u pay and kick u out of the door in no time ..!!!!

Thanks
Then maybe Wacky you are seeing the wrong women, speaking for myself I get treated really good by every lady that I see, I can't remember the last bad punt that I had, really helps if you are a gentlemen with the ladies I guess, even when I do a walk in at a parlor that I haven't been to before it's been great.
 
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Hi all, i am 24 and i have only has sex once a couple of years ago, im really feeling the itch to get out there and start dating or just satisfying my urges. My issue is i have horrible anxiety and its held me back from dating or having sex for years because i just think i will really suck at it or embarrass myself. To improve my confidence i just want people opinions on how to prepare a noob like myself to get back in the bedroom and how to put some of my anxiety's to rest .
If you can afford it a trip or 2 to see a WL would be great for giving you a few lessons in the art of sexual intimacy. If this is the road you choose to take I would highly recommend seeing a woman who is in her late 30's or older and please, call reception, be honest and the receptionist will be able to tee up the perfect lady for you.

Now if you can't afford to see a WL there is always here, feel free to ask as many questions as you like, if you feel nervous about everyone seeing it then feel free to pm me, but we are all friendly here and really would like to help.

Lesbian amateur porn is another way to learn how women like to be pleasured, other than intercourse.

Read a couple of erotic novels (not 50 Shades, it's a crap book and not what it's all about) and maybe even the Kama Sutra.

Dating wise don't rush into sex. At least go on a few dates 1st even if the chemistry is there , unless you want a one night stand.
When the time comes, don't get drunk, but definitely have one or 2 drinks to help relax you, be honest about your inexperience (don't tell her you've seen a WL if you choose to get a couple of "lessons"). And if the chemistry is there, go with the flow, it's not all penis in vagina, it's kissing, touching, eye contact and taking your time will make it more magic. If you blow quickly, laugh it off, keep the mood fun and sensual, it will actually help you last longer for the finale.

Make her feel special, make her feel appreciated and it it will all work out just fine :)
 

Snowy

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If you can afford it a trip or 2 to see a WL would be great for giving you a few lessons in the art of sexual intimacy. If this is the road you choose to take I would highly recommend seeing a woman who is in her late 30's or older and please, call reception, be honest and the receptionist will be able to tee up the perfect lady for you.

Now if you can't afford to see a WL there is always here, feel free to ask as many questions as you like, if you feel nervous about everyone seeing it then feel free to pm me, but we are all friendly here and really would like to help.

Lesbian amateur porn is another way to learn how women like to be pleasured, other than intercourse.

Read a couple of erotic novels (not 50 Shades, it's a crap book and not what it's all about) and maybe even the Kama Sutra.

Dating wise don't rush into sex. At least go on a few dates 1st even if the chemistry is there , unless you want a one night stand.
When the time comes, don't get drunk, but definitely have one or 2 drinks to help relax you, be honest about your inexperience (don't tell her you've seen a WL if you choose to get a couple of "lessons"). And if the chemistry is there, go with the flow, it's not all penis in vagina, it's kissing, touching, eye contact and taking your time will make it more magic. If you blow quickly, laugh it off, keep the mood fun and sensual, it will actually help you last longer for the finale.

Make her feel special, make her feel appreciated and it it will all work out just fine :)
You give great advice Tania, wish women like you were around when I started dating in my younger years, so how about a date, you sound like so much fun. lol.
 
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bobsagit

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If you can afford it a trip or 2 to see a WL would be great for giving you a few lessons in the art of sexual intimacy. If this is the road you choose to take I would highly recommend seeing a woman who is in her late 30's or older and please, call reception, be honest and the receptionist will be able to tee up the perfect lady for you.

Now if you can't afford to see a WL there is always here, feel free to ask as many questions as you like, if you feel nervous about everyone seeing it then feel free to pm me, but we are all friendly here and really would like to help.

Lesbian amateur porn is another way to learn how women like to be pleasured, other than intercourse.

Read a couple of erotic novels (not 50 Shades, it's a crap book and not what it's all about) and maybe even the Kama Sutra.

Dating wise don't rush into sex. At least go on a few dates 1st even if the chemistry is there , unless you want a one night stand.
When the time comes, don't get drunk, but definitely have one or 2 drinks to help relax you, be honest about your inexperience (don't tell her you've seen a WL if you choose to get a couple of "lessons"). And if the chemistry is there, go with the flow, it's not all penis in vagina, it's kissing, touching, eye contact and taking your time will make it more magic. If you blow quickly, laugh it off, keep the mood fun and sensual, it will actually help you last longer for the finale.

Make her feel special, make her feel appreciated and it it will all work out just fine :)

Very good advice
 

John Smithl

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Hi all, i am 24 and i have only has sex once a couple of years ago, im really feeling the itch to get out there and start dating or just satisfying my urges. My issue is i have horrible anxiety and its held me back from dating or having sex for years because i just think i will really suck at it or embarrass myself. To improve my confidence i just want people opinions on how to prepare a noob like myself to get back in the bedroom and how to put some of my anxiety's to rest .
Hi Sam, depending upon your anxiety levels, maybe try looking into the services of a sex therapist or sex surrogate (google).

There is great advice from Tania too.

In hindsight I would have used the services of an experienced WL.

All the best
 

Lingus

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And if a WL seems too big a step, maybe enjoy a massage somewhere like TBC and see what happens.

I gravitate to this notion for a beginner's step ... AMPs can provide the basics without much ceremony, and a half-decent massage should ease you into things ... but do make sure you score a lady with reasonable English language skills ... and let her do the work ... you should feel comfortable just laying back, noting how your body reacts.

So, keep it simple to begin, with joint nakedness to end with a little touching ... and a humble HR to finish should test your mettle toward future exploits.
 

db1333

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Perhaps start at a massage parlour where you can start with just a massage and work your way up the extras list as you become more confident.

If you see the same lady a few times you can build a rapport with her to make you feel at ease.

There are plenty of reviews and recommendations on here so do some research before you take the plunge.

Just remember they won't bite.....unless you ask them to!
I’d echo this advice. If you are polite & see the same girl regularly you will have a better experience.
 

Dejengus

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Maybe go to a strip club or get a private dance at Club x? Those peep show girls really know how to put you at ease and are sexy as f
 
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