BigBlackCock said:
I have to admit I'm surprised to hear so many women confess to this though - I would have thought, you'd have lots of choice. On a website I used to meet other women - a non-sexual one - many confessed they had about 8 to 25 approaches a week.
There's a big differences between choices and approaches tho'. I've never bothered to tally up the number of approaches I get, particularly online, because most of them lose me after the first few minutes. They leap straight in to personal questions, or want a pic or the cam turned on 'just so I can see who I'm talking to' (yeah, right), or they're dumb enough to ask 'asl' 2 seconds in, or they use 'txt' English (I can't help it, I'm a linguistic snob and I loathe laziness). Of the 100's of people who've made it past the first 5 minutes, I've met a handfull 'meat-life', most of whom I've kept contact with, but no sparks have flown, no waves crashing on the beach lol.
Rightly or wrongly, I choose not to pursue relationships with people who aren't already active bdsm'ers. I know what I want in my life, I've embraced my kink - and I'm not interested in 'converting' someone who isn't already reasonably experienced or at the very least, knowledgeable about it.
Just to narrow the field further, I'm a serial monogamist, so I'm absolutely not interested in meeting anyone who already has an attachment, or who is poly. So out of an already small group, I've managed to reduce it to miniscule before I even say hello lol.
I've watched others I know come to this realisation, and watched them embrace the pub/club scene in an effort to change their state, or meet anyone and everyone who invites them for a coffee even tho' they already know they aren't really interested in them, and I even tried it myself for a while - but guess what? It bored the pants off me - and not in the fun way lol.
So every now and then - usually on rubbish bin day, or when there's a particularly dirty job to do on the car, or a building job that really needs an extra pair of hands I get a mild case of the 'what's she got that I haven't got's until I look more carefully at what most of the 'she's' I know have and realise that I don't really envy them at all, nor do I wish it were me in their place.
If I meet someone along the line that I click with, and that clicks with me, then that will be wonderful. And if I don't, then that will be wonderful too - 'cos I've found a handyman that _will_ do the jobs I want done, when I want them done, and at a very reasonable price - that doesn't include washing his socks lol.
Chrissie