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Working Girls Sex Survey

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Twistie

Afternoon All,

i had in mind (for my own needs! lol) a quick 3 question survey for all the working ladies out there.

I know you may not be able to answer 100% truthfully due to professional reasons but please do your best;

1) On a % basis, how often would a client genuinely get you to reach orgasm?

2) Have you ever given a client his money back because he went over and above in satisfying your needs?

3) Have you ever bumped into a client in the street, supermarket etc and what was the reaction from you and him? (that may be 4 questions)

In all seriousness, if us guys can better understand women by gaining a greater insight into their sexual needs doesn't that make us better men overall?

Take Care
Twistie xxxx
 
Hi, I'm not a sex worker but an adult entertainer/stripper.

I love dancing and I like it when a customer genuinely enjoys what I'm doing for him and is respectful and as genuine as he can be in that environment but it's not my personal life and I do draw a line between work and home. At work, I'm looking for his reaction to what I'm doing so as to give him the best show possible. My needs/desires are secondary and really only come into play in terms of boundaries.

I've never given a customer his money back because this is my livelihood. I can't ring my landlord and simply applaud over the phone saying, "Great house". I have to pay rent. This goes for all other expenses too. Furthermore, my job costs me money. I don't wake up with beautiful clothes & shoes, hair done, teeth whitened, make-up on, tan done, manicures/pedicures etc; all freely provided. This is part of the fantasy. We aren't your girlfriends and wives. That's the appeal isn't it?

As far as bumping into a customer/client is concerned, confidentiality is name of the game here. Just keep walking. You don't know each other. You've never met. The client or dancer could be with family, friends, co-workers from a day job, or anyone who doesn't know about their night-time activity. Confidentiality and trust is an absolute must. You don't build this by publicly 'outing' someone.

I think understanding women in the adult entertainment industry, women in the sex industry and women in general are three different sets of understandings with the first two likely sharing much in common. I know the ladies in the industry do our best to understand our customers and hopefully this makes us better at our job and maybe better human beings too. So it's likely the same in reverse too.
 
What a Fantastic insight you have provided me Dilana. You quite rightly say there are perhaps 3 sets of lady that works, lives and acts in a particular way given their circumstances. It sounds to me you are a professional and you take your profession seriously.

In some ways you have answered my questions but i guess i was digging deeper to see if a client has ever been able to break through your professional skin and in doing so influenced the way you treated them.

I appreciate your response.

xxx
Twistie
 
Great Post.
1/ Impossible to answer, some ladies never orgasm, and it’s not often you find the right man at the right time. I encouraged the ladies to enjoy their work and would guestimate that 10% had orgasms 10% of the time.
I would say that 50% of the ladies truly enjoyed the time spent with at least 50% of our clients at all times.
I gave one client half his money back once as I was not prepared to go thru with the services. I ripped the fee in half and it was many years before someone told me I could collect half from the bank as I had half the numbers. I regret I did as those notes stuck on my pin board reminded me that not all ladies can be bought and paid for.
Would lady give client money back for satisfaction, never, what she may do is give longer or organize to see as a friend, if he was one out of 1000.
Clients want their privacy as much as the ladies, as I have had a very high profile life, I always ask if I know the person from Rotary or work, this always gives the wife a chuckle.
Moving this to General Industry Board
 
Hi Twistie,

I'll be very candid with you. I'm neither using my real name or my stage name here so I can be very up-front.

For me, that's never happened because the customer knows nothing about me. They don't my name, where I'm from, if I've traveled or not, if I'm from a small or large family, what my music/film/book tastes are, what I have or haven't studied, how old I am, what my religious views are, what my political views are... etc

The whole point of the industry is fantasy. At work, I'm an actress playing a role. My character lives in the adult entertainment industry. It's very 2 dimensional. This is one of the reasons we use a stage name. It de-compartmentalizes me from my character and gives the customer an escape from reality which is what I've found most guys are actually paying for. They want to be treated like a rock-star for the evening, not Joe Average. They want to feel desired, hot and sexy regardless of how they feel outside the club.

I would advise customers/clients to know what they want to get out of the experience before going into it and to remember that these places are fantasy not reality. Therefore, live the fantasy for a moment, enjoy it for what it is and don't get attached to a girl emotionally because in reality, you don't know her.

I have heard of girls falling for a customer before but I've never actually met one. It's kind of like an urban myth, in my experience. I hope that's not too harsh but rather informative and helpful.

Dilana.
 
Ah, regarding the urban myth, I throughly enjoyed 'Pretty Woman'.

Saw it several times !

I would always like to think that I was giving as much pleasure as I was recieving, however, I am not so arrogant as to believe that I am that good a lover as to be able to break through a professional ladys working mind set.

So I just enjoy my bit, be as thoughtful as I can, and hope she enjoys at least some of it too.

Cheers.
 
I am not a full service provider, but privately offer my oral services and can help with some fantasies/fetishes. So I will answer your questions from my line and my own personal work experiences...we are all different afterall.
1. 0% get me to orgasm as there is nothing sexually done to me
2. No. My fees pay my bills, but I will give extra time if I get satisfaction from a client and if we have a good repoire
3. No I haven't met any clients out of my work situation. But if I was to, I would not show any reaction or acknowledgement as when a client pays for my service he is also paying for my discretion.
 
Dilana said:
I have heard of girls falling for a customer before but I've never actually met one. It's kind of like an urban myth, in my experience. I hope that's not too harsh but rather informative and helpful.
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I can vouch that this happens!! About 5 years ago a few of us visited the strippers occasionally to end the nights (there was a girl called summer i think with big boobs, she was hot!)

Anyway a mate of mine was wearing his motorbike jacket (indicating that he was into sports bikes so not the bad boy image) and this particular dancer showed him some interest, talked about bikes and she took it from there... She came out with us a few times and bought a couple of her co workers but it didn't last long but there were other factors at play. Made things ackward for a while after when we went in there.
 
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Hi Dilana,

i prefer the fact that you are candid and forthright about your responses to my questions rather than dancing around the edges. I appreciate your thoughts and can only wish that you were in Perth so we could chat some more, over coffee of course! lol

xxx
Twistie
 
Hi guys,

At the risk of getting off topic, it does happen, before you all assume that I fell for a dancer, she was the one that told me she loved me... You could have knocked me over with a feather.
Over a period of time we became friends got to know each other I saw her as a friend, someone I could talk to and turn to for advice, trying all the time not to "fall" for her. But I did, there was no way I was going to tell her that, then oneday out of the blue BAM she looked me right in the eye and told me she loved me.

So Dilana....for me at least it's a more that a urban myth.

CHeers

Scottie
 
There is a good deal of truth and honesty in what you have said here Scottie... and I am living testament to that... I have had a number of working ladies offer me free sex... (no less than 5 in fact)...and I did not seek it, or even think about it... it was an entirely spontaneous gesture on their part.
 
I can witness Sir Stefan comment as fact. Two he meet through me as a friend and before I could blink my fairy princess was gone.
The other a tall amazing french girl from talkinsex tv, used Sir Stefan as her vibrator. She would ring him at 3am and say I had no orgasms tonight I am coming over.
 
Hi Twistie,

Dilana gave some good answers - it is a world of fantasy. We are the fantasy figure and the men pay us to be that, similar to a character in a movie or an entertainer.

1) On a % basis, how often would a client genuinely get you to reach orgasm?
Depends - some women orgasm through vaginal sex, other's don't. Some men really desire to have a WL orgasm and spend time making sure she has one.
On some occasions, I would start my day off with self-love expecting nothing from my working day, when someone would ask me if they could please me. I would tell them that I've taken care of my needs and I'm not likely to respond and thank them anyway.
Another man came in specifically to be taught how to please a woman as he was new to dating after years of marriage. While this was rare, I had little choice but to help educate him how a woman's body works (even if I didn't need an orgasm that day, and it was harder to have another one). Anyway, we both pulled it off so to speak and the man was happy.

2) Have you ever given a client his money back because he went over and above in satisfying your needs?
No.
However there's several ways to answer this.
1. I always had a policy of refunding part of the money if a client finished up earlier. I found that way - they returned to me again and again as I aimed to leave a good taste in their mouths, not just extract every penny out of them and provide a deal that's not quite good. I myself, hate paying good money for something and being served up crumbs.
2. If I found he could make a potential lover or F/buddy, then I'd initiate with them. Sometimes I had a few buddies who previously paid to see me - as I was attracted to them. I was able to call on them when I needed someone. In my times of being single - THEY kept me very sane and tame. To me it wasn't even about orgasm - it was about a f*((. Can't explain it! But I knew I felt ferocious and that I needed someone according to my personal preference.

3) Have you ever bumped into a client in the street, supermarket etc and what was the reaction from you and him? (that may be 4 questions)

Yes.
If I know he is single, I wait for his eye contact or smile inviting me to say hi to him. Then it's just brief conversation - how's it goin? What are you upto today? That's all.
If I know he is married, I act as if he is just like anyone else in the crowd and look away.
With other's I may just give a subtle wink as I walk past.

I believe the WL's need further education on this as I've heard stories where WL's ring clients and ask them to visit - this is very inappropriate as well as undignifying. One man was next to his wife when a WL called and he just coughed and had to hang up.

Laura
 
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Well, it is interesting to note that it happens; WL's & dancers falling for customer/clients. I'd say, it's the exception to the rule and would still advise guys to be extremely cautious about emotional attachment due to the fantasy aspect. We're paid to make you feel wanted, desired, hot, sexy... If we're good at our jobs, that's what you'll feel. It should be fun in the moment and let go when the moments over.

If any guys out there do feel like they're falling for a WL/dancer then I'd say your best bet is to tell her. If it isn't mutual she may be able to recommend a friend (and end the torture) and if you're the exception to the rule, then you'll find out.
 
Great last post Dilana!
very very insightful indeed i agree with u 100 per cent!
But i think im one of those guys( i hate to say it!)who likes/lust a W/L but there is more chance of me marry my dog(it is a female)than hooking up with this Young lady(she is not interested!)but i got caught up in it all!its not something i have EVER done before(and i have seen a few)...I will snap out of it and will start to see other W/Ls
Thanks again!
ps not my real name
 
Hi Laura,

where was i when you needed a f/buddy? lol (i wish. It is somewhat saddening to hear that one orgasm a day is enough and that you would prefer to self medicate! lol.

Hope to hear more from you, it was an insightful post. I am learning more about women everyday!

xxx
Twistie
 
Hi Twistie,

One orgasm a day? mmmmm us women are complicated creatures.

Sometimes a few a week (self loving), other times depending on what is going on in our minds, a few a day. It's not sad, it's just 'knowing ourselves and taking care of our own needs'. Everyone goes through such different stages with their sexuality, and I'm entering into a completely new phase now.

F*&(ing is so different. If I don't have one at least a week, I'm cranky, irritable and it's best to just get out of my way! (This is so different to self love!) It helps to be logical and say to ourselves - 'hey nothing a good f*(# can't fix! Then all is well in the Universe again'. So I make sure I have a f*@ buddy on hand or a regular lover as it's too difficult to be without one (but you guys can always call a WL).

As I have gotten older, the feelings have changed leading me to a new realm. I understand the cougar phenomenon. In my 20s I had so much control and never dreamt to pursue men. However, I like older men as well as younger, I just understand that as women age they will pursue more.

I think the cougar thing has made people happier. Everyone has needs.

anyway

Laura
 
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Laura,

does that mean you prefer younger men to the more mature of us? Or is it your sexuality and desire to prowl makes feasting on younger prey that much more desirable?

xxx
Twistie
 
Hi Twistie

Just edited my post as it's hard to give too many details and people read into them in a different way than I present.

I like older men as well as younger. It all depends on the chemistry between two people.

Laura
 
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