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Why Do Guys Never Want To Take You On Dates?

Katrina Kiss

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Ever time I start dating someone they never want to put effort in to take you on dates ,but they say they want a relationship, what is this about ?
So confused. I though guys would love to do nice things with you. But always have excuses and blame you for your behaviour . Is this someone just leading you up the garden path & full of shit . ?
 

Rosie Nuru

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Dates are apparently complicated these days! If they take you out for lunch or dinner, the food preferences are endless! Vegetarian, vegan, paleo, keto, halal, kosher, no carbs...... Arghh! Or maybe boring if you just want a salad, or too costly when you want the lobster! Don't complicate dating life, go on a date who really wants to know you more, already knowing what you like to eat.
Oh, don't forget to buy them a meal back another time! You can learn a lot from food preferences and conversations while having a great meal. :cool:
 

Historian

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Ever time I start dating someone they never want to put effort in to take you on dates ,but they say they want a relationship, what is this about ?
So confused. I though guys would love to do nice things with you. But always have excuses and blame you for your behaviour . Is this someone just leading you up the garden path & full of shit . ?

What exactly are you expecting? Some specifics or examples would be good. Secondly, have you thought of going Dutch? Remember, we're on the cusp of a recession and secondly WA's workers haven't seen a wage increase for quite some time while utility rates have gone up and up. Finally, what's stopping you from asking him out on a date?
 
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Back in the old days @Katrina Kiss courting was a trend that everyone was doing. Now a days it's lets meet at a pub or cafe or go watch a movie or come over to my or your place and have a shag after. Going out to eat proper for 1 is expensive 2 your stuck at that table from the start to the end of your food staring at each other, you better have a lot to say or it's the awkward silence. In this digital age communication is limited to the phone(check this out) and a few verbal sentences here and there. The breed of Genuine Gentlemen are a dying breed, in this world of emos, metro sexuals and Boy men that have a body of a man but a mentality of a kid not wanting to grow up.

Perfect example
 
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Katrina Kiss

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What exactly are you expecting? Some specifics or examples would be good. Secondly, have you thought of going Dutch? Remember, we're on the cusp of a recession and secondly WA's workers haven't seen a wage increase for quite some time while utility rates have gone up and up. Finally, what's stopping you from asking him out on a date?
What exactly are you expecting? Some specifics or examples would be good. Secondly, have you thought of going Dutch? Remember, we're on the cusp of a recession and secondly WA's workers haven't seen a wage increase for quite some time while utility rates have gone up and up. Finally, what's stopping you from asking him out on a date?

Yep I agree...you’re dating the wrong blokes! If a guy is genuinely interested he’ll want to spend time with you, spoil you & share a variety of experiences with you.
What exactly are you expecting? Some specifics or examples would be good. Secondly, have you thought of going Dutch? Remember, we're on the cusp of a recession and secondly WA's workers haven't seen a wage increase for quite some time while utility rates have gone up and up. Finally, what's stopping you from asking him out on a date?
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What exactly are you expecting? Some specifics or examples would be good. Secondly, have you thought of going Dutch? Remember, we're on the cusp of a recession and secondly WA's workers haven't seen a wage increase for quite some time while utility rates have gone up and up. Finally, what's stopping you from asking him out on a date?
What exactly are you expecting? Some specifics or examples would be good. Secondly, have you thought of going Dutch? Remember, we're on the cusp of a recession and secondly WA's workers haven't seen a wage increase for quite some time while utility rates have gone up and up. Finally, what's stopping you from asking him out on a date?
I realy don’t want to go Dutch after reading this abt Dutch Women.
I stick to being Italian, Italian’s do it best !
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Katrina Kiss

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Yep I agree...you’re dating the wrong blokes! If a guy is genuinely interested he’ll want to spend time with you, spoil you & share a variety of experiences with you.
That is exactly how I feel & it’s not abt spending money going to the. Beach watching a sunset . A bushwalk followed by sex under the stars. That would be great now it’s nearly summer. Bring on Summer lovin. ! ❤ Get rid of the sponge bobs !
 
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Slugger1

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Ever time I start dating someone they never want to put effort in to take you on dates ,but they say they want a relationship, what is this about ?
So confused. I though guys would love to do nice things with you. But always have excuses and blame you for your behaviour . Is this someone just leading you up the garden path & full of shit . ?
I have a view that a lot of people are looking for instant gratification now days and with the ease of finding partners on dating apps etc they can jump ship very quickly to someone else once something has not gone their way.

Relationships usually take some time to form a true emotional attachment and is give and take and it seems that a lot of people don't want to invest that time.

Probably a simplistic and general view but that is my observation anyway.

Keep looking and you will find someone who wants to invest that time and effort in you because you are worth it.
 

Katrina Kiss

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I have a view that a lot of people are looking for instant gratification now days and with the ease of finding partners on dating apps etc they can jump ship very quickly to someone else once something has not gone their way.

Relationships usually take some time to form a true emotional attachment and is give and take and it seems that a lot of people don't want to invest that time.

Probably a simplistic and general view but that is my observation anyway.

Keep looking and you will find someone who wants to invest that time and effort in you because you are worth it.
Thank you so much, i love to give & i just want the same in return. i agree all great things take time, for me what happens outside the bedroom is the foreplay leading to great sex. The foreplay can start way before the bedroom xx
 

Hugh

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Interesting answers here. I much prefer taking the time to date someone and get to know them. The range of dates that you can arrange will actually tell you a lot about the person you are dating from your own intuition. And who said dates have to involve huge expense??? Some dates can cost you very little but the experience can bring you a whole lot closer to understanding the person you are with.
 

Farm Boy 2

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Ever time I start dating someone they never want to put effort in to take you on dates ,but they say they want a relationship, what is this about ?
So confused. I though guys would love to do nice things with you. But always have excuses and blame you for your behaviour . Is this someone just leading you up the garden path & full of shit . ?

I would be delighted to take you on a Date Katrina , you don't have to go just know I would have been delighted. 3D99E8AF-624B-4EAC-B81E-FA6174392208.jpeg

Especially if you dress like this .
 

Phoebe

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Ever time I start dating someone they never want to put effort in to take you on dates ,but they say they want a relationship, what is this about ?
So confused. I though guys would love to do nice things with you. But always have excuses and blame you for your behaviour . Is this someone just leading you up the garden path & full of shit . ?

Look for the old fashion type.


Old fashioned dating, Men can't do no right or wrong here, hes doomed from the very outset, the issue is now a woman has her own funds, and I am going to go out on a limb here, a man whom dates an escort can't compete there unless he's a Doctor/Dentist/Lawyer/QC and those professions don't date escorts stereotypical, Feminism has killed dating scene in the old fashioned sense, so as MOBILE PHONES, if I go out on a date and she pulls out her phone and takes pics of dinner I am done there and then, I will get up and pay 50% of the bill and leave, actually switch your phone off unless you are a Doctor/Dentist/Lawyer. Men date women in hope they get laid at the end of the night as you work in the game you are getting laid maybe up to 10 times a day, SEX is the last thing on your mind, but for a man whom doesn't get alot he's thinking I will charm her and get naked with her, that is how most men think, why is there no Male brothels catering for women? Plus :

Man opens a door or a car door he gets I am capable of that <--- Bitch
Man pulls out chair for lady to sit down at the table <---- same as above
Man doesn't know how to greet her at the start of the date? <--- hmmm so he does nothing
Man offers to pay the bill <-- she thinks he pays I got to have sex with him, so she splits it... <<---- Feminism there
Man offers to give her his jacket to keep her warm <---- she says no I am fine, BUT she's freezing...
Man doesn't know what to talk about, My job, My friends, etc etc. as this may bore her...
Man asks her about her life, finds out she's an escort in your situation hmmm thinks what do I talk about, what do you do with a 9inch dick, or do ever hear screams for the room next door, etc etc.

And we all know women are always 2 to 4 steps ahead of men, men know this and in 2019 IMHO the tables have turned its always has been up to the woman in the dating scene BUT in 2019 its even more so, and really men see a beautiful woman at a bar, cafe etc whom is alone and men think she's waiting for her man so leaves her alone, when she could be single and hating it but look at him and thinks hes handsome but society tells her to think of her safety and well being, and it tells him that no woman that stunning is single... so he walks on and she picks up her drink and sits alone, but this only happens in English speaking nations sorry to say, in Eastern Europe if you see a beautiful woman sitting along men will go up and ask her can I sit down and talk to her, or ask her is she alone and if she says yes, then asks single yes, then asks to sit down, still the ball is in her court BUT European men are more confident and carry themselves better than English speaking ones, plus they do romance alot better too, and Eastern European Women Love Old fashioned Romance, and love a mans admiration of her, most men in Eastern Europe take flowers on date, chocolates, etc etc for her, which they all love, Its only English speaking nations where by I think it comes down to Money...
 

Historian

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Old fashioned dating, Men can't do no right or wrong here, hes doomed from the very outset, the issue is now a woman has her own funds, and I am going to go out on a limb here, a man whom dates an escort can't compete there unless he's a Doctor/Dentist/Lawyer/QC and those professions don't date escorts stereotypical, ...Its only English speaking nations where by I think it comes down to Money...

Phoebe, you seem to write from a man's perspective and your profile says you're female. Just out of curiosity, what gender are you really?
 
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Tania Admin

Ever time I start dating someone they never want to put effort in to take you on dates ,but they say they want a relationship, what is this about ?
So confused. I though guys would love to do nice things with you. But always have excuses and blame you for your behaviour . Is this someone just leading you up the garden path & full of shit . ?
I get the impression there is something similar, other than what you mentioned, in all the guys you date.
I always tell people if you go for the same type of person you will get the same treatment.
Go for someone totally different.
Also you can't have 2 yins or 2 yangs in a relationship, you need a balance.
I finally learnt that when I met Naughty Thoughts. We are both happy and never argue. We compliment each other :)
 

stovo82

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Australia is the most feminist country in the world and has a weird dating culture that is nothing like Europe or USA/Canada.
It is sexual harassment to even ask a woman out unless you are a tall, rich, handsome man.

The good old days of the 1950s and 1960s as shown in the classic movies shows how much better the good old days were when there was romance, men were men and women were women.
Modern men have become feminised and are weak. Modern women have become more masculine and stronger.
Women of the past needed men but modern women no longer need men.
 

Penny S

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Its Human Nature that is Evolving generation to generation "can't stop it, can't deny it"
 

Phoebe

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Australia is the most feminist country in the world and has a weird dating culture that is nothing like Europe or USA/Canada.

100% The dating culture in Eastern Europe is still very much old school man on the way to date can take public transport, sits on tram.train with flowers and she meets him after her train.tram ride at a station or stop he gives her the flowers, she hugs and kisses him and they walk hand in to the place to eat or anyone else.. And men actually ask women out and women love that. and by Europe I hope you mean mainland Europe not The UK/Ireland as thats the same as Australia.

The reason Feminism rose in Australia so wonderfully is the Unions created equal pay, And women here earn more than women do in Europe, so they dont need men... NOT even to kill spiders, or to repair cars as they take back to the dealer, so mens roles in life has dramatically changed..
 

stovo82

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You can not compliment, smile or even approach a woman unless she makes it clears its ok to approach.
A man must be able to read people's minds and know it is ok to make a move or walk away.
Women are unapproachable and are punch drunk with their power.
Initial approaches are awkward and the dating scene is a nightmare for most men.
Men must take the risk of making the initial approach, women rarely ask men out.
On the date the man must carry the conversations, entertain, perform a lot of trick and not make any mistakes to maintain the woman's interest.
The man is expected to pay for the date unless the woman agrees to split the bill.
 
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