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What if u want to ask a escort or sex worker on a actual date

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Shy guy from aus

So I've been thinking of different things lately bit I was wandering what about if u actually start liking or feel attracted to sex worker or escort. Is it a little bit weird to ask if they would like go on a date or out for drinks.
 
Shy guy from aus said:
So I've been thinking of different things lately bit I was wandering what about if u actually start liking or feel attracted to sex worker or escort. Is it a little bit weird to ask if they would like go on a date or out for drinks.
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Remember that you are paying for their skills to make you feel like your having a Girl Friend Experience. If you feel like that, they are very good at their job and should be congratulated or tipped for their excellent role playing nothing more.
 
Shannon Starr* said:
I have had a client do just that... unfortunately I ended up not seeing him again. It becomes too awkward & uncomfortable so I decided to sever all ties with him.
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I really think there has to be a line drawn in the sand smack bang between business & pleasure.
If not boundaries are crossed & the usual feelings that apply to a "normal" relationship will develop & from that point onwards it can only turn pear shaped rapidly.
 
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Night Owl said:
I really think there has to be a line drawn in the sand smack bang between business & pleasure.
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Always very hard...

Its hard having a regular who you might develop feels for.
I once fell for a regular ML, but realised that I wasn't the only one,
Was quite a harem she had in the end.

Currently, I see one young lady, no sex as such, but a nice time together.
I would hope to be considered a friend, not necessarily a lover.
But what happens when the exchange of funds doesn't happen...

obvious.
 
local said:
Always very hard...

Its hard having a regular who you might develop feels for.
I once fell for a regular ML, but realised that I wasn't the only one,
Was quite a harem she had in the end.

Currently, I see one young lady, no sex as such, but a nice time together.
I would hope to be considered a friend, not necessarily a lover.
But what happens when the exchange of funds doesn't happen...

obvious.
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That's I nice thought for the hard working lady just hope you are comfortable with her clients saying hello and giving her the odd present while out on your date.
 
Shy guy from aus said:
So I've been thinking of different things lately bit I was wandering what about if u actually start liking or feel attracted to sex worker or escort. Is it a little bit weird to ask if they would like go on a date or out for drinks.
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There is no definite answer to this, I think it depends on each individual. There is nothing shameful about having feelings for someone whether that person is a WL or a client. But any steps taken to go beyond the commercial relationship risks destroying the relationship and hurting each other's feelings.
 
It happens. I had a long term relationship with someone who was once my client.
But it isn't common and a lot of the time it does not work.
Usually if there's a connection that's real the WL will ask you for coffee or something.
If you do ask her don't lay it on too thick if she say's no.

Also remember a lot of people think they are in love but it's just sex, this quite often is one sided in a WL/client relationship (the client thinks there is an emotional connection but there isn't), this does not mean they haven't built a good rapport in the "work environment".

WL's are asked for drinks/dates/dinner etc at a minimum of once a week these days,,in the old days when we used to do a lot more bookings (average 15 to 25 per shift) at least 1 client per shift would hit us up.

For example I had a regular client in Kalgoorlie, he started off seeing me once a fortnight, then once a week, then Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights and even booked me every day when he had time off work in the end. He kept asking me out here and there and I kept telling him no. After his 10 days off of coming to see me every day he got very upset when I said no again. I had been upfront from the beginning and said I would never see him out of work. He got quite cut up and became aggressive and Leigh banned him from 181's.

So again, if you do ask and she says no, don't pressure her and understand she probably keeps her "work" and private life separate and just enjoy your time in your bookings with her and leave it at that.
 
Goodstuff36 said:
That's I nice thought for the hard working lady just hope you are comfortable with her clients saying hello and giving her the odd present while out on your date.
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It would not be like that at all if something did eventuate (which again is very rare). Would be great to have some intellectual and positive feedback from you occasionally instead of these kind of comments.
 
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TantraShiva said:
Dont be a dope. Shes chasing your wallet not your cock 😊
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Being commercial, money transaction is definitely involved. But I do not believe all WLs are wallet chasers.
I am definitely not a saint but I have much respect for WLs who will not go beyond her own set boundaries regardless of the offered price. I strongly advocate mutual respect to be given to each other. Even when the service is disappointing, I will still give due respect to the lady.
If I do have feelings for a WL, I would probably let her know. And I will respect whatever actions she chooses to take. There is no need to need to embarrass or ridicule each other.
 
Relationships are very complicated in general, outside & inside the sex industry and all parts in between from personal experience.

This one could cruise past 20 pages without a conclusion or an opinion that would suit everyone IMHO.

I have friends on all sides of this debate and the overriding thing is that if you judge then get ready to be judged.

if your partner does this as a way to make an honest living then respect him or her or go away.

As to dating......... if someone wants to date you regardless of how you met, that’s just a date isn’t it, if that’s what both parties want?

Romance is about generosity of emotions and the wish to do something kind for someone who pulls at your heartstrings without thought of what’s in it at the end, the act in its self is reward enough surely?

There are no instructions here.
 
I've done it, to a degree. I was in my early 40s, lonely and rang an agency, said I needed someone bubbly who could cheer me up. They sent a 20 year old girl with a great personality who certainly did cheer me up. I got the feeling she was new to the game, pretty much like myself. It was more like a date than a business deal. At the end of the night she told me her real name and gave me her personal number.

I thought it was because she just wanted to save me some money through no agency fees, and get a better deal for herself. The third time I rang her, she told me I was the only one she was seeing and no longer worked for the agency. I took that with a grain of salt, but what she said turned out to be true. The fourth time I called her, no money exchanged hands, she said she liked coming to my place and called it her "snug harbour", saying she felt safe when she was in my apartment. She had a number of personal problems and just wanted to escape from them, and didn't leave until morning.

We became friends, but she wasn't working any more. We went out a few times, coffee lounges etc, casual meetings. She went back to a man who was on again/off again in her life, married him and had 2 kids. Even after she married and was pregnant, we still used to meet up for coffee.

I know this isn't really what the thread's all about, but in life sometimes we can't pick and choose the people we share our lives with, it just happens. I can't see the harm in dating a working girl, just so long as both parties respect each other and have a clear understanding of what they both want from the relationship. Just because it can't work for some, doesn't mean it can't work for others.
 
I dont think it hurts to ask, but be prepared for a firm No and respect it.

This has actually happened to me in reverse, a WL I saw once must have caught some feelings and she started texting out of the blue asking how I was going etc. I indulged it as I thought she was nice and she might be lonely. But long story short it became quite stalkerish and scary.

I think it pays to remember this is an experience you're purchasing, and enjoy it for what it is.
 
I've done it twice, but both times initiated by them. One just suggested I should ask her. The other invited me home with her immediately.
 
Mojo said:
I'm just amazed how some people still think a WL will do anything for $$$. I think the whole point of seeing a WL is for a specific reason but beyond that, you just need to step back and show some respect.
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Perhaps if that question is ever
Put to a working lady she should suggest a trying;adult dating site btw does anyone know adult dating sites that actually works that doesn't cost a fortune and is not full of trolls???
 
Goodstuff36 said:
Perhaps if that question is ever
Put to a working lady she should suggest a trying;adult dating site btw does anyone know adult dating sites that actually works that doesn't cost a fortune and is not full of trolls???
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I liken these adult dating sites as similar to Skokka and Locanto. There are some genuine ones out there, but way too much bullshit to take them seriously. On Facebook, I keep seeing adult dating sites advertised. They have one for Over 50s, and the girl they use in the picture looks about 25, very attractive, and they expect you to believe she's available. Her mum wouldn't be over 50!!!

There was one who the boys on Facebook had fun with, the same woman, different name, different age. They want you to think there are stunningly attractive women out there who have trouble getting a man. Absolute Disneyland. I wouldn't trust these sites as far as I could kick them.

I recall trying one once out of curiosity. Just like Skokka, completely different person to the one in the profile, different likes, interests, you name it. Why waste everyone's time with this rubbish?
 
Osman said:
I liken these adult dating sites as similar to Skokka and Locanto. There are some genuine ones out there, but way too much bullshit to take them seriously. On Facebook, I keep seeing adult dating sites advertised. They have one for Over 50s, and the girl they use in the picture looks about 25, very attractive, and they expect you to believe she's available. Her mum wouldn't be over 50!!!

There was one who the boys on Facebook had fun with, the same woman, different name, different age. They want you to think there are stunningly attractive women out there who have trouble getting a man. Absolute Disneyland. I wouldn't trust these sites as far as I could kick them.

I recall trying one once out of curiosity. Just like Skokka, completely different person to the one in the profile, different likes, interests, you name it. Why waste everyone's time with this rubbish?
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There are no dumb questions Realistically anywhere. If you close down dialogue then you remove any purpose for this forum or any other out there.
If you don’t like the question or the topic perhaps ignore it. They may be participating members on here who are a little more naive and could benefit from a little guidance.

whoops 😬 getting a little preachy tonight, sorry Mike B & Tania🙃🙏
 
Mojo said:
I'm just amazed how some people still think a WL will do anything for $$$. I think the whole point of seeing a WL is for a specific reason but beyond that, you just need to step back and show some respect.
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Everyone has there price ^ escorts r not different
 
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