was boyfriend gay?

[coffeehouse1964]

hi, i was in a 3yr relationship with great sex life to begin with. partner did make mention early on of hating his mother and hating women for all the bad experiences he has had. i thought we'd worked thru it but everytime i'd do something minor to upset him, it would come up again. i never said no to sex but queried after a couple of years, why he never initiated it. i said i would wait for him to ask, that was 10mths ago and he never has! and wont talk about it either. what does everyone think? he was also totally anti oral for me but definately for him. and anti other positions other than missionary. wouldnt talk about it at all.

 

[Oscar]

Sounds like he needs an attitude adjustment!!!Sorry you are missing out on so much!Not really qualified to say too much,but he does sound like he's got a problem.I dont suppose he thinks anything is wrong?Sounds like he should see someone,and ask for help!Hope you get sorted.XX:hello:

 

[sintoo]

Just a selfish ungiving man

To me it dosent sound like hes gay just selfish and repressed.The fact your sex life was good to start with dosnt sound like that sexuality was an issue.That he begrudges pleasing women sounds more his problem.A real pity because true pleasure and satisfaction comes from a level playing field. Tell him to suck his own dick!And that he should be so lucky to partake in devouring a sweet jucy pussy. Cheers Sintoo :iamwithst

 

[coffeehouse1964]

thanks, i really appreciate your replies. they are really helpful. i just wish i knew how to know in advance that i would be screwed (not!) before i invested so much time in a relationship!

 

[Fudd]

thanks, i really appreciate your replies. they are really helpful. i just wish i knew how to know in advance that i would be screwed (not!) before i invested so much time in a relationship!

....keep your wits about you, learn from life's experiences, and listen with your head but feel with your heart. Goodluck

 

[sioxie]

Hi coffee are u sure they werent my last 3 exes???

I seem to have a penchant for pickin men who have had some childhood issues with their mothers from which they havent recovered....they were all the same as u have described above....
sex first was great then they distanced themselves......all were into anal sex as a type of dominance/pain/control scenario.....the more it hurt me the more pleasure they derived but none of them were gay...

they all expected oral from me but wouldnt return the favour citing various fabricated and totally unbelievable reasons....

they all had the same issue....they blamed women, ALL women for their childhood abuse.....and me being the silly naive bunny that i am didnt c it coming...

so im guessin he was in the same league....i think he wasnt gay but confused and had things he really needed to deal with but didnt have the courage or motivation to admit to himself that he had a problem.......unfortunately its easier to go thru life in denial and blaming everyone else.....

 

[Mary Anne PA]

Arfur or marfur

Me no think he gay. Me no think he happy. Ma Ma boy deep down. Somtimes it take many moons to find out about person with head like a man but mind not sure what it is or what it wants maybe have more female inside. Maybe if we could look into future none of us make history or life. That is what makes us peeples. If horse buck you and you fall and fall hard get back on horse. One day you find horse dat is good ride and not buck you to kingdom cum all is good.

 

[Ishca]

Have A Book That Explains Very Well Why And How We Form These Issues From Early Life...the Solution I Think Will Only Come From Communication On His Part But May Help You To Understand Better, And Therefor Have Some Information To Start The Conversation...."i'm Ok, Your O.k" Is The Name Of The Book, I Can't Remember The Author, But A Well Known Title And Should Be Fairly Easy To Find...it Explains The Roles We Adopt In Later Life...including Those That Feel It Necessary To Punish Those They Love....good Luck