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Tips for how to ask for what you want?

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Lads and lasses,

Just wandered back from a booking which didn't turn out how I had hoped, for an all too familiar reason, so looking for some tips to try and remedy the situation.

I'm a really shy guy for the most part, especially when it comes to things like this; Most of the time I sort of nod along to whatever is suggested and enjoy it when things click and get a bit disappointed when they don't (turns out some women are, in fact, not mind readers at all!).

This time was different, the description of the services provided on the site were exactly what I was after (GFE, kiss, cuddle, undress each other etc.), I actually mustered the courage to say that those were the things I was after when we had a chat at the start, that I was after the proper GFE, not really looking to cum, more looking to banish the loneliness for a while.

All seemed well, then I was ushered off into the bathroom for a shower, no contact, no kiss/cuddle/undress. Fair enough, I thought; maybe I wasn't as thorough as I had thought with my S,S & S 15 min before-hand, or perhaps she wasn't keen on my choice of shampoo/deodorant/aftershave. Scrubbed everywhere, removed all trace of shampoo/deodorant/aftershave smells, applied ladies choice of body scrub and deodorant, used provided toothbrush/paste. Wandered out to greet her, she leaves for a couple of min to get changed (what she was wearing was stunning, I saw no reason to deprive me of the opportunity to remove it from her).

Lady came back and then provided almost the complete opposite of what was talked about earlier. Don't get me wrong, it was nice, and I enjoyed it for the most part; I just wish I had said something so I could have enjoyed what I was after.

Part of me thinks that to ask for this is not right, as if the lady advertises as providing a service, if she is not comfortable with doing that with you, that's fair enough (I'm certainly not Fabio), and I definitely don't want to force someone into doing something they are not comfortable with. Having said that, punters are handing over a not inconsiderable amount of money for a service which has been advertised as being available.

At the end of the booking, there had been none of the contact I was after, and hints were missed or ignored. Perhaps I wasn't clear enough when we talked at the start, perhaps I was simply enough to put her off, perhaps she simply wasn't into it, I'll never know.

What's the communities thoughts on this? Any tips for clear communication about the direction for how a booking should go? Tips for me personally on how to tell someone what I want, or to redirect/refocus things mid-booking if they start to drift away from what I was after? Any way to let a lady know that if she doesn't wish to provide a certain advertised service to me, that's fine; I won't take offense, but please don't let me think you will?

Tips for any providers of a real GFE (kissing/cuddling/touching/soft whispers/undressing/body kissing/extended foreplay) ? Really liked Angelina (Angelina Loren in some ads) from private girls, unfortunately she appears to be mostly retired now for a while. Morgan's timing and mine always appear to be at odds.

I think I might stick to a certain redheaded lady (Sera) for a while, and simply enforce the wait until fri/sat when she is available.

Again, mostly happy with the lady I visited. Was interesting, and I enjoyed it for the most part. You were right when you said I looked a bit sad though; This was the reason.

TL; DR? How do I make it known what I want in a booking in a clear and inoffensive way?
 
well it sounds like you did express clearly what you wanted..
as hard as you may find it, you need to speak up and say that you are enjoying whats happening, but could you now do x,y and z.
you are paying for it, so you are entitled to get what you want if it is on offer..
its like ordering steak at a resturant, but they give you chicken..
just be polite about it all..
good luck
 
A good post, and can understand exactly what you mean. In a bordello it is easier, when you check in with reception tell her exactly what you are looking for, and should you choose unwisely will she please guide you to a lady that will provide the service you are looking for.
With a private, and it is your first encounter, arrive with a small chocolate or a single flower, write a little note expecting a wonderful time as discussed or words to that effect, keep it simple and you should have exactly what you are after and she should be enquiring as to your satisfaction.
 
I know exactly what you're saying; I've often felt the same hollow feeling afterwards. It's a dilemma because what you're asking for is something totally fake. You know it and she knows it.
Perhaps the answer is to try to become a regular with one of the girls you think could be more interesting if you actually got to know her a little. Maybe she wouldn't have to act so much and you wouldn't have to pretend either.
So, stick with Sera, or try this girl a couple more times and see if you both loosen up a bit more. I'll look out for your next few posts; hope it all improves.
 
To me it sounds like you did explain yourself well in what you wanted. And if it was all discussed and agreed upon before you arrived, she should have provided the service you paid for! Verbal contract and all. As I don't provide full service I cant make judgement there. But in my personal life I have a lover I visit for a few days a few times a year for him to get a real GFE. Yes we have sex but that is not the big factor for him...it's the company and affection and being looked after that he loves. Personally if a girl cannont fullfill what she has advertised and agreed upon, she shouldn't take you money!
 
I can relate and kick myself for not saying anything when it happens, i guess i am just shy or stupid to take it futher.
Sometimes i lay there and she wont touch any where near the private area and no hj at the end, of course she does not have too, but i really enjoy all that and in the end i walk out wishing i had gone back to one of the palces i know provide at least a happy ending.
On the other hand i like to try new places and and see what they offer.
 
Awww guys! I know you are probably shy, but you really should voice your wishes to the girls if they aren't doing as agreed upon
 
If you are reply to an add that has services that have inspired you to call a particular lady,tell her that and be very specific about what you are looking for and ladies dont put up what you cant put out, you willl get unhappy clients and bad reiviews, not worth it.
The Langtrees website in particular offers you a great avenue to market yourservices and gives you the choice to offer only what you feel comfortable with so there is no reason not provide the service that you say you will.
Shazz
 
a great tip is to ask people on forums what they like and pm a person who enjoys the same service as you, then ask them what women and where they are working that they like. They may be regulars to these girls which means they have an excellent repetoire and repeat business is a sign of success. Even if someone recommends a lady to you, it still means that at least you know you have an advantage of someone else's trial and error instead of being lied to by a women who will tell you anything to make money.

S
 
Of course putting fear aside, tell me what you want in one short, crisp, vivid sentence that will help me instantly connect with what you are looking for. confident people are not afraid to complain. They are happy to ask for help when they need it...
 
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Nice Fella read REVIEW of LEXXXI pay attention to Beshman's post.I had to smile at the SHE WAS TAKING DIRECTIONS MOST OF THE TIME. Beshman sounds like he is a in charge type .
 
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