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er0lflin
Do i have a problem or is it a natural thing
princesssuzie
Foundation Member
No, you don't have a problem but what's natural to some is not always natural to others.
My hubbie gets so turned on when he sees me with another guy/guys and I have found many men to be that way, but also have found that some men just like the fantasy of his wife being with another man and when faced with reality, it's not for them.
Does your wife want to be with another man?
My hubbie gets so turned on when he sees me with another guy/guys and I have found many men to be that way, but also have found that some men just like the fantasy of his wife being with another man and when faced with reality, it's not for them.
Does your wife want to be with another man?
I think we may need a few more details before we comment on that one....
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er0lflin
The thought turns her on but were do i start
princesssuzie
Foundation Member
Does the thought turn you on?
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er0lflin
The sybian has become boring i want the real thing .
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er0lflin
Sorry yes it realy turns me on
Well if you are both into it, then no, definatly don't have a problem 
You should hang around on these forums for a while, plenty of other people into the same thing
Also might be worth you guys checking out LPs club! great fun, great people and no pressure to do anything you dont want to
You should hang around on these forums for a while, plenty of other people into the same thing
Also might be worth you guys checking out LPs club! great fun, great people and no pressure to do anything you dont want to
princesssuzie
Foundation Member
So have you both talked about the possibility or just both had thoughts?
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er0lflin
we have both talked about it but she is a shy person we would have to get to no someone
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er0lflin
I must say she loves her wine and partying
princesssuzie
Foundation Member
So have you thought about attending a Swingers Club to live out your fantasies?
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er0lflin
Yes we have but she is afraid canberra is a small place
swingingstories
Gold Member
Well Hi Errol,
As a relative newcomer to the swinging scene, I thought maybe some of my experiences insights might be helpful.
Firstly, delving into this particular lifestyle (IMO) should never be undertaken lightly or hurriedly. Similarly, if you think that it might help pre-existing marital problems, then you should probably think again. This is not an experiment to throw around aimlessly.
You and your wife would be very well served to make sure you TALK TALK TALK before you even attempt to look at a club or swingers party. My hubby and I had been talking about it for 3 years before we both finally felt it was the right time to broaden out. I'm not suggesting you take that long (we're very thorough people), but definitely pause before acting.
When we first decided that the time was right, we knew our reasons for wanting to find out about it. We had discussed dozens of hypothetical situations as to get the other's honest opinion and from those conversations we came up with a very clear, mutually agreed upon, set of boundaries. No Go areas, we agreed that both partners had to be equally comfortable with the boundaries, if one partner felt icky about something, then it didn't happen and no arguments about it.
Our reasons for wanting to try it out were:
1. Variety is the spice of life (but just like spices too much and you'll vomit)
2. Very limited sexual experience, wanted to complete education (on my
part)
3. Social aspect, somewhere to socialise and conversate with adults
(we don't get out much):
On the first night that we attended a local swingers club in Perth, we telephoned two ads in the paper and was able to discern which one felt more like our vibe. We got dressed up (hubby in a collar, me in see through spanish lace) and headed out. We had already decided before leaving the house that the first occasion was just a look-see. We wanted to see what it was like, whether the people were nice, whether anyone would like us, so we didn't touch on the first visit.
We were surprised to find that not only was the venue very well appointed (not tired looking or grubby), the staff were lovely and very helpful with a guided tour and mini-etiquette lesson when we arrived. The music wasn't too loud, but modern and up tempo (not headache inducing), conversation was still possible.
Now my hubby and I are both BIG (some say HUGE) communicators, so we just started introducing ourselves to people and many of the regulars took the initiative to come up and talk to us too. Funnily enough, even though I was like a woman on a Fact Finding Mission, everyone was very happy to share little bits of their lives and their swinging stories. We got some advice, we got some food for thought, and thoroughly enjoyed ourselves (we did get very horny and ended having sex with each other in a private locked room with mirrors on the wall), didn't leave til closing. (Much to Management dismay, that's become a bit of a habit with us now, we're always getting kicked out with our shoes in our hands.)
The second time we went, about three or four weeks later, almost an exact repeat of the first night. (We had relaxed our boundaries a little in advance) We did have a spa that night and there was some clumsy fondling in the sauna, but that night it was back home still charged and sex at home.
By the third time we went, we felt sufficiently ready to jump in the deep end. We decided that it was open season (other than we knew we wanted to remain in the same room). We had agreed to let each other know where we were at all times and if one of us became uncomfortable we had a signal which was to mean, tactful cessation of current activities. And we also promised to remain aware of our partner's feelings at all times and if need be impose our own boundaries on ourselves out of respect. Interestingly, hubby made a specific choice that he felt was a mark of respect, and independently I made a similar one (and we have both held to them to this day).
It was a huge night that night, Masquerade Ball, and we blew the boundaries out of the water in nuclear fashion. My hubby had a spectacular night and I had an almost spectacular night. Which probably leads to a really important caution: You may think, in theoretical terms, that you will be able to emotionally handle a certain circumstance or dynamic, or that you know exactly how you will feel. I can assure you, you cannot accurately predict it until you are in the situation. Whilst I was completely in agreement with the activities that took place, for the first time I personally found a couple of things challenged me emotionally. However it was extremely positive and I have learned things about myself I could never have learned if I didn't go there.
Since that night we have been fairly regular at the Club every two or three weeks. We have had one experience that was very uncomfortable due to the dynamic of the couple we were with, so I stepped back, and sensing my discomfort hubby stepped back also. We have steadily, but consistently pushed the boundaries. We have had experiences without our partner being present in the room, but present on the premises. Recently we pushed a bit harder and for lack of babysitting decided that one week hubby would go without me, and the following week I would go without him. Well we finally found a boundary that we want to keep. That situation of playing without our partner there felt far too individual and not about us as a couple for us to keep it going. At this time, we've decided to stick together, we're a package deal if someone's interested in one, then they have to accept the other or it's "not tonight thanks, maybe another time" (some of the etiquette we were taught).
We have gone from strength to strength in terms of our personal growth and maturity as a couple and for us it has been a very positive and fun experiment, that we haven't quite finished yet. :toothy2:
This post is already a lightweight paperback, so I'll stop there. I hope at least you now have some food for thought, and I sincerely wish you good luck in your choices.
Love
swingingstories
EX - :newbie:
As a relative newcomer to the swinging scene, I thought maybe some of my experiences insights might be helpful.
Firstly, delving into this particular lifestyle (IMO) should never be undertaken lightly or hurriedly. Similarly, if you think that it might help pre-existing marital problems, then you should probably think again. This is not an experiment to throw around aimlessly.
You and your wife would be very well served to make sure you TALK TALK TALK before you even attempt to look at a club or swingers party. My hubby and I had been talking about it for 3 years before we both finally felt it was the right time to broaden out. I'm not suggesting you take that long (we're very thorough people), but definitely pause before acting.
When we first decided that the time was right, we knew our reasons for wanting to find out about it. We had discussed dozens of hypothetical situations as to get the other's honest opinion and from those conversations we came up with a very clear, mutually agreed upon, set of boundaries. No Go areas, we agreed that both partners had to be equally comfortable with the boundaries, if one partner felt icky about something, then it didn't happen and no arguments about it.
Our reasons for wanting to try it out were:
1. Variety is the spice of life (but just like spices too much and you'll vomit)
2. Very limited sexual experience, wanted to complete education (on my
part)
3. Social aspect, somewhere to socialise and conversate with adults
(we don't get out much):
On the first night that we attended a local swingers club in Perth, we telephoned two ads in the paper and was able to discern which one felt more like our vibe. We got dressed up (hubby in a collar, me in see through spanish lace) and headed out. We had already decided before leaving the house that the first occasion was just a look-see. We wanted to see what it was like, whether the people were nice, whether anyone would like us, so we didn't touch on the first visit.
We were surprised to find that not only was the venue very well appointed (not tired looking or grubby), the staff were lovely and very helpful with a guided tour and mini-etiquette lesson when we arrived. The music wasn't too loud, but modern and up tempo (not headache inducing), conversation was still possible.
Now my hubby and I are both BIG (some say HUGE) communicators, so we just started introducing ourselves to people and many of the regulars took the initiative to come up and talk to us too. Funnily enough, even though I was like a woman on a Fact Finding Mission, everyone was very happy to share little bits of their lives and their swinging stories. We got some advice, we got some food for thought, and thoroughly enjoyed ourselves (we did get very horny and ended having sex with each other in a private locked room with mirrors on the wall), didn't leave til closing. (Much to Management dismay, that's become a bit of a habit with us now, we're always getting kicked out with our shoes in our hands.)
The second time we went, about three or four weeks later, almost an exact repeat of the first night. (We had relaxed our boundaries a little in advance) We did have a spa that night and there was some clumsy fondling in the sauna, but that night it was back home still charged and sex at home.
By the third time we went, we felt sufficiently ready to jump in the deep end. We decided that it was open season (other than we knew we wanted to remain in the same room). We had agreed to let each other know where we were at all times and if one of us became uncomfortable we had a signal which was to mean, tactful cessation of current activities. And we also promised to remain aware of our partner's feelings at all times and if need be impose our own boundaries on ourselves out of respect. Interestingly, hubby made a specific choice that he felt was a mark of respect, and independently I made a similar one (and we have both held to them to this day).
It was a huge night that night, Masquerade Ball, and we blew the boundaries out of the water in nuclear fashion. My hubby had a spectacular night and I had an almost spectacular night. Which probably leads to a really important caution: You may think, in theoretical terms, that you will be able to emotionally handle a certain circumstance or dynamic, or that you know exactly how you will feel. I can assure you, you cannot accurately predict it until you are in the situation. Whilst I was completely in agreement with the activities that took place, for the first time I personally found a couple of things challenged me emotionally. However it was extremely positive and I have learned things about myself I could never have learned if I didn't go there.
Since that night we have been fairly regular at the Club every two or three weeks. We have had one experience that was very uncomfortable due to the dynamic of the couple we were with, so I stepped back, and sensing my discomfort hubby stepped back also. We have steadily, but consistently pushed the boundaries. We have had experiences without our partner being present in the room, but present on the premises. Recently we pushed a bit harder and for lack of babysitting decided that one week hubby would go without me, and the following week I would go without him. Well we finally found a boundary that we want to keep. That situation of playing without our partner there felt far too individual and not about us as a couple for us to keep it going. At this time, we've decided to stick together, we're a package deal if someone's interested in one, then they have to accept the other or it's "not tonight thanks, maybe another time" (some of the etiquette we were taught).
We have gone from strength to strength in terms of our personal growth and maturity as a couple and for us it has been a very positive and fun experiment, that we haven't quite finished yet. :toothy2:
This post is already a lightweight paperback, so I'll stop there. I hope at least you now have some food for thought, and I sincerely wish you good luck in your choices.
Love
swingingstories
EX - :newbie:
swingingstories
Gold Member
See I knew I'd forget something. I know that Canberra doesn't have the population of Perth, but it doesn't matter if you surprisingly run into someone you know. Firstly, if they're there, they can't judge you for being there. Secondly, privacy is still assured, because exposing your involvement would be exposing theirs too.
Personally, all our friends know what we're like, so we don't feel compelled to keep it on the down low. We have however chosen not to share it with our respective families, but at no time are we worried that they will find out, for the reasons mentioned above.
If you have any more questions, please personal message me and we can arrange to chat online.
OK, everyone who knows me you can stop rolling your eyes, I'll stop now.
Personally, all our friends know what we're like, so we don't feel compelled to keep it on the down low. We have however chosen not to share it with our respective families, but at no time are we worried that they will find out, for the reasons mentioned above.
If you have any more questions, please personal message me and we can arrange to chat online.
OK, everyone who knows me you can stop rolling your eyes, I'll stop now.
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er0lflin
Thanks that was great even the wife liked what you had to say' guess i had better start looking
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jizzman85
hi there i depends if u really want it, i have been with another guys wife and he liked it alot he took plenty of pics, but most guys do get jealous. so its up to you
swingingstories
Gold Member
Hey guys,
Just had some more thoughts on this watching your wife get fucked by someone else idea. My hubby doesn't have a jealous bone in his body (sometimes it would actually be nice if he did behave a little protective/possessive) and he really gets extremely turned on by watching me, flirt, tease, play and go "all the way" with other men.
Interestingly, he has to kind of like the guy, if I get come onto by an idiot or someone my husband doesn't like, he's not interested in watching.
I asked him the other day why he thought it was a turn on. After much discussion, he arrived at the idea that he likes to feel in control, and by "allowing" another man to be pleasured by me, he feels like he's saying "yeh, I know how great she is, and you can try her out, but I get to have her all the time". Of course, this is just in his head, he doesn't say it out loud.
In return, I do not really get turned on by watching my husband with another woman, however, when we are both with someone else, but we are looking at each other, that is VERY hot.
Just some personal expressions, that might help you to see, there is no NORMAL, only what feels right in your gut.
Love
swingingstories
Just had some more thoughts on this watching your wife get fucked by someone else idea. My hubby doesn't have a jealous bone in his body (sometimes it would actually be nice if he did behave a little protective/possessive) and he really gets extremely turned on by watching me, flirt, tease, play and go "all the way" with other men.
Interestingly, he has to kind of like the guy, if I get come onto by an idiot or someone my husband doesn't like, he's not interested in watching.
I asked him the other day why he thought it was a turn on. After much discussion, he arrived at the idea that he likes to feel in control, and by "allowing" another man to be pleasured by me, he feels like he's saying "yeh, I know how great she is, and you can try her out, but I get to have her all the time". Of course, this is just in his head, he doesn't say it out loud.
In return, I do not really get turned on by watching my husband with another woman, however, when we are both with someone else, but we are looking at each other, that is VERY hot.
Just some personal expressions, that might help you to see, there is no NORMAL, only what feels right in your gut.
Love
swingingstories
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Sir Stefan
I have enjoyed a wide spectrum of 'relationships'.... I have also bonked the 'otherguys wife/girlfriend...alone or whilst they watched and it has all been good and problem/jealousy free... but i've had a couple of 'live-in-lovers' who enjoyed 'playing' themselves...but got overtley jealous if I engaged in similar play.
So it all boils down to 'horses for courses'.... or 'different strokes for different folks'.... so you need to proceed with care and read the body language/voice print, in order to avoid trouble!....
Go forth, with care .... and enjoy!
So it all boils down to 'horses for courses'.... or 'different strokes for different folks'.... so you need to proceed with care and read the body language/voice print, in order to avoid trouble!....
Go forth, with care .... and enjoy!
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stormline
hi yes i believe for one you all have to click with each other,also get to know each other a little,a few drinks ect not just show up and get led to a bedroom where you are instantly expected to get tuned on and get into it,i guess some guys dont mind that sort of thing but i have been in a fair few mfm 3somes and the best times that i have had was when we all got to know each other first.one time bac on the gold coast a couple i had met at a pub asked me would i be interested and she was a hot women so saying yes was not a problem.so we all decided to make a date to get a motel and have some fun.first off though we went out to a club as she wanted to be fucked in public,but unfortunately there wasnt enough people in the club to do that but she was well dressed for the occasion,so after being there for a few drinks she was hot and just had to walk up the steps way in front of us guys and made sure i did see she had no panties on and a real short skirt.so by the time we got bac to the motel it was a mater of how fast she could get my clothes off,we did everything posible for hours and at times her husband joined in but most of the time was happy just to watch so everybody had a great time.i also had a g/friend who i met in a 3some so that can be a down side to it,you cant be a jealous person or it never works,and as i said thats the risk you are taking sometimes the women ends up liking the guy better than the guy she is with sexually and that can become a drama,so yes you need to be sure its not just a fantasy in your head and you do really want to watch your wife be fuced by another guy.that was the problem i had sirstefan the lady that i ended up with from the 3some was the same we had many 3somes mfm but when it was mfmf she didnt like watching me get another women off but it didnt bother me as i said we had many mfm 3somes but she was not keen on the 4some deal even though she was bi and liked women herself,just not me getting them off.so yes it can be a very good time but it can also lead to some people breaking up..so you have to be both very much in luv with each other for it to work..just for the record the girl that did end up with me was because the guy got very phyisical voilent with her because he got jelous not in front of me,but she came bac to my house with a black eye and he coped a belting from his brother in law as thats where it happened.so there are many sides to it.if yous are totally in love with each other and your not a jealous guy yous should have a goodtime.though have you asked her how would she feel if you had a 4some would she be cool with you with another women???that has been a few experiences i have had and everyone is different so one can only advise you of some of the things that can happen....good luck if you go ahead with it and hope you both enjoy it all as it can make your lovelife very exciting..
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DingleBerries
I would love to see my wife with another man, but it would have to be a purely sexual act and probably a one-time thing. At least the first experience.
Always wanted to be on one end of a "pig on a spit". lol
Always wanted to be on one end of a "pig on a spit". lol
Pink Panther
Foundation Member
A couple of weeks ago me and my wife had our first experience with another guy. We have talked about it for the past year, i told her how i would love to watch her with another guy. and she also said she would like to try.
The other night we were out at a pub with friends having drinks, then got home both very horny so got on the computer hoping to have some web cam fun. After no luck finding people to watch (1.30am) we starting chatting on a adult dating site with some people. We found a guy around our age (28), my wife said his pics looked allright so we ended up inviting him around.
After about half hour of waiting he turned up at our front door. We were both very nervous but had a few drinks in us so we got by.
He came in and sat on the couch and we had a bit of a chat. My wife at this stage sitting between us two guys wearing just a mini skirt and bra. (she is normally a bit shy).
After a bit of a chat she jumped on this guy and started kissing him. She stopped for a second to see if i was allright with it as it was our first time. I told her too keep going as i have never been so excited. Eventually she had all his clothes off and riding his cock in front off me. At this stage i was so horny i had all my clothes off rubbing my hard cock.
Then she told me to put my cock in her mouth while she rode his cock. This went on for a few hours swapping positions. Then he jumped in a cab and went home.
Ever since that night we have had the most/ best sex ever and both can't wait for the next experience.
So if you a both open with each other and trust each other i recommend doing this.
The other night we were out at a pub with friends having drinks, then got home both very horny so got on the computer hoping to have some web cam fun. After no luck finding people to watch (1.30am) we starting chatting on a adult dating site with some people. We found a guy around our age (28), my wife said his pics looked allright so we ended up inviting him around.
After about half hour of waiting he turned up at our front door. We were both very nervous but had a few drinks in us so we got by.
He came in and sat on the couch and we had a bit of a chat. My wife at this stage sitting between us two guys wearing just a mini skirt and bra. (she is normally a bit shy).
After a bit of a chat she jumped on this guy and started kissing him. She stopped for a second to see if i was allright with it as it was our first time. I told her too keep going as i have never been so excited. Eventually she had all his clothes off and riding his cock in front off me. At this stage i was so horny i had all my clothes off rubbing my hard cock.
Then she told me to put my cock in her mouth while she rode his cock. This went on for a few hours swapping positions. Then he jumped in a cab and went home.
Ever since that night we have had the most/ best sex ever and both can't wait for the next experience.
So if you a both open with each other and trust each other i recommend doing this.
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tony08
Gee Pink Panther, you make it sound so easy!!... nothin to it!!!...:icon_tong
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Brad
This has been a long time fantasy for me.
I have asked my wife to try it and unfortunately for me, she won't but I do love to think about it and often picture her being pleasured by another man.
Would love to hear from others with same fantasy.
I have asked my wife to try it and unfortunately for me, she won't but I do love to think about it and often picture her being pleasured by another man.
Would love to hear from others with same fantasy.
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BICOUPLE009
I have read that around 12 percent of men are into their wives being with other men. So it is certainly not that out of the ordinary compared to some things I can think of. BTW, a lot of women like to watch their hubby's with other men!
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Durhamsteve
Hi there
There is nothing unatural in a man being turned on by seeing his wife with another male or males. I have been swinging a long time now, and one of the most enjoyable things that I have found from this is the pleasures to be had from a M/F/M experience.
Ladies generally speaking have greater capacity for pleasure and it is really nice to experience a threesome where all the focus is on pleasuring and meeting the needs of the lady
There is nothing unatural in a man being turned on by seeing his wife with another male or males. I have been swinging a long time now, and one of the most enjoyable things that I have found from this is the pleasures to be had from a M/F/M experience.
Ladies generally speaking have greater capacity for pleasure and it is really nice to experience a threesome where all the focus is on pleasuring and meeting the needs of the lady
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jpcw123
The wife with another guy really turns me on as well. But I was always a bit threatened by what might develop after. I found that the swingers clubs were a great way to satisfy, you go, watch her get fucked and then leave and never see the guy again.
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onec66
Feel free to message me and I will be glad to help.
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kelth73
All I can say is, swingingstories you put pen to paper very well.
Definately food for thought for anyone wanting to explore an area that has not been included in their relationship yet.
Definately food for thought for anyone wanting to explore an area that has not been included in their relationship yet.
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tushytester
Swingingstories you have descried the situation very well...