The Dark Room – Do we dare
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' EdgePlay : The Extreme '
Hands on Training
Please never attempt to do any sort of edge play without hands on training from an expert, doing so is reckless and irresponsible and simply reading an article is NOT enough to start practicing.
Dangers
When practicing edge play it is not a question of if an accident will happen, but when. Be sure to have appropriate first aid and emergency medical gear on hand, as well as potentially have medical expertise present for especially risky activities. A fully charged cell phone to make calls for emergencies is a must and a portable first aid kit and a bottle of liquid stitches are great tools to carry with you as well.
Please keep firmly in mind that there is a lot of misinformation not only on the internet, but also in the community about various forms of edge play to include within circles of those of great reputation and experience within the public kink lifestyle community.
Also keep in mind that if someone you meet did something, had a great time, and didn't immediately die from it and had no visible injury or immediate repercussions, doesn't mean that the activity is safe to do, that you should try it, or that they have any clue what they are talking about. Many injuries sustained from risky activities are both invisible and cumulative and can cause severe failure of various vital organs throughout the body over time. Many people who die from various edge play injuries believed they knew exactly what tiny and mitigated risks they were taking and instead turned out to be quite literally dead wrong. Please do not let yourself become a statistic.
Indemnity
Use of this wiki, especially when regarding edge play, is at user’s own risk. No collectible value is implied or expressed by the authors or staff, or acknowledged by the user. The authors is not responsible for use of the wiki. The authors provide information on techniques for educational purposes only and makes no recommendation for the use of this wiki. The Authors make no guarantee or warranty either express or implied. The Authors are not responsible for any injury resulting from use or misuse of this wiki. By reading this wiki, the user agrees to hold the authors and staff free from all liability and any and all judgments for injury from this wiki, and for any ill or negative effects its use or effects it may cause.
In BDSM, edgeplay is a subjective term for those types of activity (either sexual or mental manipulation) that may be considered to be challenging the conventional or traditional "S.S.C." (safe, sane and consensual) creed; if one is aware of the risks and consequences then the activity(ies) would be considered RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink).
Edgeplay may involve the consequences of potential short or long term harm, or death, exemplified by activities such as breathplay (erotic asphyxiation), fire play, knife play and gunplay, as well as the potential increased risk of disease seroconverting when the opportunity of bodily fluid exchange is present, such as with cutting, bloodplay or barebacking.
The mind set of those involved in the session(s) constitutes what is edgeplay because knowledge of or experience with the activity or the partner(s) may dictate what and to what extent they will act. In the mid-1990s, the Living in Leather convention did not have panels on ageplay or scat because they were considered too extreme based on what people thought as acceptable activity if consensual by the parties involved. By 2000 they were part of what participants could potentially expect if part of their scene(s).
Some activities, such as ageplay or rape roleplay, may be edgy for some and yet to others not at all. The appropriateness of any activity is defined by those involved and is therefore subjective, dependent on one's understanding/agreement(s) in that session(s), experience(s) and acceptable risk level. The only consistent rule is that as long as something is not coercive, deceitful or injurious without prior agreement then who is to determine what is within the realm of experience of those involved. This does exclude how society may react when the outcome of the activity(ies) go beyond what can be handled between the activity partners.
- Activities with any risk of serious or permanent damage or even death.
- Activities that present an increased risk of spreading disease.
- Activities that may present a significant psychological danger.
- Activities that present an increased risk of spreading disease.
- Activities that may present a significant psychological danger.
Hands on Training
Please never attempt to do any sort of edge play without hands on training from an expert, doing so is reckless and irresponsible and simply reading an article is NOT enough to start practicing.
Dangers
When practicing edge play it is not a question of if an accident will happen, but when. Be sure to have appropriate first aid and emergency medical gear on hand, as well as potentially have medical expertise present for especially risky activities. A fully charged cell phone to make calls for emergencies is a must and a portable first aid kit and a bottle of liquid stitches are great tools to carry with you as well.
Please keep firmly in mind that there is a lot of misinformation not only on the internet, but also in the community about various forms of edge play to include within circles of those of great reputation and experience within the public kink lifestyle community.
Also keep in mind that if someone you meet did something, had a great time, and didn't immediately die from it and had no visible injury or immediate repercussions, doesn't mean that the activity is safe to do, that you should try it, or that they have any clue what they are talking about. Many injuries sustained from risky activities are both invisible and cumulative and can cause severe failure of various vital organs throughout the body over time. Many people who die from various edge play injuries believed they knew exactly what tiny and mitigated risks they were taking and instead turned out to be quite literally dead wrong. Please do not let yourself become a statistic.
Indemnity
Use of this wiki, especially when regarding edge play, is at user’s own risk. No collectible value is implied or expressed by the authors or staff, or acknowledged by the user. The authors is not responsible for use of the wiki. The authors provide information on techniques for educational purposes only and makes no recommendation for the use of this wiki. The Authors make no guarantee or warranty either express or implied. The Authors are not responsible for any injury resulting from use or misuse of this wiki. By reading this wiki, the user agrees to hold the authors and staff free from all liability and any and all judgments for injury from this wiki, and for any ill or negative effects its use or effects it may cause.
In BDSM, edgeplay is a subjective term for those types of activity (either sexual or mental manipulation) that may be considered to be challenging the conventional or traditional "S.S.C." (safe, sane and consensual) creed; if one is aware of the risks and consequences then the activity(ies) would be considered RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink).
Edgeplay may involve the consequences of potential short or long term harm, or death, exemplified by activities such as breathplay (erotic asphyxiation), fire play, knife play and gunplay, as well as the potential increased risk of disease seroconverting when the opportunity of bodily fluid exchange is present, such as with cutting, bloodplay or barebacking.
The mind set of those involved in the session(s) constitutes what is edgeplay because knowledge of or experience with the activity or the partner(s) may dictate what and to what extent they will act. In the mid-1990s, the Living in Leather convention did not have panels on ageplay or scat because they were considered too extreme based on what people thought as acceptable activity if consensual by the parties involved. By 2000 they were part of what participants could potentially expect if part of their scene(s).
Some activities, such as ageplay or rape roleplay, may be edgy for some and yet to others not at all. The appropriateness of any activity is defined by those involved and is therefore subjective, dependent on one's understanding/agreement(s) in that session(s), experience(s) and acceptable risk level. The only consistent rule is that as long as something is not coercive, deceitful or injurious without prior agreement then who is to determine what is within the realm of experience of those involved. This does exclude how society may react when the outcome of the activity(ies) go beyond what can be handled between the activity partners.
' Breath-Play '
By KATIE WITZKE
The world of BDSM is a diverse one. One area of it is known as “breath-play.”
Breath-play involves the restriction of oxygen to increase erotic play or to intensify an orgasm or sexual experience.
This can either be achieved through solo-play (autoerotic asphyxiation) or through partner play, in which the submissive is the one who’s airflow is restricted.
This is undoubtedly one of the more controversial areas of BDSM “edge-play” as this is literally a game of placing your life in your partner’s hands.
There are a variety of ways in which people accomplish this: breath-holding, nose-pinching, Kinging or Queening (smothering the face of a partner with the genitals of the other), gas-masks or hoods (usually latex gimp or slave hoods), bags or plastic wrap, re-breather bladders, choking or hanging, compression on chest (corseting), pressure on the trachea or around the neck or pressure on the carotid artery.
Self-induced autoerotic asphyxiation can be accomplished in many of the same ways with variations that don’t require a partner.
Also, there are new types of breath-play that involve breath control in which one partner is directed to become more conscious of their own breathing in a manner that simulates classic breath-play, relying on the psychological impact of hyperventilation or self-controlled breath restriction. Each type of breath-play tends toward a different kink in each partner — some are obviously more dangerous.
This would not be something I myself would ever indulge in, because quite frankly, it’s dangerous. The level of trust and experience required in a partner to not royally screw this up is staggering. This is definitely one of those things where pretty much even the slightest thing gone wrong can cause lasting damage to the brain or spine; in fact, the list of possible injuries is as long as the different types of breath-play. I was actually shocked to find out how many people I know personally who have used breath-play and thought that it was a fairly common thing.
I would never have thought that this would be a common practice for people whom I knew in real life. Especially considering that many of them are pre-med or have first-aid experience. One would assume that anyone with any type of medical experience or knowledge would know how incredibly dangerous this type of behavior would be. The most shocking thing, though, is how badly informed people are about what they are doing.
Jay Wiseman, author of SM 101, has been one of many to create controversy around this subject by facing the facts of just how dangerous this behavior is. Honestly, I wholeheartedly agree with him. There is literally no way in which to do this that does not pose some threat of serious injury. And ANYONE doing it should be aware of that.
This is not something to be done lightly, it requires extensive knowledge of human anatomy and significant self-control during sex to even consider the prospect. Still, that doesn’t make this safe.
Nothing is fail-safe. Most people only hear about the largely publicized deaths from autoerotic asphyxiation, like David Carradine’s. Yet every year hundreds of people think that they have found a safe way to autoerotic asphyxiate… and die. Many people are also arrested every year for accidentally killing their partner during suffocation play.
This is actually one of the very few areas of SM that even health professionals involved in the scene have said that there is no way to perform safely. Considering the variety of areas that SM covers, that says something (and not something good). In truth, there is no way to do breath-play without risking cardiac arrest or brain damage from lack of oxygen. And if you think that this is an area where having a partner limits the danger, then you’re wrong. It is in fact just as dangerous either way. The idea that being with a partner makes this safer is completely illogical. You can take as many safety precautions as you want and this can still potentially become life-threatening.
Many will dispute that they don’t do breath-play to the point of unconsciousness or to a dangerous point.
Well, that is just the point. There are far more problems with this than just unintentional unconsciousness. Unconsciousness is not the problem. It is a symptom and you cannot know when unconsciousness hits until it does. Prolonged use of breath-play can cause permanent damage to the brain, destroying brain cells every time. There is no way of knowing if your partner is about to go into cardiac arrest or if they are beginning to suffer brain damage from lack of oxygen.
Additionally, potential types of cardiac arrest can occur, such as ventricular fibrillation, when premature ventricular contractions occur as extra pacemaker sites are set off within the heart to counteract the lack of oxygen. There is no way to predict these just as you cannot predict any type of heart attack. They can occur at any time with any health history. In the event of cardiac arrest, even with training, the likelihood of saving your partner with CPR is low. So, if they suffer a serious injury from your breath-play, even by the time help would arrive, it would be far too late to save them. Even as little as 15 seconds of pressure on the carotid artery can cause unconsciousness and any longer can induce serious injury.
By KATIE WITZKE
The world of BDSM is a diverse one. One area of it is known as “breath-play.”
Breath-play involves the restriction of oxygen to increase erotic play or to intensify an orgasm or sexual experience.
This can either be achieved through solo-play (autoerotic asphyxiation) or through partner play, in which the submissive is the one who’s airflow is restricted.
This is undoubtedly one of the more controversial areas of BDSM “edge-play” as this is literally a game of placing your life in your partner’s hands.
There are a variety of ways in which people accomplish this: breath-holding, nose-pinching, Kinging or Queening (smothering the face of a partner with the genitals of the other), gas-masks or hoods (usually latex gimp or slave hoods), bags or plastic wrap, re-breather bladders, choking or hanging, compression on chest (corseting), pressure on the trachea or around the neck or pressure on the carotid artery.
Self-induced autoerotic asphyxiation can be accomplished in many of the same ways with variations that don’t require a partner.
Also, there are new types of breath-play that involve breath control in which one partner is directed to become more conscious of their own breathing in a manner that simulates classic breath-play, relying on the psychological impact of hyperventilation or self-controlled breath restriction. Each type of breath-play tends toward a different kink in each partner — some are obviously more dangerous.
This would not be something I myself would ever indulge in, because quite frankly, it’s dangerous. The level of trust and experience required in a partner to not royally screw this up is staggering. This is definitely one of those things where pretty much even the slightest thing gone wrong can cause lasting damage to the brain or spine; in fact, the list of possible injuries is as long as the different types of breath-play. I was actually shocked to find out how many people I know personally who have used breath-play and thought that it was a fairly common thing.
I would never have thought that this would be a common practice for people whom I knew in real life. Especially considering that many of them are pre-med or have first-aid experience. One would assume that anyone with any type of medical experience or knowledge would know how incredibly dangerous this type of behavior would be. The most shocking thing, though, is how badly informed people are about what they are doing.
Jay Wiseman, author of SM 101, has been one of many to create controversy around this subject by facing the facts of just how dangerous this behavior is. Honestly, I wholeheartedly agree with him. There is literally no way in which to do this that does not pose some threat of serious injury. And ANYONE doing it should be aware of that.
This is not something to be done lightly, it requires extensive knowledge of human anatomy and significant self-control during sex to even consider the prospect. Still, that doesn’t make this safe.
Nothing is fail-safe. Most people only hear about the largely publicized deaths from autoerotic asphyxiation, like David Carradine’s. Yet every year hundreds of people think that they have found a safe way to autoerotic asphyxiate… and die. Many people are also arrested every year for accidentally killing their partner during suffocation play.
This is actually one of the very few areas of SM that even health professionals involved in the scene have said that there is no way to perform safely. Considering the variety of areas that SM covers, that says something (and not something good). In truth, there is no way to do breath-play without risking cardiac arrest or brain damage from lack of oxygen. And if you think that this is an area where having a partner limits the danger, then you’re wrong. It is in fact just as dangerous either way. The idea that being with a partner makes this safer is completely illogical. You can take as many safety precautions as you want and this can still potentially become life-threatening.
Many will dispute that they don’t do breath-play to the point of unconsciousness or to a dangerous point.
Well, that is just the point. There are far more problems with this than just unintentional unconsciousness. Unconsciousness is not the problem. It is a symptom and you cannot know when unconsciousness hits until it does. Prolonged use of breath-play can cause permanent damage to the brain, destroying brain cells every time. There is no way of knowing if your partner is about to go into cardiac arrest or if they are beginning to suffer brain damage from lack of oxygen.
Additionally, potential types of cardiac arrest can occur, such as ventricular fibrillation, when premature ventricular contractions occur as extra pacemaker sites are set off within the heart to counteract the lack of oxygen. There is no way to predict these just as you cannot predict any type of heart attack. They can occur at any time with any health history. In the event of cardiac arrest, even with training, the likelihood of saving your partner with CPR is low. So, if they suffer a serious injury from your breath-play, even by the time help would arrive, it would be far too late to save them. Even as little as 15 seconds of pressure on the carotid artery can cause unconsciousness and any longer can induce serious injury.