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I have a friend whom is in a financial predicament at the moment. She has a partner and asked my opinion on this. She wants to do a few private jobs here and there to take the financial strain off their relationship but doesn't want her partner to know how. Is this wrong?
 
What level of financial strife? Hundreds, thousands, tens of thousands? Has she considered letting out a room? Seeing a bank? Only reason I say this is that it appears that if found out, she could end up ending everything in that relationship. Also might be a good idea to see what started the financial strain - not for a blame game but to also resolve the problem if it's gambling or whatever.
 
Babe only your friend can make that decision. I hope she has a good friend to talk too. A friend that will be a good shoulder to lean on. Give her a big hug and tell her you are there for her no matter what her decision.
 
it is not about right or wrong , its about what will happen if partner finds out and he will some time in the future . :-) how will you defend your decision ? this is what you need to think about .

John ,
 
I would never recommend doing it behind your partners back. Everything always comes out.
But in the end it's her decision and only she can decide. If she is going to do it, do it safely.
 
It's a tough one, on one hand I'd want my partner to be as honest about everything as I am. On the other hand, I think that most guys that don't understand the industry could cope with the idea of their partner being a w/l even for a short time. It really is a tough thing to decide, I hope it works out for her whichever way she chooses.
 
Ahoy;- off course it isnt, this situation is common you always here of newbie W/L who need a bit of cash, Hah what about all the Uni students out there, its break time;- the cracker adds have increased by 30%, Cheers I need some Rum.

Tania said:
I have a friend whom is in a financial predicament at the moment. She has a partner and asked my opinion on this. She wants to do a few private jobs here and there to take the financial strain off their relationship but doesn't want her partner to know how. Is this wrong?
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If she is prepared for her partner to find out at some time or other and she can kind of predict how he will take it....that will give her the answer..nothing in this life goes unnoticed...eventually at some point or other he will find out....
 
From what I gather; prostitution isn't mostly an act where you just lie back and spread your legs. Do you think your friend is mentally prepared to go ahead with it?

All those strange men and women - some of whom you wouldn't sleep with in a million years but have to. It can be quite traumatic I've been told.
 
If I was the partner and I found out, I'd kick her out so fast she wouldn't know what happened.

Destination Dumpsville.
 
For one it will be a relationship wrecker if she doesn't consult with her partner and he found out later. So relieving temporary financial issues with a time bomb is usually unwise. You can always make sacrifices such as not having the usual entertainment that costs money etc...but to go to one end of the scale will probably create more problems for them.
 
Tania said:
I have a friend whom is in a financial predicament at the moment. She has a partner and asked my opinion on this. She wants to do a few private jobs here and there to take the financial strain off their relationship but doesn't want her partner to know how. Is this wrong?
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Tell her to pay down debt . and don't get caught.
 
An obscene four letter word ending in K.... W##k.

That s##t will kill you Mr B so be careful.
 
The humourist in me wonders about the scenario where he rings up for a bit on the side with a hot private lady and finds himself talking to his girlfriend...........

The practical accounting brain says they both need to work out why they are in a financial bind and address the causes before embarking on schemes to get out of the hole they are in. If it involves debts for heaven's sake tell her to go and talk to the creditor(s) and work out a plan to pay them off over time. Most people are reasonable, even Banks and the Tax Office, but unless you front up and deal honestly with them they will just hound you into bankruptcy.

Unless the cause of the trouble is addressed seeking "easy" money won't help in the long term.
 
Another thing to consider is once youre in this business its very hard to turn your back on it. The money is a hard thing to walk away from. If she did it she should have a target and stick to it and walk away.
 
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