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Question for blokes who’s been sugar daddys

Wooper

Wooper

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Pretty sure I’ve asked this before but asking again.

So charring with a bloke I know who’s recently divorced and I made the joke about becoming a sugar daddy and he kinda said the idea is actually appealing but he has no idea how to go by it and also the kinda culture and what’s expected with the set up.

So is there kinda like base rules or “common” things go go with the arrangement ?

Like is intimacy and sex not actually a core part of the arrangement and something that’s very much an extra thing?

Obviously it’s all consent but like is the basic set up generally a paid gf service where sex is expected but more natural rather than more an escort thing ?
 
A couple of general Rules of Thumb.
1. Start the way you intend to finish - ie make it very clear that intimacy/sex is a definite requirement of the arrangement.
2. Keep a commercial mindset - it is transactional so don't get sucked in to emotional stories. You are paying to get your wants fulfilled.
3. Economics 101 - supply and demand. Your money is in demand. There is a big supply of willing Sugar Babies
4. Have fun!
 
Mine happened by accident ...she worked in a parlour and we ended up in an arrangement outside of her work.
Its not a formal "arrangement" and actually is more in my favour and she hasn't asked for any set retainer , I just help her out when she needs it and we have an ongoing intense FBuddy relationship. She's as hot as fuck and years younger than me (like 18 years) so who am I to complain. She also has a boyfriend which I am cool with. I know its not going to lead anywhere so I am just enjoying the ride for now.
The biggest hurdle as HR alluded to above is letting emotion get involved. Harder to do than say but if emotion gets involved it can get pear shaped very quickly. We both know where it stands ...for now.
I would recommend it but only if its something than has grown organically as I think then youre less likely to be taken for a ride.
 
Yeh him getting emotionally attached isn’t the issue it’s more of understanding the kinda culture behind it so he doesn’t assume that sex is part of it if it isn’t inherently
 
HR Muffnstuff said:
A couple of general Rules of Thumb.
1. Start the way you intend to finish - ie make it very clear that intimacy/sex is a definite requirement of the arrangement.
2. Keep a commercial mindset - it is transactional so don't get sucked in to emotional stories. You are paying to get your wants fulfilled.
3. Economics 101 - supply and demand. Your money is in demand. There is a big supply of willing Sugar Babies
4. Have fun!
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Agree with this. Show kindness and respect, be fun and make them cum too and it works well. I have had many sugar babes over the years and had a great time!!
 
Wooper said:
Yeh him getting emotionally attached isn’t the issue it’s more of understanding the kinda culture behind it so he doesn’t assume that sex is part of it if it isn’t inherently
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Thats why I think if its something that has developed organically then its more like having a FBuddy you support.....there is mutual respect and understanding from.the start
 
Serpico09 said:
Thats why I think if its something that has developed organically then its more like having a FBuddy you support.....there is mutual respect and understanding from.the start
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Yeh that’s all just normal being a decent human being stuff.

Talking more along the lines of like when you try new AMP where’s you don’t know if they do extras or not so do you take off or leave on underwear till they say it’s ok, understanding by how they massage before asking for extras, that kinda stuff.

Like there’s a lot of labels in the sex industry and you don’t really understand what they are till you start really looking into it.

Like example sugar baby might typically be someone who will only talk to you via phone and maybe catch up only for little dates where someone who’s a sugar baby might say they’re more a sugar honey where it’s more so the more you do for me the “more” I do for you kinda vibe as they don’t wanna be perceived as an escort as such.
If you follow my meanings
 
Wooper said:
Yeh that’s all just normal being a decent human being stuff.

Talking more along the lines of like when you try new AMP where’s you don’t know if they do extras or not so do you take off or leave on underwear till they say it’s ok, understanding by how they massage before asking for extras, that kinda stuff.

Like there’s a lot of labels in the sex industry and you don’t really understand what they are till you start really looking into it.

Like example sugar baby might typically be someone who will only talk to you via phone and maybe catch up only for little dates where someone who’s a sugar baby might say they’re more a sugar honey where it’s more so the more you do for me the “more” I do for you kinda vibe as they don’t wanna be perceived as an escort as such.
If you follow my meanings
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These are all good questions and in my experience talking to guys who do the sugar daddy thing, the answers are highly variable. Similar to AMPS in that way where there are WLs who are good, giving, and game for anything and some who are clock watchers who barely disguise their contempt for you.

Some sugar babies just like the reliable retainer and are willing to meet multiple times a week for sex and dates whereas others are more like paid, bitchy, girlfriends who demand extra payment for anything other than bar meetups. In the latter case I really can’t understand why any guys go for it but desperate simping knows no bounds I guess.

The best thing for your friend to do is open an account on seeking and just be really upfront about what he wants and what he can provide. It’ll be a negotiation to figure it all out and there’s always a bit of turnover.
 
Be born Female/Intelligent/good looking and the world is your oyster no matter what you do men for some reason are so happy to part with cash to give to you, say you need the latest quilted Chanel Bag and some Muppet will spring for it, knowing full well that next month the same lady will cry she needs some Tiffany Diamond ear rings and guess what he springs for it again... Men can build complex things, yet when it comes to a beautiful woman all sensibility goes out the window, its like a KFC advert... "Take my money"....

Is it the Vulva/Tits/ass what makes men melt so freaking easy... its like shooting fish into a barrel.
 
TotalGold said:
These are all good questions and in my experience talking to guys who do the sugar daddy thing, the answers are highly variable. Similar to AMPS in that way where there are WLs who are good, giving, and game for anything and some who are clock watchers who barely disguise their contempt for you.

Some sugar babies just like the reliable retainer and are willing to meet multiple times a week for sex and dates whereas others are more like paid, bitchy, girlfriends who demand extra payment for anything other than bar meetups. In the latter case I really can’t understand why any guys go for it but desperate simping knows no bounds I guess.

The best thing for your friend to do is open an account on seeking and just be really upfront about what he wants and what he can provide. It’ll be a negotiation to figure it all out and there’s always a bit of turnover.
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It's easy to spot the gold diggers mate. Don't go for the Barbie blondes, they will expect the world and be miffed that you expected something in return. Go for the 35 - 40 age range, ask pertinent questions, be discerning. It's not rocket science, if I can navigate it successfully anyone can :-)
 
TotalGold said:
These are all good questions and in my experience talking to guys who do the sugar daddy thing, the answers are highly variable. Similar to AMPS in that way where there are WLs who are good, giving, and game for anything and some who are clock watchers who barely disguise their contempt for you.

Some sugar babies just like the reliable retainer and are willing to meet multiple times a week for sex and dates whereas others are more like paid, bitchy, girlfriends who demand extra payment for anything other than bar meetups. In the latter case I really can’t understand why any guys go for it but desperate simping knows no bounds I guess.

The best thing for your friend to do is open an account on seeking and just be really upfront about what he wants and what he can provide. It’ll be a negotiation to figure it all out and there’s always a bit of turnover.
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He’s recently divorced and has been overseas where he’s met some girls where being paid is obviously what they want but they “work” for it and having a pretty young thing around as a bit of a mate or FWB vibe has been entertaining for him, but here unless you really come across someone who’s open to that by chance outside of some these apps there really isn’t a way to find people organic but overseas there’s basically a culture that’s easy to understand and without it feeling as transactional where here he doesn’t know if there’s so much a culture with it, he’s tried a couple escorts and just isn’t a fan, very time gated and this feeling of them constantly realising money and without getting further in the dog house went to a certain brothel and couldn’t believe how unsexual a brothel felt as it was so fake and the ladies felt like pop up adds with constant talk of money
 
Wooper said:
He’s recently divorced and has been overseas where he’s met some girls where being paid is obviously what they want but they “work” for it and having a pretty young thing around as a bit of a mate or FWB vibe has been entertaining for him, but here unless you really come across someone who’s open to that by chance outside of some these apps there really isn’t a way to find people organic but overseas there’s basically a culture that’s easy to understand and without it feeling as transactional where here he doesn’t know if there’s so much a culture with it, he’s tried a couple escorts and just isn’t a fan, very time gated and this feeling of them constantly realising money and without getting further in the dog house went to a certain brothel and couldn’t believe how unsexual a brothel felt as it was so fake and the ladies felt like pop up adds with constant talk of money
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Men really are the weaker sex..... Men maybe superior in physical strength, but that is where it ends, other than that, Women truly are the better creature..

A creature so sweet and innocent looking has so much power/control/influence over men its beyond belief..
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Phoebe said:
Men really are the weaker sex..... Men maybe superior in physical strength, but that is where it ends, other than that, Women truly are the better creature..

A creature so sweet and innocent looking has so much power/control/influence over men its beyond belief.. View attachment 240656
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Yeh I dint understand what you’re blabbering on about here as it’s got nothing to do with what I’m asking
 
Sugar Daddy normally comes to kink/fetish/desire to give money for the joy of another person. A little hard to explain but there are just some guys out there that are happy to help a girl pay rent or buy the new shoes and will simply take the thank you or a photo of her wearing said shoes.

Its like intimacy through being a provider or being needed.
As with anything communicating expectations and boundaries is paramount.
 
Madam Media said:
Sugar Daddy normally comes to kink/fetish/desire to give money for the joy of another person. A little hard to explain but there are just some guys out there that are happy to help a girl pay rent or buy the new shoes and will simply take the thank you or a photo of her wearing said shoes.

Its like intimacy through being a provider or being needed.
As with anything communicating expectations and boundaries is paramount.
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