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Nerves...or? (First-time)

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So i decided it was time, im a pretty outgoing kinda guy, but just haven't really met anyone in my personal life that has lead to anything more than just being friends, so i decided to visit a WL, and get "it" and the whole stigma, over with. did all the research you could do (part of which lead me here) anyway, found one that interested me, booked her, and made the visit, from the moment of booking, to the moment of stepping through the door, i had butterflys/nerves etc, she was really accommodating, very attractive etc, but after doing the usual (so i read) shower thing, i laid down, and she gave me a bj, or at least, it would have been, if i could actually sustain any more than a semi-errection, now the weird thing is, i've never had an issue with masturbation, ie. can get & stay rock-solid so to speak, porn does it for me, hell i've even had a lap dance that did it pretty well for me, but when the show's on, and i've got an incredibly hot, incredibly naked woman sucking on it, it's a no show, got semi, but nothing to write home about, tried all sorts of things (cowgirl, hj, more bj, kissing etc), but just couldn't keep it up to what it normally would be. so my question's are,

Is it just because it was my first time?, i've read that's a possibility, and defiantly nerves can't be a good thing.. (my legs kinda feel like jelly now?)

Or is it something i should book in & see a doctor about?, because i really don't want it happening again, even tho the WL's probably see it all the time, and she was fantastic about it, i really feel i owe it to her (well i'd like to see her again), let alone myself to be able to enjoy sex like any other normal human being.

Regards,
 
Sounds like nerves to me.

Similiar thing happened to me before a couple of times. I was with this stunner. Perfect in every way but made me so nervous that I couldn't keep it up. I was humiliated but she was pretty good about it.

Forget the doc and go back and see her. You know what to expect so it'll be much easier this time round.

No different to starting a new job. That first day, walking through the doors can be scary but the next day it's much easier.
 
Yeh it's i guess one of those things, unfortunately said WL is going away for a few weeks i think so i won't be able to hop straight back on it, or at least not with that particular WL, wondering if the second time, regardless of whom it's with will work out better?
 
It might be more successful but the advantage of the girl you saw was that you know her, you know her place, what to expect in the service so you can enjoy it more without being so nervous.

Few weeks is nothing to wait when you'd waited 20 odd years
 
Yeh, very good points, like you said waited this long, can't hurt to wait some more :)
 
Connected said:
Yeh, very good points, like you said waited this long, can't hurt to wait some more :)
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hey connected i think it was just a nerve ,you will be alright next time with the same w/l or any other w/l O0 xxxxxtake care


chanel
 
Yep, Connected,
I agree with what everyone else has said, just a nerve thing and you'll find the more you worry or think about it, the harder it will be to get over it, so...ur just like any other guy. Don't stress about it and just relax and enjoy!

When my ex-husband and I first got together he couldn't get more than a semi for the first dozen times we tried...I must admit that I thought after that long that i'd got a dud, but, eventually he came to the party...and what a party it was! So, moral of the story...it happens to the best and worst of men, nothing to be worried about, I'm sure the next time will be a raging success!

Lisa xxx
 
Nerves darling.......only nerves nothing wrong with you otherwise. I believe a lot of guys think that they have to "over perform" because they consider us the "mistesses" of the trade........hmmmmmm.........
I had a lot of guys who were so focused to make me cum that they totally forgot to relax and just let it happen to them.
Most important thing in the room for a client: you guys don't have to prove anything !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! second thing: just relax and take it easy. Only because you are paying doesn't change the fact that it is between a male and a female (usually).....so pretty standard. Even we are only human and we enjoy a relaxed atmosphere as much as you guys.
So I hope you try again and I am sure the next time will be more relaxed.:thumbsup:
R.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
 
Yep nerves.

Best to talk & have a drink with the girl for a while, dont need to get straight to it. Get Conected so to speak.

If this keeps happening after a number of visits then its not nerves and we are all wrong. But you can get help for that one.

Maybe try a few of the rub and tug places it may help get ride of those nerves.
 
Just get back on the horse.. so to speak. Happens to best of us for no good reason, usually at pretty awful times but just get comfortable and your larry king will be ready to dance in no time.
 
:thumbsup:Just get back on the horse.. so to speak. Happens to best of us for no good reason, usually at pretty awful times but just get comfortable and your larry king will be ready to dance in no time.Link is broken so has been removed
 
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cheers for all the advice/support guys & ladys :) yeh will give it another shot hopefully soon... just gotta wait for payday haha banks looking a bit sad at the mo.
 
Just a case of more practice makes perfect. Initially when i first starting punting i was also very shy and reserved and came easily but once you do it regularly it becomes really a non event.

Now i just whip off my clothes and l'm not the least bit embarrassed though sometimes i have a hard time getting wood when i am REALLY not attracted to the girl. Happened 4 ~5 times so far. In fact the real problem sometimes is taking too long to cum especially if the pussy is very loose. A tight pussy gets me everytime though :)
 
Happened to me when I did that for the first time. Don't worry you'll get over it as I did.
 
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